this may look long but its easy to understand..i have been seeing this guy for about three weeks.. we went to a party, went to the movies, and he has met my parents. I do not sleep with guys unless they are my boyfriend, and have only slept with 1 person, and he knows this. the problem is, he has a reputation as a player, and about a week before we started meeting up he was still seeing another girl(he isnt anymore). his best friend told me that he says im beautiful..and also he messages me first in the morning and before sleeping. he is also overseas at the moment and still messages me even though its expensive and i said not to.

today, i was like "i think i figured you out..your ex screwed up your trust, thats why you date so many girls, coz deep inside youre scared tht if you stay with them that they will do the same thing your ex did. and you date a girl and then you find a better one, but you still tlk to the other one because they like you so much that you can go back to them whenever you want, which is fun to do. and mainly the reason you do this is coz a. you have trust issues, and b. you love the attention girls give you. i think were very similar, except you havent tried to do anything with me because you have respect for me, coz you know i wont drop my pants for you in a second.. and you know that i can easily stop talking to you, coz i dont have the same obsession with you unlike others. so keep being interesting " and he said "Yeah my ex and the trust thing is right, but the reason i struggle to commit to girls is because i dont respect them after what my ex did, and how can you date someone if you dont respect them? before my ex i wasnt like this at all!"

if I told him i only sleep with boyfriends and he is still seeing me, does that mean he likes me? is he just wanting a fling with me? this coming saturday we are going to a party together.. is there anything i should do? Thanks heaps.

Tags: best friend, Boyfriends, Fling, girls, going to a party, heaps, love, obsession, parents, reputation, sleep, Tht, trust issues

Hi,
I was very close to a friend, became mad about him and was rejected badly!
We stayed friends for 5 years, then he decided he was interested we went out for a while but months later went on hols with friends where i found out he didnt really have those feelings at all. We fell out for a year.
Then we became friends again, moved in together as i needed a new tenant and he needed to move out, and its been brilliant. We live together very well, it works well for both of us.
But we’ve never brought anyone else home. And i know if he ever did, as much as i’d like to think i would be civil i know i would have a heart attack and probably move out on the spot.
However ive lived with a few people and he is by the far the easiest best tenant ever so my old feelings are being a nuisance, and i dont let myself ever think about it, but every time he comes home i stop breathing trying to hear that hes definetely alone until i can breathe again.
Is this really bad? Other than this, i’m not a bunny boiler or neurotic or jealous type of girl, never was even as a gf, so thats why im half laughing at this but its bothering me though.
I mean my heart nearly stops if i think he has someone else in his room even though he never does anyway. I can’t go out with him, he has no romantic feelings for me at all thats why i broke up with him. He was horrible in the end and i was devastated for months but every day i missed him badly, not as a boyfriend, but i missed his company as a best friend, and thats why i thought living together would be ok, i thought theres no way i’ll be stupid enough to fall for him again when i do not want him as a b/f.
I just never want to know, see or hear him with another girl.. thats all….
On the other hand, he wouldn’t blink if i brought a man back one night, but i wouldnt do it though with him in the next room.. i couldn’t.

Tags: best friend, bunny boiler, definetely, feelings, Friends, gf, heart attack, hols, Housemate, jealous type, love, nuisance, old feelings, romantic feelings, type of girl

call me crazy but i have a problem. my boyfriend and I were really good friends. then we started going out. and after around 3 months he told my best friend that he loved me. and i already knew i loved him. and at the 4th month we had our first kiss. the reason why he waited so long is because he said he wanted to go slow and not rush things because he didnt want to loose me. its now 6 months that we have been together. 2 of my friends think ever since we started going out we both have changed, and his bestfriend wants us to break up because of it. also in the last month too was kind of hard for me: his parents got in the way of our relationship, he flirted with this girl like crazy right infront of my eyes, & because he had done something that almost ruined our relationship totally. I told him it would be awhile before i trusted him again when it happened. recently though he hasnt talked to me as much on the phone and he has stopped texting me. alot of girls seem to like him too. he tellls me he loves me and all but can i really believe it? and worse i really am in love with him. i am so lost and confused and its even worse to think about if he might break up with me because hes getting tired of us or something. and i know that if he is he really doesnt love me at all. so i figured if i could make him love me more or even get him to love me or care about me more maybe i could fix everything. because i dont want to just sit around and iqnore all that could be coming, especially if i had a chance to fix it or change it. So tell me what should i do?

