I had no contact with The Ex over the summer, really after I broke up with him. Sporadic texting. Never flirty. He said a couple hurtful things about how he "missed me on occasion" and mostly he missed how supportive I was. So I left it. Until, a little over a month ago, I sent kind of a bitchy email saying he "didn’t have to pay me back any of the money he owed me because I’m not hurting for cash and I know he is. Everything has been going so great for me this summer. It’s so weird how everything just got better for both of us after we broke up". He responded- seemed grateful.

A week later he randomly texted about how I looked like someone in a movie- total foot in the door move. We ended up going for coffee and sushi. It was really fun but he was overly familiar the whole time. From the get-go he was throwing things down my shirt and inviting me out to his cabin. Whatever, it was good for my ego. We ended up hanging out like twice a week after that. Didn’t talk every day necessarily but often. He was always flirty. His birthday rolled around and I took him for a quick drink after school as a present. We got drunk…he admitted he still loves me. I told him I was seeing someone. He slapped my ass a couple times. We talked about the breakup a lot.

We hung out a little more until last weekend (so it’s been over a month hanging out). I was on the rocks with my boyfriend and tried breaking up with him (but he cried so I got freaked and let it be for a bit). The Ex showed up at my work when my shift was over to take me shopping. We went for dinner somewhere nice first and he paid- had a couple drinks. He bought me a present. Then my boyfriend ditched on the plans we had that evening so The Ex suggested we go and play cards. Harmless. He picked up wine and we went to my place. Got drunk. He asked if I wanted a backrub…we slept together…he left a few hours later. He texted the next day to see how I was. We ended up making plans for the following weekend (this weekend). He picked me up from work…took me grocery shopping. We got wine. Same thing happened but he stayed over. He brought up our past and asked why I always tried to break up with him. We talked about how we used to have plans to get married. We cuddled and he stroked my hair. He stayed for a bit in the morning but had plans and made plans to see me that afternoon. We hung out…it was fun. I had an hour break in there to go officially break up with my bf. I came back and talked to The Ex about it and I was super bummed out. I asked for a hug and he held me for a while. But when I put out my hand…he high fived and didn’t hold it.

So I asked him where we were…like, are we dating now? And he said…what? He would barely look at me. I said I broke it off with my bf at least partially because of him. We hung out all the time. He still has feelings for me. He buys me stuff and takes me places and we talk all the time…it’s like dating already. And he said he hadn’t thought about it that way and he doesn’t want to date anyone right now because of school. And I said I didn’t want to see him any more than we were (also because of school), so how would it make things different? His responses were short and kind of seemed like he was scared or super uncomfortable. And I said if he thinks we’re just friends we shouldn’t be having sex and I didn’t think he could keep it PG. And he said he could and he wanted to stay friends with me…he wanted to have me in his life. So when I tried to say we couldn’t be friends he talked me out of it. I brought up how he admitted he thinks about me sexually like, every day. How he said he still loves me. And he said a) well yeah, so what and b) we were together for so long of course he still has feelings for me. So I gave him the ultimatum that we could be friends but he couldn’t flirt at all because he knows I still have feelings and it’s confusing and making me feel like dirt- and that he can’t change his mind and say he wants me later. And he was all "Yeah, totally!"

So…he flirted from the start. Admitted he still loves me. Hung out and essentially dated me for a month before anything happened. You don’t hang out with your ex and buy them shit and flirt AND talk about the past (every time we drink he brings it up and we talk about it for hours) and actually think you’re just friends, right? You don’t tickle them to turn it into just cuddling and talk about how good it feels to hold them again, do you?

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My girlfriend of 4 years and I have been broken up for a little over 2 months now. we were trying to work it out but we got in another big fight and now she says she doesnt feel the same way about our relationship. We have broken up several times before, but we always got back together. im not so sure this time, and I have been freaking out lately. I know she still loves me, because she has told me, but she is dedicated to getting over me. so much so, that she avoids me. We both go to college together and the semster is over this week. we will both be returning home for teh summer, but I go back for summer classes after being home for only a week. I know were gonna be around each other at parties, bars, ect. How can I get her to feel the same way about our relationship again. I have already tried to tell her how much I love her, and she believes me but says she wants me to be happy but she says she "knows it cant ever be the same" and she "doesnt feel the same anymore". how can that be if she still loves me. She says we could POSSIBLY date in the future, but she needs time, and she didnt really even want to say we could later because she "didnt want to get my hopes up". I cant help but feel this week in town when I see her a couple times will be my last shot at getting her back. I havnt been talking to her, and I wont until saturday when im gonna see her at a party. Shes the only one for me. Someone please give me some advice on what to do. Im all out of ideas

Tags: couple times, ex girlfriend, girlfriend, relationship, returning home, semster, several times, Summer 98, Summer Classes

I’m seeing this guy but we are not involved in a relationship. After a year and almost a half, I finally told him about my feelings and he said he loved me too. The thing is when we see each other it’s so passionate, we talk a lot, watch movies, lay down in bed all day, kissing, confiding thigs, snuggling, I met his parents a couple times.. but that nite, when he tols me he loved me, he also said that he is so afraid to love again, he feels like if he couldn’t invest himself bcuz of his last one. But he says, baby, you know I’d love to, I just can’t for now I don’t know… I love you I love being w u, u know I luv you.. I’m confusing myself. FUuckckk Don’t tell me this babe.. And we fell asleep, and 3 hours later he woke up and said Babe, I love you..

