I know it can very depending on the circumstances so here is a brief overview of mine:

-I knew him 7 years (we broke up 4 of those years and tried again 2 years ago)
-We have a 5 year old
-I love him dearly… we were planning to get married
-He began smoking pot everyday and he lied about a lot which caused A LOT of arguments
-He supposedly quit but continued hanging out with his old drug buddies

We broke up 2 months ago and while Im trying to focus on being the best mommy I can… I am completely torn up on the inside. Sometimes I’ll feel okay but the heartbreak will hit me like a ton of bricks again. When will this pain go away when I have to see him every other week for visitation? My heart literally aches. How long did it take you to heal?
You are telling me to support something that is illegal. How about last fall when he got arrested and sat his butt in jail for 2 days for possession?

IT IS ILLEGAL!!! If you think getting high to escape the reality you screwed up your life is worth leaving your child without a father then maybe its best you keep gettin blazed and spend the rest of your life in jail before you have the opportunity to have kids to screw up.

Grow up, kiddo. Life isnt about making you happy. Its about doing for others. You’re just a selfish excuse for a human being.
It has nothing to do with weed making you unintelligent (thats a whole ‘nother argument in itself). My issue lies with the fact that it is illegal. Whether you think it should be legalized or not is irrelevant… it just is. Its easy for you to justify your actions based on your own personal circumstances. But you arent me. I had to watch my child beg her father to wake up off the couch every day when he was too blazed to notice her. I had to deal with his mood swings when he couldnt afford to buy weed for a week and put me in a choke hold… something he never once did in the years before he even tried smoking.

He became lazy. We went from being a loving couple to people who sat at home all day because he "just didnt feel like doing anything" he was so high. He used to be active before he depended on a substance just to get him through another day of dealing with people.

Im the one who listened to my daughter cry when daddy forgot to come get her after we broke up. Not you.
I was the one struggling financially when he couldnt pay he didnt pay child support only to find out later he blew it on pot and K2 "spice".

I was the one holding our family together and standing by his side for 2 years. He used to be loving and selfless. Since he started smoking he started to lie about everything.

You dont know HOW it feels to be told getting high is better than being sober with your family. So before you go defending your addiction, take a look at how it hurts those around you. My mom smoked all through my childhood and I was totally neglected emotionally. Smoking weed or doing any drug for that matter hurt those around you whether you choose to see it or not. Chances are you wont because its like you guys are blinded. And its people like me and my innocent little 5 year old girl who are hurt and neglected as a result.
My mind is molded? Sure you could say that. But not by the textbooks. My experiences alone showed me how drugs of any kind suck the life out of you and those around you. I have first hand experience… I was the daughter of a pot head. And I chose not to do this to my own child which is why its unfortunate her father is making the choices he is. It has nothing to do with "opening my mind" to try new things. I have had more than my fair share of experiences with it through the people I know. I hope for your sake and the sake of any children you have in the future you quit or seek help. No one needs a life of depending on a substance to make you feel happy. Its artificial.

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I admitted two nights ago to my husband, I slept with someone else twice (see my previous two questions for the back story, not going to retype it again) and screwed up. I prayed he would understand and give our marriage a go but instantly flew into a rage and made me sleep on the couch.

The next morning, he had packed my bags and clothes were all thrown into boxes and he said I best be gone when he gets back. So I had to go my sisters and today I called to talk reason with him and he said hes filing for divorce. I am heartbroken beyond words and wish I could repair my marriage. I was in a low place when I slept with my brother in laws best friend and I know I screwed up. I was just heartbroken over a series of fights me and my husband had and the lack of attention he has given me over the last two months (we married in November 2009). I just hate to think I am now going to 20 (my birthday in Saturday) and a divorcee’.

Anyone got any advice? Like how I can make my husband see that I love him still and want to form a family with him? I have thought about working on my 6 year old stepdaughter but he has refused me from ever seeing her again and I loved that girl like she was my own and now my world has come crumbling down.

If I get divorced, I will lose my whole stable world. My family is far aware and we had carved a life together. I will not get a thing out of this because my adultery will be used against me and he owns his house legally. So can anyone help me save my marriage to my soul mate?
I already feel guilty enough. My husband has made it clear hes heartbroken after providing me with so much and being faithful to me.

And DO NOT tell me I am too young to be married. I love my husband and thats all that matters. My question is not related to my age but a call for advice. If you tell me I am too young to be married, I will downrate and report for not providing an answer.
Daughter, my husband owned that house since he was 18, years before we married. I never had a deed to it and my state still has adultery as a ground for divorce and is still not liberal in divorce. I am up sh*t creek property wise because the house is legally his and his familys (been in it for 110 years).
Daughter, my husband owned that house since he was 18, years before we married. I never had a deed to it and my state still has adultery as a ground for divorce and is still not liberal in divorce. I am up sh*t creek property wise because the house is legally his and his familys (been in it for 110 years).
Daughter, my husband owned that house since he was 18, years before we married. I never had a deed to it and my state still has adultery as a ground for divorce and is still not liberal in divorce. I am up sh*t creek property wise because the house is legally his and his familys (been in it for 110 years).

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somehow, to find a way to overlook her changes. She’s gained 300 lbs., she sags all over, doesn’t move off the couch, she doesn’t bathe, and nags constantly. Other than that, she’s the same. Are there pills I can take to make me think it’s still her? I want to salvage what was once a torrid love affair.

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so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year and 9 months (in a few days) and for the first year of our relationship we never fought about anything. after that the fights started coming. but they were little and stupid and we got over them quickly. but now we can expect them to happen every few days and they last a long time and its getting harder and harder to deal with…

hes the kind of person that thinks you fight, you walk away from the situation, sleep on it, forget it, and move on.

i have to talk about it and resolve it right then and there or i cant sleep and i dwell and i end up thinking that everything is my fault.

and as you can imagine…that creates a whole other mess of problems.

anyway, we both just graduated high school and we were looking at colleges…he picked a college that is the furthest he can be away from me, but still in the united states (we live in washington state and hes moving to florida) … and he wont give me a specific reason as to why he is going, which makes me think that he wants to get away from me because we fight to much or something. i feel like he thinks that im not the same person he fell in love with.

but he has told me that he still loves me and wants to be with me. but the way hes acting makes me think the exact opposite.

hes really just not interested in me anymore. he doesnt like to play with me. he just wants me to sit on the couch and watch tv until he needs to go to bed.

so i guess my question is : how do i make him fall back in love with me? how do i make sure that when he leaves hes really going to miss me and hes not going to dump me?

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