My spouse and I have been separated for a few days and my son and I will be flying to go live with my parents for awhile. My spouse fell out of love with me and he refuses to work on our marriage. He says I can come home anytime I want and he’ll try and make an effort but he can’t guarantee he’ll love me again. I still love him with all my heart and sad and heartbroken. I’ve tried over the years to communicate with him but he has trouble communicating with me and he snaps at me and he has anger issues. I’ve made more of an effort to save my marriage than he has. I’m having trouble keeping myself busy and moving on to get over this emotional pain. It’s very hard.
I know you’re going to say to get counseling. I already know that. I just want opinions here first.

Tags: anger issues, counseling, emotional pain, Fall In Love, few days, Guarantee, heart, love, marriage, parents

I’m trying and trying to get over how my ex treated so bad at the end. It’s just killing me and feels like my heart is repeatedly stubbed. I have no clue what I have done to deserve all this. I had never betrayed him or been mean. I loved him so much. I tried to go out with friends, started new things and meeting a counselor…. positive stuff I could think of. But open up the wound from the recent past at counseling later brought me flashbacks and I’m spending so much time crying on bed. I just want to live my life again, but all the fear, anxiety, and loneliness are just squeezing my chest. Do you think someday this will end and I can trust guys again?

Tags: Clue, counseling, Counselor, fear anxiety, flashbacks, heart, loneliness

My wife and I separated a year and a half ago during a very rough period in our lives (financially), after eight years of marriage. We have two kids together and haven’t divorced yet. After about a year we started dating other people; we really could not see eye to eye and i was almost sure she hated me. I must also mention that i could not stomach seeing my children around her choice of new "friends". ? Yes, they hang out with our kids..
Just a couple of weeks ago I finally came to accept my share of the fault and mistakes in our marriage. I have realized that we turned down help and advice from friends and family and I now regret very much that we did not give it a chance. Since we have gotten over our tension towards each other, we’ve discussed the possibility starting over. I feel that I do not love her anymore even though I care about her very much that I am willing to truly give it a second chance, she tells me that she feels the same way about me. The other reason is that we just miss our kids and having a family too much, even though we have shared custody 50/50. I fear that we are feeling this way because we hate being alone and if things do not work out, of course our kids are going to be disappointed and affected emotionally. Where do we start, should we start dating again? seek counseling? or are we setting ourselves up for failure?
Has anyone had a similar experience?

Tags: counseling, eye to eye, failure, friends and family, marriage, rough period, second chance, Stomach, tension

My wife seems determined to divorce me. I realize, it’s better if we’re together. Best for the baby. I love my baby. It came to the point where she called the cops to kick me out. If I request counseling, what is the chance that couseling can save our marriage? What is the chance she will go to counseling with me?

Tags: cops, counseling, divorce, Help Marriage, House Wife, marriage

A few weeks ago my wife told me she loves me but is no longer in love. The issues she says caused this are today gone and she knows that. (The issues were that for years I had a very opinionated and controlling personality and that I never got as close to her son as I should have. I realize that those controlling feelings of there is a “right way” or a “safe way” to act were wrong and I will never be like that again. And, I have made amends with her son and will love him forever like my own.) Other than those personality issues, I was a great husband to her. (Never abusive, always loving, always complimentary, very supportive, etc.) We are going to counseling now.

I’d love for you to share – what are things that you did or your spouse did or you & your spouse did that helped rekindle the romance, bring those feelings back, and help you “fall in love” again? How long might this take? It has only been two days since she decided to try to reconcile. Yesterday we spent the whole day together doing stuff (errands, lunch, movie, had a late beer, etc.) – but no emotion from her – no kisses, no hand holding, etc. I know it is very soon but that was REALLY hard for me. I’m trying …

Can you help me (us)?

Tags: amp, controlling personality, counseling, emotion, Fall In Love, feelings, lunch, personality issues, romance, safe way