THen I tried to call him back after that and he never replied to me, he also asked me to call him when I get home, and etc.. but.. its like if he was afraid or I dunno.. it’s always like that, we have intense and passionate moments as if we were a couple, but then after, I never know when we are going to see each other.
Sometimes do think I’m just a booty call but the way he is sumtimes tells me it’s not… realy confusing bcuz he didnt have to tell me that to keep me around or to have sex..

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I caught my husband a couple times cheating and he always pressure me not to leave him, but I do not have any trust anymore. We do not have any children. Now my ex that i was with for 5 years is still in love with me, he has been contacting me for 10 years as he never got over me leaving. I left because i was young and did not know if he was the one, but now I think he is. Don’t you? or should I try to save my marriage?

Tags: 10 years, cheating husband, couple times, love, Love Marriage, marriage

My ex and I broke up a little over 3 months ago in September. We were together for 1 yr and 3 months. We have been through a lot in that time though. We technically traveled the world together as she studied in France while I studied in Spain. Our split was mainly because there was a lot of pressure from our relationship because it progressed faster than we had planned and felt like we were very involved in each others lives. I guess you can say to a point where the appreciation and excitement of one another was losing its spark. Also the distance wasn’t helping when we were away from each other during our school semesters. Anyways when we broke up she studied one more semester abroad in Italy and I was here in the U.S. I stopped contact with her during the three months because I didn’t want to push her away by possibly making her feel any guilt from the separation and which I also thought was the best move for me regardless. During the 3 months I have not thought about her that much really and have been going out and enjoying the single life as you may say. Been able to move on from this instead of moping and feeling depressed from it, which I know I should of been doing anyways. So I have been fine and I know she had been fine especially being away from home.

Now she had come back home a couple weeks ago and I have seen her for the first time. I was very very happy to just see her and I had missed her very much. We got together a couple times just to catch up a little bit. One of the last times we had spoke, we kind of just spoke about how our relationship was before and how things may have been the cause of our separation. However I had asked the question of her possibly dating me again sometime in the future and she said maybe but that she wasn’t sure and that she has been happy being single. But our conversation got cut off after that cause we both had places to be at. A few days later I was invited by one of her best friends to her best friends Birthday Party. I had attended with a couple of my friends that they knew and we hung out with them and had a good time for the most part. For me it was the first time I had really felt the feeling again of really missing being her Man/ boyfriend and it was starting to kill me. I didn’t really interact with her too much that night but my friends had more than me. At the end of the night when I said goodbye I told her that she looked great and that it was nice seeing her. And she then informed me that she was wearing the dress that I had bought her before. Then we had a big hug and then an unexpected almost near kiss goodbye. Really wanted too but didn’t think it was right to. But my friends were all saying that they saw something that night. Maybe little indications of interests still there.

The next day I tried seeing if she wanted to hang out later that night. First she wasn’t able to do anything cause she had things to finish up and wasn’t sure if she felt like going out. Then I had mentioned that she should let me take her out once. After that she had said that our conversation that we had before the other day had gotten cutoff and that maybe we should get together and talk about it. So I said sure and then she asked to meet her at like a starbucks. Then before I was on my way she had mentioned that she didn’t want to leave the house and if I wanted to just go over her house instead. So I did. We spoke about what was going on between us and I guess you can say that she has been happy being single and isn’t quite looking to be in a relationship, however we had agreed to "Date" each other though. She admitted that being back home, that it is weird not hanging out with me when she is home or getting back from work and what not. Now she said she was afraid to go through with just dating because she thought that I wouldn’t be able to just date. However I felt like there was more to it than just being worried about me. But I’m unsure. So I guess you can say that we are technically dating now. We have hung out only a couple times now but when we do it feels just like how it used to be before when we were together. And I feel she tries to hold herself back at times but then she can’t at times as well and just goes with it. However we still now kiss each other at times and it seems cool for the most part. But for me I’m starting to feel the feelings that I once had for this girl. I loved her very much and I still do love her. Now I feel stuck in my head and what to think. I want to be back with her but at the same time I have no clue on how she feels because its like mixed signs.

My friends have told me that I am in a good spot and that I shouldn’t be worrying because they feel that she might be having similar feelings as well but she may be afraid from it as well. I just don’t know what to do and how I might be able to go about to possibly getting her back. I need some help, advice, something. If some of y’all can help me that would be great. It’s just tha

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