me and this boy have been through break ups and so on but only because we don’t live close to each other. Which means we didn’t break up because we don’t love each other anymore because i love him so much and i know he really loves me too and my friends always tell me that its obvious he still has feelings for me. I haven’t told my friends i still like him because i knew i wouldnt get back together with him anytime now ..however he should be moving to my school september and i would DEFFINATELY get back with him then! Even though we broke up we still flirted and would talk until half 5 in the morning online!! and we would tell each other we love each other still. NOW ALL OF A SUDDEN he has a new girlfriend ..it broke my heart when i found out but it don’t even seem like he likes her that much. I know we will always have feelings for each other NO DOUBT! And i know he likes me way more than this other girl. I don’t want to talk to him about it because it might just make matters worse and push him futher away! which i couldnt bare! i need advice for instance should i do myself up? lol and make myself irreristable to him :L or should i try making him jelous? Once this girl is gone who does not seem like a nice person i will be able to talk to him properly again. Please help me get him back i miss him sooooooooo much! My heart cant take no more and i know i just can’t get over him! I’ve been trying to for months!!

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I really don’t get why women who reject men or women who dump men then turn around and say "but we can still be friends" or in the case of the horrible friend zone "i don’t see you that way; but we can still be friends" why don’t women understand that to many men, who ask women out a friendship is nothing more than a consolation prize…i mean why the hell would you be friends with a woman if theres no chance of getting sex? They don’t share the same interests as men, they nag, they whine, etc…so whats in it for the guy? The girl uses him for emotional support and to whine about the bad boy thug she is screwing….is it no surprise men don’t want to settle for just friends…and whats with the break ups? You dump a guy romantically and have the NERVE to think he should still want to be your friend? You don’t often see men telling a girl "i don’t want to have sex with you; but lets be friends" or "i don’t see you that way; but id like to use you as an emotional tampon" it only seems to be a WOMAN thing…So why is it women cant understand that if a guy is interested in you he DOESN’T want the consolation prize??

PS NO IM NOT BITTER—I just dont understand this clearly illogical aspect of women.

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I have searched for days for infomation to get my ex back and can’t find anything except this – http://www.successdept.com/component/content/article/92-break-ups/101-Get-Your-Ex-Girlfriend-Back.html

Anyone know if it is any good or is it just empty promises?

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I’ve been through a lot of relationship battles. Cheating, lying, break ups, crying, the normal. I’m going to college soon. My current boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year. We’ve broken up already. I used to know for sure I wanted to be with him beyond high school and even college. Now, I don’t know what I want, or if I’m falling out of love with him. When I go to college I want a clean slate and to cut myself from the strings of my past that I CAN’T let go of. I feel he is holding me back. When I look at him, that’s all I see. Who I used to be. I can’t let go of anger, grudges, past experiences, past mistakes from him, others, and most importantly myself. There’s also this guy, my best friend, who I feel I am in love with. TO SUM IT UP……….. Any tips on letting go of the past and FINALLY moving on and away from it? Letting go of love? Finally being happy?

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Did your girlfriend break up with you? You are not the first guy to go through this. In fact, girls initiate three quarters of the break ups while guys only dump the girl in one quarter of the situations. Therefore, guys have to deal with being dumped far more often than girls do.

Compounding the problem is the impression that men are supposed to deal with their emotions stoically. While women are allowed to dissect every part of their relationship, men are expected to roll with the punches.

But this doesn’t mean that men don’t have emotions. They hurt when women dump them. A girlfriend break up is quite painful.

First of all, men tend to place more value on stable relationships than women do. While a man might be interested in a fling with a woman who is not his girlfriend, what he really wants is someone who will be there in good times and bad.

But, once your girlfriend has dumped you, it’s important to figure out how to pick up the pieces and go on with your life.

First of all, you should find some way to express yourself. Girls can do this by writing poetry or talking about the relationship endlessly with their friends. Men often don’t feel comfortable with these options. But, if you play the guitar or piano, try writing some music that allows you to express your feelings. Many of the great songs are about the pain of breaking up.

Next, you need to clear out your place of all of the things that remind you of her. If she has clothes at your house, give them back. Throw away her toothbrush. And, if she’s given you any gifts that you want to keep, box them up for the time being until you can look at them without having turbulent emotions.

You will want to close off communications with her, at least for the short term. If either of you owe the other money, try to settle up so that won’t be an avenue for talking.

Then tell your ex that you want to go silent for a while. That means no calls, texts, or emails. Stay off each other’s myspace and facebook pages. In time, you may be able to be friends again, but right now you both need to give each other the space to heal.

Then, you need to get out of the house. Make a point of playing pick up basketball with your friends. Go out to a bar from time to time. Become a big brother to an underprivileged kid.

Then, start to get back into the dating scene once again. At first, you can have casual dates that may not lead to anything. But, over time, you will meet someone you really care about. And, at that point, you will know that you have some closure about the old relationship. You won’t be worried about the old girlfriend break up any more.

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