i slept over on him and i dont know if its because of sleeping around on him. he says he is no longer in love with me but what can i do or say. he is giving one more month to see if he heart changes…is it possible and what can be done to help him see past that please in dire need of help
well its kinda hard when you come down the stairs hot and naked from the shower and he told you girl put your clothes on….how would you feel that you want to make love to him and he told you that

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I came home from work and my wife of 19 years was gone. She didn’t take much except some clothes and a few things. She left a lengthy note which was dated a few weeks ago telling me that she’s in love with someone else and is pregnant with his child. She says she’s sorry but she hasn’t loved me for years and it’s all been a show until the girls grew up. She says she’s not coming back and I’ll get divorce papers in the mail. I called her work and her boss said she gave her notice a couple of weeks ago and she’s been gone for a week.

I feel like I’m going to throw up. Our twin 18 year old girls are away at college and don’t know she’s gone yet. I don’t know what to say to them.

I feel like just driving off a bridge. I feel like drinking until I pass out. I feel like emptying my bank account and spending it on hookers or just trying to pick up some girl at a bar and screw her. I just want to feel something good. I can barely feel anything except agony.

I did virtually nothing at work today but fight back tears and hope nobody came by my desk or talked to me.

I don’t know why this happened. I loved her to death. She was everything to me. We laughed and spent wonderful time together. We almost never fought, we talked, flirted, went out dancing just like we did 20 years ago and had a wonderful time… all the time. She always had a huge smile, ran to me when I came home, and did everything I thought a loving wife did.

How could I ever love again? I can’t tell the difference between someone who loves me and someone who doesn’t. Can one of you ladies in here explain to me how someone could masquerade as a loving wife for so many years and never give me a clue that she was unhappy? Why wouldn’t she just tell me she wasn’t happy and then maybe I could have fixed whatever was wrong.

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My son is 7 years old, nearly 8. We have been a happy family for the last few years but recently my wife is making my son into a woman. She has his cooking, cleaning, shopping for clothes, even reads him novel stories from her book club.

I could handle this alone, but the list goes on. She constantly has him watch Disney channel shows such as "Hannah Montana" and some lame show with kids singing on a boat. The other day she bought him a Jonas Brother shirt!!

However being a good and understanding father, I let this slide untill yesterday. While watching ESPN showing some Jets training camp footage, my son remarked "what a boring outfit thoose men are wearing, they should let women play football, they would know how to design there outfits better". I was furious, I grabbed him, threw him in the car and just took off.

Ive already filed the papers to divorce my wife, I love her, we havnt fought in years to be honest, but I wont let her be a bad influence to my son.

Right now we are in a hotel, I locked my son in a room were he is watching Rocky 1-5 and all the Rambo films. Im taking him camping later tommorow, as well as fishing. What else can I do to ensure my son leads a normal healthy life?

Also how can I legally make sure my wife has no contact with my son ever again?
I wish this was a joke, im not kidding.

There are other factors not mentioned for my reasons to divorce, she may be a loving wife, but her family definitley is not kind at all.

This incident yesterday is what finnally drove me however.

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we started dating in 2007.I got preg in 2008.I had the baby in 2008.I moved in with him 1 month before the baby was born.Xmas Eve of 2008 we got engaged.In June of 2010 we got married.when the baby was 2 months old, I was on his computer.I found a chat between him and some girl.I confronted him about it and he denied it.A couple days later he finally told me that truth and said that he was sorry.I forgave him. I understand that nobody is perfect If I even try to talk to my husband, before I can even say the first two words of the sentence/question he looks at me and says "Shhhh",I’m not in the mood to hear you right now.I can’t even have a convo with him because he never has time for me.The last time he changed a diaper was about 5 months ago and he only done it because his parents was right there. he wants me to take care of the baby, take care of him,(I don’t mind cooking for him and washing his clothes for him) but he wants me to and bring it to him in bed everyday, find his wallet,etc because he can’t keep up with anything.On top of all of that he expects me to keep everything clean.I don’t even feel like a wife, I feel like "the person that took his mom’s place". I don’t expect him to come home from his job (security guard) and clean and take care of the baby all day.I would just like 15-30 minutes to myself every once in a while.Once in a blue moon he will call me "beautiful", tell me I’m pretty or that he loves me.He always says that I’m not grown up or that "I need to grow up".He thinks because he has a job, he is grown up.I don’t even feel a spark with us anymore.Sometimes I find myself thinking about a divorce.When I think about a divorce I find myself daydreaming about going out with my friends, just being myself, smiling and having a life again.He doesn’t let me wear make-up, talk to my friends, well have friends for that matter, talk on the phone with any of my old friends from high school, and when I talk to my dad on the phone he rushes me to get off.He gets mad when I go and spend time with my dad.He says he doesnt trust me with our daughter when we go out without him. he doesn’t care if i go anywhere with his family because "its his family".He choses how I dress, who I talk to,and he just told me yesterday that he is putting me on a diet because Im gaining to much weight in such a short amount of time.I’m happy that im with him and were are together but im not happy with our relationship, anytime i have to go to the doctor he cusses me out and puts me down because i wake him and get him out of bed because he has to take me.I dont have a car, we are still living with his parents and we are using their car and everything like that until we can get a house for ourselves.I tried talking to him and letting him know how I feel but he laughs at me and says "oh yeah, i just make you feel so bad, don’t I".He always says that I’m a piece of shit wife and mom he doesnt want me to even be around my dad.sometimes he says that he trusted me but other times he says that he doesnt trust people around me.my dad has done some things to me that should not happen between a daughter and father but I forgave him.my husband doesnt know about all the things that happened there. but like i said nobody is perfect and everybody makes mistakes.i wont let my daughter out of my sight and my husband knows that.im so confused when it comes to him trusting me. when i go to see my dad, i have to fight with my husband, he calls me names, tells me im no good, and when he tells me not to come back,i say okay and when i go to get mine and my daughters toothbrush,he comes up to me and asks me if im staying all night and that I better be back in the house before the night is over.i just cant stand it anymore.even though my husband is in the same house/room with me,i feel like a single mother.sometimes when im out in town i look at other dads/husbands and when i catch myself doing it, i feel so bad.i love my husband and i said those vows for a reason but i dont even feel like im married or dating.i feel like im a mom and somebody that took his moms place.i feel like im in a prison. im really scared because i told my dad that i would go to court with him on tuesday and my husband doesnt want me to go and i know we will be fighting about it. when he gets mad, he will hit me, shove me, do anything to try to get me to do what he says. the day before mothers day(2010), he shoved me around and i had to go to the hospital. they put my arm in a sling and my husband wouldn’t even let me wear it because he didnt want to look bad in front of his parents.Ive been told over and over by people that i need to leave him but i cant.my parents are divorced and i know what the kid(s) go through and i dont want mine going thru any of that. i love him and even if i wanted to 100% I cant because i love him so much. we fight when w