Tags: amp, best friend, bestfriend, Fall In Love, first kiss, girls, good friends, infront, kiss, love, parents, relationship, rush

My husband & i have been married for about 1 year & 6 months.Bt we have been together for 3 years. I got married when i was 17 & he was 20.Im 18 almost 19 now & he’s 21.We dont have children.And well i feel as if im not "in love" with him anymore.I love him & always will bt im not "in love" he’s been a good husband although before we got married he cheated on me so many times & he was abusive.& i thought i had gotten over that.But i haven’t.it still hurts what he did & i can’t trust him ive tried for over a year & i just can’t.& it has caused a lot of problems between me & him.He’s not abusive no more & hasn’t cheated bt when he promises me that he will never do that again i just dont believe him.& lately the sex is boring.i dnt even want to have sex with him at all.& also iv been talkn to someone new.He makes me feel so good inside.I can talk to him about anything.& i just dont have that with my husband.i have never considered him "my best friend" he is very controlsive & so i tend to do things behind his back.I dont want to hurt him if i do choose to leave him bt i dont want to regret it neither.Plz Help. idk if its just because im young & want to experience something new or if im just really not in love with my husband anymore.

Tags: 3 years, best friend, hasn, love quot, Promises, T Amp

my ex boyfriend just recently broke up with me to go with another girl.now we have naw naw im not going to say all that its a looooooooong story.now im going to tell wat just recently recently happened.i asked him to be ma friend and he kept saying no so i kept on asking him until i said he’s not going to give in.so like some days after that .he called so i thought he was over my best friend’s house alexis and she was calling me from his phone.but it was him.so he said he was sorry for ignoring ma texts and calls.and he apologized some more.then he said do i accept hisz apology and i did.so then we were friends.then some days after that that a few days ago or a week ago i asked him did he tell my friend jasmine wat me and him did.so his friend nick said no this nick.so after that he said bye nick didnt say that my ex did.so i asked like 5 times why are mad why are you mad .so he kept saying bye and i tried calling him and texting saying hi and thtat’s all i put and he hasnt texted or called me back.do u think if i stop calling him and texting for a while he will call back or text back saying sorry.

Tags: 13 years, alexis, Apology, best friend, few days, friend nick, jasmine, texts

long story short: me and my ex broke up in summer 09 because lack of communication. we havent talked since, but we started talking just last month. i realized that i miss him, i miss us, i regret letting him go so easily, and im remembering everything i loved about him and i want him back!

were good friends now. he considers me as a best friend. but we flirt nonstop. when we talk on myspace and text he constantly tells me all these sweet things and he puts hearts<3 it feels like we’re together again because we hang out alot at school, and talk on the phone pretty much everyday for hours. im starting to fall for him again. i just dont know what to do. spring break is pretty much over and i get to see him at school on monday.

WHAT TO DO!?!?!?!?!?!
honest answers please, thanks!<3
-people say it looks like we’re back together because we hang out so much and we put lovey-dovey stuff on myspace.

