OK everyone, basically the girl of my dreams broke up with me a while ago. We’re still both in high school. What happened is actually rather trivial.
Basically my problem was that I was far too nice to her from the very start, never forcing her into anything and always trying to be as sweet as possible (think Bruno Mars) xD eventually this killed the love she felt for me and one day she told me she didn’t we were meant for each other but she would still like to be friends.
It tore me apart to hear this from the girl I would give everything for and I haven’t been myself for a while now…
Of course I wasn’t experienced in things like this and I made the mistake of playing the doormat, trying to be nice but constantly being depressed and asking her to come back. I didn’t leave her alone and eventually she had enough. I realized my mistake too late and now we aren’t even friends and she doesn’t seem to care at all. She has stopped talking to me altogether and even blocked me on facebook. (She doesn’t hate me but shes avoiding me whenever it’s possible)
Now I realize my mistakes and I’m leaving her alone for a while. Chances are she won’t get herself into another relationship anytime soon but nevertheless I’m worried I may have done permanent damage to any leftover feelings she may have for me. I’m cutting off all contact with her and taking the time to make myself a more attractive person. I’m also going to give the impression that I’ve moved on even though I still love her.
I’m wondering if this will work at all considering all thats already happened. People tend to want what the can’t have but I’m just extremely unsure whether I’ve killed every bit of affection or care she has for me. Someone please help. Thanks

Tags: affection, attractive person, bruno, Cutting, doormat, feelings, Friends, girl of my dreams, love, Love Help, mistake, permanent damage, relationship, taking the time

diamondcity34 Posted on Jun 12, 2010 9:41 AM

I am writing today because I am the victium of a DL brotha(Down Low), I am at the point now where i am lost and I feeling i’m crazy..well at least me is making me feel that way..We have been married for 3 and half years now..and we have 2 kids together..my husband is in the national guard and currently is serving his second term in Iraq. I served in the military as well but got out to jet married and have a family. I should have known something was up when everytime i would cheat on him when we were dating..he always took me back and said that he loved me soo much and couldnt see me not being in his life..we were high school sweethearts, forgot to mention..anyways when i was stationed in germany which was his first tour in Iraq we were suppose to get married since then..but for some reason i didnt feel right about the situation and i turned him down..i could never put my finger on it as of what it was..anyways that was my last tour and i got out of the military..came back home and he would always push the issue of us getting married..so then we just got married with the justice of peace..honestly i was pressured to marry him by family members and all…so i did it…his mother never even came!!!, said that she had to work!!..wow, A MOTHER KNOWS HER CHILD..but it still never dawned on me..anyways a couple months later i was preganant with his first my second child!, while i was preganant he neva showed no affection..and so i fussed and fussed on the issue and moved out and went my own way..got me an apartment and all…

Anyways ima skip some things cause i will be typing forever..My husband is currently on a tour in Iraq at the moment and I heard him having sex with another guy on the phone..my heart dropped, I was trembling, shaking and all..shocked out this world..I kept on listening and he was telling this guy that he loved him..and the guy was screaming his first name!!!..So of course I started screaming and going off on him..and he never said a word..I hung up on him and he never called back til 2 days later!…during that time, i was lost..my world had just came down right there in my face..He finally called back and said look i know that you heard things but jus ignore it!!!..now u know if i coulda stick my hand throu that phone..lets jus say it wouldnt be nice!..Anways through all this yes he has desires of being with me..he told me he felt that way since high school..its like i have soo many questions and he’ll tell me little things like yeah i have been sleeping with men..then turn around and say he lied!!, He constantly does things like that to me…and its breaking my heart..he dont even tell me he loves me anymore..we only had sex twice before he left..he shows me no affection and says when he gets back that he will work on that..??my take on that is how do you have to work on something that is natural when u love someone!!…His ring he doesnt even wear his ring…I asked him if he had it and he said yes and when i asked him to see it, he refused to show it to me!!!…and then the next day he apologized and showed me a ring that is not even the same ring that i purchased for him!!!..crushed me again…he is always going to the gym at 10:30pm!!im like wth!!..he sleeps with his back faced me!!..He doesnt even ask about the kids!, He lies, and keeps secrets..

