I came home from work and my wife of 19 years was gone. She didn’t take much except some clothes and a few things. She left a lengthy note which was dated a few weeks ago telling me that she’s in love with someone else and is pregnant with his child. She says she’s sorry but she hasn’t loved me for years and it’s all been a show until the girls grew up. She says she’s not coming back and I’ll get divorce papers in the mail. I called her work and her boss said she gave her notice a couple of weeks ago and she’s been gone for a week.

I feel like I’m going to throw up. Our twin 18 year old girls are away at college and don’t know she’s gone yet. I don’t know what to say to them.

I feel like just driving off a bridge. I feel like drinking until I pass out. I feel like emptying my bank account and spending it on hookers or just trying to pick up some girl at a bar and screw her. I just want to feel something good. I can barely feel anything except agony.

I did virtually nothing at work today but fight back tears and hope nobody came by my desk or talked to me.

I don’t know why this happened. I loved her to death. She was everything to me. We laughed and spent wonderful time together. We almost never fought, we talked, flirted, went out dancing just like we did 20 years ago and had a wonderful time… all the time. She always had a huge smile, ran to me when I came home, and did everything I thought a loving wife did.

How could I ever love again? I can’t tell the difference between someone who loves me and someone who doesn’t. Can one of you ladies in here explain to me how someone could masquerade as a loving wife for so many years and never give me a clue that she was unhappy? Why wouldn’t she just tell me she wasn’t happy and then maybe I could have fixed whatever was wrong.

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We dated for 3 months it all started after a night of drinking. He asked me to stay over and I said it wasnt a good idea. He promised he wouldnt hurt me and wasnt like that. We continued to have sex everyday almost it was amazing. I developed real feeling and he knew and told me he wanted to take it slow. I was fine with that but more and more he continued to let me know that he thought I was a nice person but he was content in being alone before but he gradually pulled back. I thought things were so great and amazing. He was away on a trip for a while and i only saw him once when he got back (outside of work) then I told him I was tired of feeling like his secrect mistress and he broke up with me telling me I give him so much love that he equates that as committment and he could see himself committing to me because hes focused on other things. I am devasted I have never been dumped or rejected and the topper is I have to still work with him. Luckily he will be away during the week on business.
How do I stop being so devasted. It hurts so much thinking about never kissing or touching or anything. I feel so alone

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Hi, I was very close to my boss for 6 years. Then due to stress, she decided to lay all of the problems on me.

1) I was well trusted in my team and she even made me second-in-command. Sometimes she was too intimate in her details of personal and work information.
2) After we had an argument, I got a bad review and a false account of my performance.
3) I talked to her boss and am now in a new team. Yet my record is messed up.
4) I still see her walking around my office and she sometimes give me a mean look.

Any good advice?

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Heyy guys (:
im really a confused point right now about this guy.
im a 16 year old girl and this guy,chris is 19. We aren’t in a relationship, but we are "dedicated" to eachother. It’s been like this for a few months,almost a year.I could say that I love him.Or at least, I’ve fallen extremely hard for him. We met over the summer in my mom’s home country, his family and my family are close. I live in new york and he lives in vegas.I’m in high school and he’s in the air force, working.He’s the sweetest guy anyone could ever ask for.He calls me almost everyday, he texts me every morning, and etc.he tells me everything,he tells me if he’s going out with friends to a party, i do actually trust him.my family also approves and so does his.About a month ago, he started to ignore me…turned out he got in trouble with his chief AND his ex was trying to get back with him…he was distancing himself from me until the problem with his ex would be solved.I actually understand why he would distance himself from me while going through that. I did tell him though that he needed to trust me and that he could tell me anything, cuz this is the time to prove to eachother that something can maybe develop in the future, if we trust eachother. So, after that everything was okay. Then starting last week…he stopped calling again…he texted every now and then. I do understand that he’s busy, but it made me think alot.especially about the future.He also was suppose to come visit me during this spring break, but his boss didnt approve, which of course made me sad.I do understand though.Its just…i think…we’re at different point in our lives.If he doesnt call me, even is he is busy, how can I contact him and count on him if i need him during a crisis.He also opened up to me about his past….about everything…he’s only had 2 girlfriends…he told me he did cheat on his first gf when they were going thru problems…he admitted it was wrong…so i mean, people make mistakes…but how can i trust him. I feel like i have to let him go, but I can’t. I never wanna lose him. He said he would "wait for me" until i finish high school….but thats a few years ahead…i dont think we could both wait that long..but if we get together now, he’s 3,000 miles away,im in high school with the temptation of other guys,and just everything. I do care and love him, though. Dont know what to do :/

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My BF of 1-yr appears to be going thru a rough time right now. He broke up with me 3 weeks ago during an argument over the phone. It was one of those arguments where he just seems to not have any urgency when it comes to our making plans.

Anyway, about a week after breaking up, he told me that the following had happened: 1st, while at work, he received a threatening call from a guy telling him to leave his woman alone; my BF said he thought it was a joke by one of his boys, but that turned out not to be the case. 2nd, supposedly the man who threatened him has been calling his work place so much that his desk phone has been constantly ringing & disturbing his co-workers. He got into hot water with his boss and Security about the phone calls. And lastly, his home was broken into. I cannot believe all this occurred in a week’s time. It seems crazy!!

I went over to see how he was doing today, and it was apparent that he is not sleeping or eating, and just looks like things are taking a toll on him. But, he wanted to discuss our situation. I told him that I am here for him and didn’t want to leave him all alone to deal with all of this. His response to me was that for right now, we needed to end the relationship because it’s all too stressful at the moment. I told him I’d do whatever he needs, but wished we could just take space from one another rather than call it quits. I am very upset and I cannot understand it. We were literally standing there hugging, kissing and saying good-bye all the while saying we love each other. Can anyone tell me why he’d want to just let our relationship go and risk losing it forever, rather than just taking space?

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