- we were together for six months and were each other’s first loves, first everything! besides sex, we never went that far haha

Tags: best friend, good friends, hearts, honest answers, lack of communication, lt, myspace, Puts, six months, spring break, sweet things

Im 23 years old and I just went thru the toughest stage of my life, after been with the most amaizin man for 31/2 years he got killed in a motocycle accident. I took it very hard, since he was and still is the love of my life.. 4 months after his accident i decided to go out and try to smile.. I met someone that almost automatically called my attention, he was unique and very goofy, maybe thats what i needed all this time someone to make me smile.. we met at a bar and we danced all night long, towards the end he asked me for my phone numbers and even though to everyone alse i would say no.. To him i just had to.. After that we kept seen each other and getting to know each other, he had been thru a very bad brake up and i had lost my boyfriend. so in part we were helping eachother out.. after a couple of weeks of us been hanging around, i felt like i was catching feelings and i backed away – i was scared and plus i felt wrong because in my heart i felt like i had to be faithful to my boyfriend. he was catchin feelings for me to but since i backed off, he felt like he had to as well to not get hurt..

9 months have been since i last seen him – and i cant stop thinkin about him! i feel like we left somethin that could of been special, and at the same time i feel much better now and i understand that i have to move on and be happy.. the problem is i dnt know how to get to him.. i dont want to scare him off. since he problaly thinks i will reject him again. we have friends in common but we never hang around. Lately i cant have him off my mind and i dnt knw if the power of the mind is great but last week.. he called my best friend and after a long conversation with her. he finally asked her about me.. "tell her i said hi" to alot of people thats nothin but to me is.. "he is thinkin about me, he didnt have to ask"

Now the question is, what should i do?

Tags: 23 years, 4 months, 9 months, best friend, catching feelings, heart, love, Love Of My Life, Met, phone numbers, power of the mind, smile, somethin

im still in love with my ex boyfriend. We dated for a year. He said that if we were to talk again he would fall in love with me but he has moved on and now has a girlfriend which is my best friend. i know they are happy together and i dont want to ruin that but its so hard getting over my first love. I want him to want me back, to realize that he still does love me becuz i can tell he still does. What do i do? Please be nice to me.

Tags: best friend, Ex Boyfriend, first love, girlfriend, love, Ruin

My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 2 years, after a 10 year split. The thing is she is still married and going through her divorce. I have had serious jealousy and trust issues with her and her " husban ". We fight all the time about it. Emails and text msg, I can’t stand it and I have become a real prick to her because of it, this is the woman I truely love. She tells me its my fault I shouldn’t be looking at his email. He is always talk sexual to her or how they are in love and blah blah blah. She said he is blocked and she dosen’t get them, it could be true I haven’t seen any replys to him from her. I got my own place this week and tonight we got into a big fight. She says she still loves me but can’t be with me because of the way I treat her sometime, that her heart isn’t in it and I should give her some space. How do you give your best friend space? How do I make her want to be with me like she used to? Please be kind I am hurting badly and need some honest answers.

Tags: best friend, blah, blah blah, divorce, email, Fall In Love, girlfriend, heart, honest answers, jealousy, prick, quot, replys, text msg, trust issues, Woman

My ex and I broke up 7 months ago, I’m still hung up on her. She’s moved on and in love with someone else, but i’m still madly in love with her. I’m still fighting for her, she knows this but she says she wants to be my best friend yet she loves me and cares for me still. Is it wrong of me to still be friends with her and hope one day we’ll get back together? And is she leading me on in any way?

Tags: 7 months, best friend, cares, Friends, love

ok, here it goes:

I have a girl best friend and I really like her since the first day of freshman year (we’re in the midle of sophomore year now). before freshman year ended, I told her I loved her and I asked if she also did (we were really close). She said she didn’t feel anything for me and it turned into a two week long *filled with lots n’ lots of bad words* fight. Now were just friends, eventhough were super close again, I am kinda happy and my friends keep teasing us when we are alone, together which makes me feel very happy. I want to love her again but I don’t want to get my heart ripped to tiny little bite-size pieces even though I know I love her deep within me. What am I going to do? help me!

Tags: best friend, bite size pieces, freshman year, heart, just friends, Love Help, sophomore year

We were going out, i broke up with him and now he’s dating my best friend! What should I do?

