At the beginning stages and with kids..had a Virgo. Totally scared to find love again. Have feelings for a Scorpio. It just Christmas and I’m freaking out!

Tags: christmas, divorce, feelings, love, pisces, scorpio, virgo

Well, this all started before christmas. My ex GF, cait, broke up with me, and i was a wreck. I was so unbelievably in love with her, and i got the "lets be friends" talk.

Well, 3 weeks later, I started going out with this other girl, jessica, thinking she would make me forget about my ex. i was wrong, and we ended up having a mutual breakup. So my best friend, mike, liked jessica a LOT, and was very pissed off when he found out we were dating. problem is, he had told me he liked other girls too, and that jessica was the only one. So i assumed i was essentially in the clear. When i found out i wasnt, i felt terrible, apologized profusely, and ultimately ended up breaking it off for his sake, and also because i was stil thinking about cait.

the day after jessica and I started going out, i was talking to mike about it, and he asked me "how would you feel if i went out with cait before or after you guys dated?" i answered honestly, "terrible". Well sure enough, a day later i get a text from mike with the words "we’re straight". I knew INSTANTLY that he had done something terrible, or was planning to. ive known mike since we were in diapers, and i knew hed be out for revenge. it was always like that, ever sice we were kids. if you hit him jokingly, he had to hit you back ten times harder.

so i get back from xmas vacation, and mike and cait are all over eachother. this absolutely DESTROYED me inside. I put up with them cuddling and stuff for a couple of weeks, but then finally exploded. He is now my ex best friend, and I hate him more than any other human bieng on the planet. He only got after cait to get revenge on me, and since hes not exactly a hit with the ladies (he is an ugly mofo…), once he realized he’d pulled it off, that he’d made cait like him, he ran with it, because he knew thats all he could get. He ran with it even tho he KNEW it was killing me inside. this is why i hate him.

Meanwhile, over the last month, i thought about WHY cait gave me the "better as freinds" talk; I ACTED like a friend. i was shy around her, and acted exactly like i had before when we WERE friends. its been a rough couple of months, and a lot of things have happened. the one thig stayed the same though; I love her still. Ive actually thought about her non stop for almost 2 years, but only recently did we start dating. I feel she is the one. And to anyone who’s ever found that special someone… when you know, you know.

So i want her back… im not sure how im going to do it, but giving up is no longer an option. ive tried, and everytime it just comes right back to her. I know it wont happen soon… but im optimistic about the situation. I think i can turn this around.

I know this wont be easy, maybe not even entirely fesable, but ill wait for however long it takes. I just need to find a way to attract her to me again… all i want is a chance to rectufy my mistakes, a chance to show her i can be everything she ever wanted. I want to be the one she wakes up to, i want to be the one she can lean on when shes having a hard time. i want to be the one who comforts her when shes sad, and the one to ask whos ass im going to have to kick when shes angry. she is everything to me and more; i just want her to know i mean every syllable of the words "i love you", and for her to feel that way too…
you have no idea how good that felt to type.

Tags: best friend, bieng, christmas, Cuddling, diapers, ex gf, friend mike, girls, love, mofo, quot, revenge, sake, sice, tho

Yes, I know that forcing things isn’t right and all. But I really do like her, and it isn’t just some phase.

I asked her to become friends, and I told her I’d be there when she needed me. My friends said this was bad move because it put me on the friends zone, after we broke up.

What can I do? She is going to NJ this Christmas, and I’m pretty sure she likes someone else.

Tags: Bad Move, christmas, Christmas 97, friends zone

So about a year ago I went to Africa to visit my family for the summer. And there I met the most incredible guy, and I reeeally liked him but never thought to seriously of it at first because long distance relationship wasn’t even an option in mind. But after he took me on a string of dates I really started to fall in love. He was so sweet and always looked after me….but eventually the time came for me to head back to the u.s. We kept talkin but it was hard. He asked me to marry him but i told him no because i felt it was too early, and that I was too young to make such a serious commitment (i’m 21 now, 20 at the time). Also i was getting alot of pressure from family and friends to move on because of the distance and the fact that i shudnt just up and marry the first guy i dated. So we kept breaking up and getting back together. I went to visit him again for christmas and things were just as if i had never left…But as soon as I came back home the communication had slowed. I was really upset and decided to just break things off for good (cuz i felt like i was young and wasting my life after one guy)….Fast forward two months, I really started to miss him. He seemed like wat every body had to say didn’t matter anymore cuz all i thought about was him, I didn’t care about the other guys taht liked me. At first he was really hesistant to talk to me ( i thought b/c i had hurt him) but he said it was becuz during our break he had slept with his ex and got her pregnant…
This Devastated ME!!! I cried for nights asking God why. Blaming myself more than anything. He treated me like a queen, with unconditional love that no other man has ever shown me, and was my first love. Now it seems like no other man can compare. I still cry myself to sleep thinking about him sumtimes and wishing somehow things could be the way they were…I’ve never been so close to another human being in my life. And it sucks cuz he’s even met my family which is a big deal. And even tho we kept taking breaks I always thought we wud end up together somehow…
Now I’m heartbroken and wonder if I’ll ever find such Love like that again??? Help

Tags: africa, alot, christmas, Cuz, Distance Relationship, family and friends, first love, god, long distance relationship, love, Met, Pregnant, queen, sleep, tho, unconditional love, wasting my life

Please Serious Answers Only, I am in need of some real and honest help.

My boyfriend broke up with me 2 days before Christmas. He says he is not happy with me, and we are not meant to be. I know he loves me, and he even said he still does, but it’s somthing he has to do.

We met on Jan 1st to talk and swap things. I wrote him a heartfelt letter and read it to him. He really had no emotion at all. I totally ruined my chances with him because I begged for him to not leave me, but I felt that it was the last chance I would ever see/talk to him at all. I was devastated.
We agreed to be friends, but i told him i just dont know if i can do that.

I have been really calm about everything lately, we casually talk on aim and hes actually pretty nice to me. But then yesterday somthing was really bothering me, so I brought it up. He was fine with the first statement, but when I said somthing else he totally ignored what I said. I feel that I just ruined my chances of ever talking to him again! I went ahead and apologized over message and I told him that I agree with the breakup, i know it’s for the best. I even went to say that I had some good news that I would like to share with him sometime…(which I thought would spark interest).
But he didnt respond to the message. So then I said " Well im going to get off here, have a good day" . I waited a minute and still no response. Now I feel completely stupid!

Did I ruin my chances of getting him back with that message I sent him? What do I do know? Do i just totally ignore him and wait to see if he ever says anything? Now I feel that I lost all hope, I know we are meant to be together, and we were even getting along this past weekend…what the heck do I do know? All hope is gone!

Have any of you went through breakups and got your ex back? If so, HOW?

Tags: aim, breakups, Calm, christmas, days before christmas, emotion, heartfelt letter, last chance, Met, what the heck