*And he laughs like its amusing to him!, and brushes me off…The killing part of it all is that he is sleeping with his roomate!!…so he is living the life out there..wrk once a week…and watch dvd’s all day..he never sleeps and i dont understand that..I ask him to show me his d**k and refuses..and when he does it on the hard!!! and all shiny!!! wth!!…i ask him why is that like that..and he makes up lies and i see it in his face that he is lieing!!! It’s like when we talk its like he twists it on me!, like i can ask him well do you want a divorce and he tells me well thats what you want so do it..i dont want it but if thats what you want then thats on you!!, like he does things like that!! and laughs like its funni!!..*

HELP ME WHAT AM I TO DO!!??

Tags: affection, apartment, dl, family members, germany, half years, having sex, heart, high school sweethearts, iraq, justice of peace, Lost, national guard, neva, Reason, second term, Typing, Wow

I’m 19 and my boyfriends 21.
We’ve been together for 2 years and 10 months.
He was so sweet in the begining and fun, but after about a year and a half of dating things changed. He wont hold my hand or hug or kiss me in front of his friends or at partys or just in public. And hes very jealous now, i don’t know what i can do to get him to show me more affection and to make our relationsip great and exciting again

Tags: 10 months, affection, begining, Boyfriends, kiss, Show Me Love

I broke up with him because I just felt like he didn’t want to be bothered. I wasn’t sure if I should have but idk. When I brought this up to him (when I was only on the verge of breaking up with him) he said he didnt mean to act that way and i know he had priorities that should always come before a girl. I honestly can understand where he is coming from because I would never put a boy first on my list unless he was dying or we were "in love" or something but at least I gave him some of my time.
After I broke up with him my friend called him and asked him all types of stuff about our break up. (I know it wasnt very mature of me to have her do that but I knew he would tell her.) So anyways this is how the converstaion went:
My friend: What happened with you and?
Him: She dumped me. (He said it quick and kind of with attitude)
My friend: Why?
-Idk. I didnt even bother to ask. I was tired.
-Oh do you think yall are gonna get back together this summer?
-Idk. Maybe. No. I dont have enough time for gf. I have (listed all of his activities and then was like…) Im plannin on messin around anyways.(Okay idk if he was saying this because he was angry or what but it tore me up!)
-What about when school starts again?
-yea. maybe. idk. How do u know I wont go into the year with a gf already?! (He was rude about it. 4real!)
(then she pops the question)
-Do you still like her?
(Okay i coulda swore he said no. But she claims he said yeah. I doubt it. and that was the end of the conversation)
First I was convinced that I didnt need him but after sitting back and taking a look back at everything that happened (no im not saying that i need him) I realize how childish I was. Plus I didnt even know him that well. Okay I know thats not the best way to start a relationship but we met in school like everyone else I’ve ever dated. I just didnt know him that well to expect so much out of him (like deep conversations about life, affection, and a whole lotta stuff that i wasnt gonna get right off the bat). But thats the thing for some strange, unknown reason I still like him. He told me the things he was going through at home and pretty much with his life and honestly I wanted to cry for him. It was so sad. And sometimes I sit and think maybe he was just going through alot and wasnt really worried about a gf..maybe it was just his hormones or something kickin in. Or maybe he just didnt trust me enough to open up to me, which is also understandable. I dont plan on goin back out with him or anything but i dont want him dating anyone…esp someone i know. Is that weird? Maybe it’s just because I feel like the guys that have tried to tlk to me are not of my interest u know? they dont fit me. But yeah could you please tell me somethin.

Tags: affection, attitude, Break Up, conversations, converstaion, gf, idk, lotta stuff, love quot, Priorities, relationship, verge

We were together for 5 1/2 yrs, lived together for 3. Have been broken up for 7 wks now today. Im so hurt analyzing eveything that went wrong and how we took each other for granted but i still feel like i love him and am willing to get past everything and try again. However, he is not sure he still loves me. He still cares deeply for me and just the other day he text me when he woke up in the morning.

" I still care about u so much ____. This is hard as he** on me to right now!!! i feel like theres 2 sides to me one to just wake up and feel deeply in love with you!!!! N the other to just move on!!!"

I cant let it go, i want to fix what went wrong, we just lost the affection towards each other. He just seems to focus on what went wrong!He says to just live our lifes and if were meant to be then we will be. He says not to force anything to happen. Its so hard on me becuase he is somehow always going to be in my life. ( cousin married to his brother)

I have 2 options: One part of me wants to try and show him how much i care and show him affection again, so that he can love me the same way again.
But another part of me wants to distance myself from him and just wait and see what will happen, maybe he will realize that he wants to be with me, but im scared that he will realize life is better without me!!

Please help any suggestions on what i should do??

Tags: 2 sides, affection, brother, cousin, eveything, Fall In Love, wks