Tags: best friend

My boyfriend just broke up with me, we were best friends before and really loved each other but he just got so busy with after school activities… and he just stopped loving me… we had like really deep conversations while we were going out too… and i really want him back, he was really sweet… and handsome… and just overall perfect… how do i earn him back? how can i make him want me? answers pleeeaaasseee. and i’m not willing to stoop low as to dating his best friends or anything because his best friends is also my best friend… please help?
he still wants to be friends… but i don’t know if i can talk to him… and it was really sudden too… and all my friends think i can get him back but i really don’t know, i’ve been so miserable for the past few days that i haven’t even been able to eat anything… and i’ve been close to puking several times… like i’m literally sick to my stomach and the heart ache is unbearable… but he was still really happy after we broke up… like the day after i was holding back tears all day and he was just all happy. but he keeps looking at me… like he did when he was with his old girlfriend… back when he liked me… now he’ll peek over and see what i’m up too and if i look over and catch his glance, he turns his head really quickly and goes back to talking to his ‘other friends’ and i just invited him back into our old group… even though people are mad at him, i felt bad… because his best friend is also there… but idk how to deal or get over him…

Tags: best friend, best friends, conversations, Ex Boyfriend, few days, girlfriend, glance, heart ache, peek, several times, sick to my stomach, Stoop

my ex-bf broke up w/ me because i don’t flirt enough, he kind of ignores me now but i’m also friends w/ his best friend n he told me tht if i still like him to flirt, it’s my only hope but the problem is i’m not 2 gifted @ flirting lol, so how do i flirt do get him back?

Tags: best friend, bf, Ex Boyfriend, Flirt, lol

My boyfriend of a little over a year broke up with me over the weekend stating that he felt as though we were more like friends and that he’s felt this way for a while. He told me that I was perfect for him and that he didn’t know why his head was telling him to do this. We celebrated our anniversary a month ago and he said at that time he didn’t even love me. I knew that something was wrong for the past month and asked him about it often but kept being told that everything was fine, that he was just stressed out with work and his health.

I love him so much and miss him a lot and can’t understand what it is that I did wrong to make his feelings for me change. He says I didn’t do anything but I must have as people don’t just decide they don’t love one another anymore for no reason. He says that he feels like he lost his best friend and that he’d like for us to be friends if and when I’m able to do that.

What do I do? I love him with my everything and want him in my life but I know that I’d never be able to handle hearing about a new love interest, a new relationship or see him with someone else.

How do I get over this? I can’t remember who I was without him. I just want to stop crying all the time. I don’t know how much longer I can do this for.

Tags: anniversary, best friend, feelings, Friends, Health, love, love interest, relationship

I admitted two nights ago to my husband, I slept with someone else twice (see my previous two questions for the back story, not going to retype it again) and screwed up. I prayed he would understand and give our marriage a go but instantly flew into a rage and made me sleep on the couch.

The next morning, he had packed my bags and clothes were all thrown into boxes and he said I best be gone when he gets back. So I had to go my sisters and today I called to talk reason with him and he said hes filing for divorce. I am heartbroken beyond words and wish I could repair my marriage. I was in a low place when I slept with my brother in laws best friend and I know I screwed up. I was just heartbroken over a series of fights me and my husband had and the lack of attention he has given me over the last two months (we married in November 2009). I just hate to think I am now going to 20 (my birthday in Saturday) and a divorcee’.

Anyone got any advice? Like how I can make my husband see that I love him still and want to form a family with him? I have thought about working on my 6 year old stepdaughter but he has refused me from ever seeing her again and I loved that girl like she was my own and now my world has come crumbling down.

If I get divorced, I will lose my whole stable world. My family is far aware and we had carved a life together. I will not get a thing out of this because my adultery will be used against me and he owns his house legally. So can anyone help me save my marriage to my soul mate?
I already feel guilty enough. My husband has made it clear hes heartbroken after providing me with so much and being faithful to me.

