Some peolpe tell me that i need to contact my ex and ask him to go foe a cofee so i can finally get closure.I haven’t talk since he broke up with me.This was 2 years ago.So do you think i need closure so i can get over him?

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i fell in love w. my best friend a yr ago. We’ve always been close and never thought i saw him in that "way" but when we kissed, nothing was ever the same. I’m not the type to fall for anyone but after we had a thing, I KNEW. I couldn’t help it, i care and love this person so strongly and it’s never happened in my life.Then, we decided not to pursue b/c of timing and that’s where i thought we had left it. After that, we didn’t talk to each other. I was always concerned and tried to get a hold of him but never really got anything. The past few months, we’ve been talking and been hopefully becoming better friends. I started to become insecure this past week and found out he had been dating someone that didn’t work out and it was a sign that i needed closure. We FINALLY (after a yr) talked and I admitted everything to him. Turns out it was a situation of lost love that we both secretly wanted to be together, it just didn’t happen. It breaks my heart to know that someone i love and care about feels that way for someone else. He’s going through a tough time in life right now and i let him know i would be there b.c regardless, i sincerely care for him. As much as I am comfortable/okay at being friends, i’m still a mess.

I WANT TO BE WELL. There are time when i know i’m okay and have accepted things and are aware of what my friends are telling me but then there are times when i crash and burn and become affected. I’m thinking positive and am getting used to the mentality of "not caring"/analyzing about him but it’s hard. I want to be there for him but I’m more important right now, it’s about me.

I need to focus on my healthcare major, i want to do things that will boost my ego in a healthy way. I need to remind myself my value and worth. It’s hard. Sorry to be selfish but i think, why couldn’t he appreciate/like me? I’m a good person and know that there will NEVER be anyone who cares as much as I do. I need to get away from him and GET TO KNOW MYSELF AGAIN AND WHAT MAKES ME A PERSON WORTH LOVING. AM I ON THE RIGHT PATH?
it just hurts and annoys me when i go online and to see him say he misses that other girl….i don’t want to be a selfish person…and i don’t wish him ill but i really hope to God he realizes how much i really care for him…i’m not expecting anything from it but i just want him to be aware of how i’m not someone who wants him to "feel better"…i care about him unconditionally…I hope it hits him one day…
i feel like a loser b/c it’s been a yr and a half and i’m JUST getting closure NOW. He does care for me alot but he’s obviously done and over w. me…

Tags: being friends, best friend, broken heart, closure, crash, ego, good person, heart, love, mentality

I brokeup with my boyfriend of six months last Sunday. It was a mutual, and amicable breakup but was done very hastily and impulsively on my part because I was hurting so much. I knew eventually we would breakup because we had too many issues and ultimately realized we weren’t meant for each other (We had planned to get engaged over the holidays). I never wanted to cut things off between us completely, though. I keep having thoughts of calling him just to get some closure, but I’ve been advised by friends and family not to do that. I’ve been hurting so much all week and I keep seeing and thinking about things that remind me of him. Any advice on how to heal my heart?

Tags: closure, friends and family, heart, holidays, last sunday, six months, thinking about things, Weren

Some peolpe tell me that i need to contact my ex and ask him to go foe a cofee so i can finally get closure.I haven’t talk since he broke up with me.This was 2 years ago.So do you think i need closure so i can get over him?

Tags: closure, cofee, Contact, foe, peolpe

I brokeup with my boyfriend of six months last Sunday. It was a mutual, and amicable breakup but was done very hastily and impulsively on my part because I was hurting so much. I knew eventually we would breakup because we had too many issues and ultimately realized we weren’t meant for each other (We had planned to get engaged over the holidays). I never wanted to cut things off between us completely, though. I keep having thoughts of calling him just to get some closure, but I’ve been advised by friends and family not to do that. I’ve been hurting so much all week and I keep seeing and thinking about things that remind me of him. Any advice on how to heal my heart?

Tags: closure, friends and family, heart, holidays, last sunday, six months, thinking about things, Weren

We broke up a month ago…he broke up with me actually…too much stuff went down…i thought he was cheating or about to, so i kicked him out. Some of his stuff is still here…today i called after a month and said you have until wed. to pick it up, thats it. Then something told me to call him back. So i did, i asked if he was busy tonight, he said he had to go to sleep early for work…he said what about tomorrow…i think well meet for coffee…im just looking for closure…he really hurt me bad…i know i hurt him too…but according to his friend he was always flirting around and he did ask a girl out on myspace…some of my guy friends were asking me out…maybe he was jealous? He said no…anyway…how can i show him im strong and have moved on…and make him a little curious and regret letting me go?