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My wife and I have just celebrated our 14th wedding anniversary on Nov-18th. we have been married since she was 18 and I was 22. We are now 34 and 38. We have 2 boys ages 7 and 12. She is a Nurse Anesthetist and is currently doing her residency. I guess it was right around our anniversary that i noticed something just wasn’t right. I asked her about it and she assured me it was nothing could explain and she said she would get over it. I decided to just drop it.Then that fateful day came when I had left the house for a little while and came back to find a letter that she was leaving and we needed to separate for a while. I freaked and immediately started calling her and texting to get her back home. I agreed we would go to counseling and after most of the afternoon she finally returned I helped her unpack and we talked, this is where I did what I always did and just blew her off and never really listened to what was happening. She told me that I never help around the house with laundry and dishes and with kids. While she works 65+ hrs a week. I am a local truck driver and work about 45 to 50 hrs a week. We never went to counseling and I said I would change and start helping and never realized I was still being the same old me and nothing had changed. She noticed and we fought again. I finally ended up leaving this time and realized that night I screwed up bad. I called her and said I was sorry, and I was coming home to make things work. She said thank you for trying. I came home the next day which was a last Friday and I washed all of clothes in the laundry room and put them away, I washed the dishes and put them away, their was also clean dishes in the dishwasher that I put away, I cleaned up the kitchen and had the boys squared away before she got home around 6pm. We talked for several hours when she got home and I assured her I changed and I really listened to her and never raised my voice at her not even once. She told me it’s just something she feels and has felt this way for over a year! She said it was something she needs to work on. I assured her this was the "new" me and I am a changed man and I was sorry it took this long for me to realize what I was doing. I think we made love that night then I went shopping with her on Saturday and we made love again that night. we went to church on sunday (something we hadn’t done in many years). We just talked for a while telling each other that we loved one another and made love again. Monday I went to work and she texted me that afternoon saying that she would be late working, I told her no problem that I had to drive to McAllen Tx that night which was 9 hours away and I would ask my mom to come sit with the kids. I went home that afternoon and washed dishes and done laundry and fed the kids and made their lunches and laid their clothes out for the next morning. I then called her and brought her a hamburger up to her work because she was hungary. She was just getting off and so we ate and talked a little. She assured me she loved me and that she was working on her "Issues". I told her everything was done at home and I left to go get in my truck. Drove all night thinking about us and got to where I was going at about 5:30a and unloaded at 7a. Still no sleep worrying about us. I called her on the way back and we calmly talked and this is when she told me she loves me more than anything but she’s not "in love" with me, because of all the time I treated her wrong by walking on her. She said she sees that I have changed and she was very happy that we can talk and she felt better about telling me. She also said she wished I had done this a very long time ago and that she was here and willing to get rid of her feelings and move on, but she needs help from a someone. Tonight we talked again and I assured her that I am forever changed and how much I love her, and I would be the best Dad, Husband and Friend she could ask for. I explained how sorry I was for doing her the way I had done over the years and that she was the best wife anyone could ever ask for. We both broke down crying, and after a little while we finished agreeing we would fix this. A little later we ended up making love again from kissing. This time it was very passionate. I don’t want to loose her and she don’t want us to end either she has an appointment with counselor on Monday and I do on the 22nd of December. I know she has anger about the past she needs to deal with and I am doing my very best still. She just don’t know how. I told her tonight that was done kissing up and I was just going to be the old me just an "updated" version. The guy she fell in love with before. I don’t want to drive her away by trying to hard. I am worried sick. Does anyone out there see her and us getting better? What could I do to help her fall in love with me again? I have a company Christmas Party Saturday night, she is very excited about that and so am I. What could I do to on this night to help re-spar

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