And DO NOT tell me I am too young to be married. I love my husband and thats all that matters. My question is not related to my age but a call for advice. If you tell me I am too young to be married, I will downrate and report for not providing an answer.
Daughter, my husband owned that house since he was 18, years before we married. I never had a deed to it and my state still has adultery as a ground for divorce and is still not liberal in divorce. I am up sh*t creek property wise because the house is legally his and his familys (been in it for 110 years).
Daughter, my husband owned that house since he was 18, years before we married. I never had a deed to it and my state still has adultery as a ground for divorce and is still not liberal in divorce. I am up sh*t creek property wise because the house is legally his and his familys (been in it for 110 years).
Daughter, my husband owned that house since he was 18, years before we married. I never had a deed to it and my state still has adultery as a ground for divorce and is still not liberal in divorce. I am up sh*t creek property wise because the house is legally his and his familys (been in it for 110 years).

Tags: 18 years, adultery, best friend, boxes, brother, clothes, couch, divorce, divorcee, filing for divorce, hes, Infertility, lack of attention, last two months, marriage, next morning, rage, sleep, soul mate, stable world, stepdaughter

I have a gay friend who is 19, and his ex is 20. They broke up last week and my friend really wants him back but isnt sure how to do it without seeming desperste. He wants his boyfriend to come back to him, not the other way around. I’m straight so I have no idea what to tell my gay best friend.
I know it’s possible for them to get back together, because they really do love each other.

Tags: best friend, gay friend, love

i fell in love w. my best friend a yr ago. We’ve always been close and never thought i saw him in that "way" but when we kissed, nothing was ever the same. I’m not the type to fall for anyone but after we had a thing, I KNEW. I couldn’t help it, i care and love this person so strongly and it’s never happened in my life.Then, we decided not to pursue b/c of timing and that’s where i thought we had left it. After that, we didn’t talk to each other. I was always concerned and tried to get a hold of him but never really got anything. The past few months, we’ve been talking and been hopefully becoming better friends. I started to become insecure this past week and found out he had been dating someone that didn’t work out and it was a sign that i needed closure. We FINALLY (after a yr) talked and I admitted everything to him. Turns out it was a situation of lost love that we both secretly wanted to be together, it just didn’t happen. It breaks my heart to know that someone i love and care about feels that way for someone else. He’s going through a tough time in life right now and i let him know i would be there b.c regardless, i sincerely care for him. As much as I am comfortable/okay at being friends, i’m still a mess.

I WANT TO BE WELL. There are time when i know i’m okay and have accepted things and are aware of what my friends are telling me but then there are times when i crash and burn and become affected. I’m thinking positive and am getting used to the mentality of "not caring"/analyzing about him but it’s hard. I want to be there for him but I’m more important right now, it’s about me.

I need to focus on my healthcare major, i want to do things that will boost my ego in a healthy way. I need to remind myself my value and worth. It’s hard. Sorry to be selfish but i think, why couldn’t he appreciate/like me? I’m a good person and know that there will NEVER be anyone who cares as much as I do. I need to get away from him and GET TO KNOW MYSELF AGAIN AND WHAT MAKES ME A PERSON WORTH LOVING. AM I ON THE RIGHT PATH?
it just hurts and annoys me when i go online and to see him say he misses that other girl….i don’t want to be a selfish person…and i don’t wish him ill but i really hope to God he realizes how much i really care for him…i’m not expecting anything from it but i just want him to be aware of how i’m not someone who wants him to "feel better"…i care about him unconditionally…I hope it hits him one day…
i feel like a loser b/c it’s been a yr and a half and i’m JUST getting closure NOW. He does care for me alot but he’s obviously done and over w. me…

Tags: being friends, best friend, broken heart, closure, crash, ego, good person, heart, love, mentality

About a month ago, my Ex and I broke up to see what else was out there. I’m still pretty hurt from it, especially since she told me shes "hanging out" with another guy, who she says is just someone fun and completely different than her normal type. She says she still misses me and that she hasn’t moved on, only that hes a nice guy. If you ask me it sounds like the classic rebound guy… completely different from me and is helping her fill my void.