Tags: amp, Busy Tonight, closure, coffee, guy friends, sleep

Have you just broken up with a guy?  Are you lost without him?  Do you wonder if you can get him back?  Here’s how to get your boyfriend back after a break up.

First of all, decide whether the relationship is truly over.  Until you are able to say that he is part of your past and not your present and future, you will not be able to move on.

This is not to say that you have to put him in the past right away.  There are a number of steps you can take to get him back.  You can stay part of his life in a casual way hopping to become boyfriend and girlfriend again.

But, if you are ready to move on, there are a number of steps you can take to reach closure.  Closure is the process where you recognize that the relationship is over and you start to heal.

Perhaps the first thing you should do is communicate your hurt.  There are several ways to do this:

• Talk to friends and family who are truly empathetic and can help you work through your feelings.  A true friend will do this, but many of your so called friends won’t be up to the challenge.
• Go into short term therapy so you can work through your feelings with a dispassionate third party
• Write down your feelings in a journal, in poetry, or in music.  This is an inexpensive way to express yourself and doesn’t require anyone else to participate.

Once you have come to some level of closure, get rid of anything you have of your ex’s.  These things will only remind you of him and the boyfriend break up.  Some things you’ll want to give back because they have value.  Other things you can just toss.  And, if he’s given you gifts that you want to keep, box them up and store them for the time being.

Next, figure out how you are going to spend your time now that you are not part of a couple.  You may feel that time hangs heavy on your hands.  Or, you may find that you are liberated by not having to do everything your ex wanted you to do.

Get involved in things that make you happy.  Go to the gym so that you look and feel good.  Spend some time getting pampered at the spa.  Take a Spanish class at the community center.  Or, start to volunteer with the Big Sisters of America.

By doing things that please you, you will become a happier person.  You will find that you miss your ex a lot less.

One of the ways you will know that you are over your ex is that you will start to develop feelings for a new guy.  Maybe these will be reciprocated.  Eventually, you will find a new man and form a new relationship.  That will be when you know you have really moved on.  The boyfriend break up won’t be so serious any more.

Tags: amp, Break Up, closure, girlfriend, relationship

I have been in an online relationship for 1.5 yrs. Known him for 2 yrs. I never thought I could fall in love with anyone online, nor was I even looking for love when I found it. We talked every single day for the last 1.5 yrs at least 4 hrs a day during the week & he called me before work & at his lunch breaks every day. Every weekend we spent at least 12 hrs a day together on the phone, & online & we played a lot of online euchre as partners. We both were having financial problems that lead for us not being able to be together in person at this point & time. I told my kids about him & I talked to them everyday about him. His finacial problems have worsened & now he is saying that he wants to end this & he has become very bitter towards me. I’m having a hard time moving on because I want to at least meet him. I need closure. I want to see the person I had a relationship with for the last 2 yrs. Is that so much to ask for? He said NO to meeting now. He doesnt understand why I need that
My kids are grown and over the age of 18. So my kids arent even a factor.
I know that he still loves me and he still tells me that he still does. He is having very bad finanical problems. He has lost several things here lately due to lack of money and hard times and he says that he isnt able to give me the life that I need and that I say now money dont matter, but he things in time it will and he doesnt know at this point and time where his finanical status is going to take him and he thinks that I deserve better. I know its not because of him wanting someone else or having someone else. I know he loves me. We spent every spare min that either of us had other then sleep and work. Never once did we not even spend all weekend talking other then sleeping. Not one day in those 2 yrs did we not. I know he loves me. It is finanical and I know that for a fact that he is having big time finanical problems right now.
If it were because I knew he didnt love me and wanted to be with someone else. Then I could walk away with no problem what so ever, but I know that isnt the case.
Tabitha I was thinking the same thing about the harsh responses on some. Thank u for u response. I agree with many parts. I’m hurt because I invested so much time into this relationship. 2 yrs is a long time. I guess now were all false hopes. All my fault I know. I should know better…but it still hurts and I still love him. He is having finanical problems right now. I seen it with my own 2 eyes. We had & still have each others accounts info and passwords. He does work ft & has a good job, but fell behind. he does drive over an hour one way from work & with gas prices he is spending 200.00 a week in gas. I did offer to help him & he said no. He didnt want my money. He is very old fashion and he doesnt believe in someone helping him out. He is way subborn. I guess like me. I just dont feel like two people that really love each other, that money should not be an issue to end a relationship. I know he hasnt lost interest in me. If so he would cut all ties with me. Things werent bad
Dayummadeulook..I agree..I am having a hard time letting go. I invested 2 yrs of my life with this man. I know it is live and learn, but it doesnt mean that it still doesnt hurt.
Pauly I’m not talking about falling in love with several different people like you did over a few years. I devoted all 2 yrs to him and he did the same for me. Most of our time wasnt even on the computer it was on the phone. We spent every min of our spare time together. I have a 360 page on my profile he is also on that. We both have had the same friends for 2 yrs. They are like our family. They love us both. I will post a sample of one of his letters to me and show you the bond that I was lead to beleive that we had.
This is one of thousands of letters that he sent to me………..

