My husband found out I had cheated on him. He found some text messages on my cell phone and I confessed to the cheating. We lived apart for a couple of months and during that time we barely spoke. I heard he was spending a lot of time with a bartender that works at the local bar. I also found some text messages on his phone but he denys doing anything with her, and they are only friends and she is fun. Since then he has told me he wants me back, but he doesn’t want to change his lifestyle. He goes out 3-4 times a week and he comes home at all hours of the night. I think he still sees her and it bothers me. When I bring her up or bring up his going out he gets defensive and tells me that I’m a nag and I am smothering him. He told me that he wants me to relax and chill out and our marriage will work. I do smother him, because I want answers and he won’t talk to me. I have gotten advice to leave him alone and see where it goes. Is this the right choice and will he love me again?
Tags: bartender, cell phone, lifestyle, local bar, marriage, right choice, text messages
I do not know what is going with my wife now. We have problems when I was deploy. I was over there for 15 months. It was over bills that came up when I left and she wanted to divorce me and I thought we were fine until when I got back I find that she cheating on me. I forgive her and she knows that. We have 2 yr old son. We were taking slow and were doing good. Now she about go over there now. She is in army reserve. I am active duty. She is Ft. Dix training. She have her cell phone up there. I admit I was calling alot at first. Now, she acting like something is always wrong. She want divorce again. It says it over money and i was calling to much. We talk and she want me to tell her if I am going to spend money on something that I want not need. She talking like she crazy again. I cannot deal with this. I am giving her my all. I sent boxes. I sent her anything that need or wants. No love. I am trying my best to give her my unconditional love. But it getting hard. Nothing going change. I do not want to divorce her while she doing her thing. I do not want to do that to her because she treating do it me and do not want to do that. I need help because I am going recruiting duty in TX. I want be best man I can for her. I wish i know how but it so hard. Please help. I am solider. I am not trying to leave her behind I want to get attention to stop.
Tags: 15 months, active duty, army reserve, best man, boxes, cell phone, ft dix, money, unconditional love