I called her last week and told her its too hard for me to be her friend, when I still have a tremendous amount of feelings for her. She said if thats what I needed to do then alright, but that she really does want me in her life because im still her best friend. I told her too bad, it was obvious she had moved on in only a matter or a week or two.

Im just curious why rebound relationships involve someone completely different than the last partner. I have my college degree, a good solid job and am only 23 years old. Now shes interested in a 26 year old police man who is covered in tattoos and almost bald. Ladies help me out?
The relationship was for 2+ years. We had a great relationship until the stress of her life caused some fights, but nothing major. The last month was full of highs and lows

Tags: 23 years, bald ladies, best friend, college degree, feelings, great relationship, hasn, highs and lows, job, Misses, nice guy, police man, Rebound Guy, rebound relationships, stress, tattoos

we just had a babygirl – our first child. she is from europe and I am from the U.S. The last 4 months of her pregnancy (during which we were fighting and sometimes not even on speaking terms) she spent in her home country and during that time her ex-bf intervened and played the supporting role and now she and he are "together"…I am desperate and am seeking advice as to how to put our marriage back together. she will not go to counciling but has agreed to read some articles I have found on saving marriages. her claim is that she and I are incompatible because we rationalize about things differently and make decisions differently…that our lifestyles are too different but we’ve only been married for two years. she says her ex gives her security but this is the same guy who while they were dating for 10 years, slept with her best friend and her sister. All I want are my wife and daughter back. she is standing her ground and says she doesnt love me anymore but there was a reason she left him for me. I have to believe there is a way and that deep down she still loves me! I don’t want to give up. can someone please lend me some advice? thank you very much,

james

Tags: 10 years, 4 months, best friend, bf, Decisions, europe, lifestyles, marriage, pregnancy, quot, speaking terms

how do i heal a broken heart? how do i watch my girl in the arms of my best friend? how do i restrain myself from killing him? this feeling i have is one of pure rage at him and overwhelming love for her… it makes me want to kill myself… but i cant, something is stopping me. something i cannot see stops me, but fills me with rage… the people around me tell me that Ive changed. one even says i have acquired a murderers stare…

Tags: best friend, broken heart, love, murderers, rage

I have question that I need some serious help on. I have a best friend who lost his ex-girlfriend to another man (not known to us). And my best friend wants him out of the picture (not anything extreme, if you know what I mean) so that he may have another chance at winning her heart again. I wont go into details of how they broke up. My best friend is 30 and his ex is 25. Any suggestions from experienced people? If you were in my best friends shoes, how would you attempt to take your rival out of the picture and woo you ex back, no matter what the circumstances of the breakup was.

Tags: best friend, best friends, circumstances, ex girlfriend, heart, Lost, People, Rival, shoes

I am writing my own little story, more like a manga. which is basically a picture book. It’s is about a boy that lost his best friend, a girl, and he’s trying to figure out what happened to her, along with trying to overcome his sadness and sorrow. Along the way he meets someone new, someone that helps him. But the question is, which sounds better? To Mend a Broken Heart, or To Save A Broken Heart?

Tags: best friend, broken heart, Heart Broken, manga, picture book, Sad Story, sadness, sadness and sorrow, sorrow, Sounds

well… i fell in love with this boy for sometime and i thought he liked me back.But i soon discovered that he likes my best friend.But she doesnt like him.What shall i do?

Tags: best friend, broken heart, love

Um i gotta write an essay about a poem which i like but i don’t know any. I know a lot of poets but since i don’t read poems(i just love making poems), i don’t have any favorites so please help me to choose "A SAD AND LOVE POEM OR DANGER AND BLOOD" Poem or just give ur "FAVORITES POEM!!! Please help!!
Thanks guys and by the way Stephanie Annabel lee i love it but the only problemo is tht my best friend is doing tht one and i dont wanna hurt her feelings

Tags: annabel lee, best friend, Favorites, feelings, love poem, poems, poets, problemo, Read Poems, sad poem, stephanie