Yes Babygirl you have told me and I love hearing it no matter how many times you say it Sweetheart! You never ever let me go without making sure you tell me or show me that not only do you love me very much but that you are thinking of me. You are right Sweetheart, we have been through a lot and we have an exstremely strong bond between us that just grows and continually gets stronger day after day. I have always considered my life blessed to have you as part of it. To have met you and captured your attention enough for you to take notice of me enough to make the effort to get to know me was the best thing to ever happen in my life. It is one of those very small moments in life that if it had not happened, EVERYTHING after that would have been different. I am so glad you looked past the 1st appearances and spent that time getting to know me. We fit together so well because w feel the same for one another.
continued from one of the letters he sent from above…..

I am yours Baby heart and soul!
What I feel for you Princess is from deep within me. It is more than just friendship, more than just lust. It is a feeling of complete want for your company, and satisfaction of being with you. It is total desire for your touch and need to have you just besid me, holding my hand for no other reason than to feel your presence. We have spent many a memorable night together, hours on end, sometimes more than 12 at a time. We have loved, laughed, fought, cried, just like you say and for me just as it is for you, it is always hard to say goodbye. I don’t even like the word lol. I miss you all the time Baby, and every minute we are not together you are in my thoughts. That is the honest truth, I don’t mean every few minutes or hour I think of you, I mean I think of you, see your face, wonder what you are doing etc.. every minute no matter what else I am doing.
continued from one of the letters he sent from above…..

I always have a spectacular time in your company. I always find myself longing for your companionship when we aren’t together. "I don’t know what I’d do if I lost you Cause I’ve been without you and I know how it feels." You are right Princess, "There is nothing in this world that feels better then to love someone with all your heart and to be loved in return the same way as you love them." You taught me that, you showed me what real deep caring love is and should be. You are the one that brought that deep feeling and want for you out in me and for that I thank you Babygirl! You are the best single thing in my life whether we are talking about the most important person, or the most important thing that has ever happened to me. You Princess are what I want to wake up for everyday and who I want to wake up with the rest of my life. I love you Sweetheart very much and from deep within my being. I will always love you that way
Dayummadeulook..no you took that wrong. I never said anything about money to see me…I said he didnt want me to bail him out with his finanicalproblems. Not sure where you got that at.

Tags: amp, big time, closure, euchre, hard time, looking for love, love, lunch, money dont matter, Online Euchre, Online Relationship, relationship, Relationship Breakups, single day, sleep, things in time

So I dated this guy 18 years ago and one day he just stops calling. Yeah he was touring with his band at the time. Well recently we just got back in touch. Is it wrong to want to know why he just stopped calling?

Tags: 18 years, closure

I was dating this guy for four months and i recently found out that he had a girlfriend that he had been with for a year as well as being with me. I didn’t know anything about her except that he told me they were exs. This was my first real relationship and i was so in love with this guy! He ended up going back to the other girl, but i can’the help thinking that he still has feelings for me! I was force to break up with him,so i have no closure. I don’t know what to do cause i constantly think about him. I saw him at a party and i could say anything or barely look at him. I said hi to his friends knowing in my heart i really miss him. I know what he did was wrong and i need to move on, buts that easier said then done when u love someone the way i loved him.

Tags: Break, broken heart, buts, closure, Dating, feelings, four months, Friends, girlfriend, heart, Heart Love, love, relationship

I had dated a guy I worked with for a few months. When things started getting serious, I wanted to run. Though my family kept telling me he was a great guy and I shouldn’t run from what scares me all the time… Needless to say I put my best foot forward and let myself fall for him. Not knowing that all this time he said he felt the same and wanted to settle down with me… Then out of the blue he says it’s over and gave me no reason why…
When I tried to find out why, he would respond with "LEAVE ME ALONE"
I still think about him everyday and can’t even try to find someone else. How do I begin the healing process to something that never had real closure?

Tags: best foot, closure, healing process, out of the blue