I have been dating a girl for about 2 months now. When we are together the chemistry is perfect and every outside influence concerning her family and friends are completely supporting our relationship and view me as "the one." The only problem is her ex-boyfriend. They dated for about 3 years off and on while he lived for away partying all the time and taking her on an emotional roller coaster. He’d tell her he’s not ready to commit because he’s scared and therefore their "thing" was solely physical every time he came to town. A couple months ago, he came back to town lived with her for a couple weeks (he had nowhere else to go) and started treating her like they were a real couple. Well when he left back to party city, he cheated on her. That was when she had enough, she was heartbroken and decided to move on. Thats when I came in the picture about a month later. Everything since then has been perfect. I have never been happier in my life since we started dating. The only problem is her ex-boyfriend is now freaking out after he heard that she has moved on with me and is telling her he is in love with her, wants her back, wants to have kids with her, and all the things she wanted to hear in the last 3 years she’s known him. Nobody, not her friends, or her family like this guy, nor has he ever made an attempt to even meet her family. I know he has the upper hand over me because of all the things they’ve been through, but where do i go from here? She is now confused about what she is supposed to do. I had a conversation with her about life and these situations and honestly, i’ve played all three roles before in the past at different times, and I know the psychology behind it and how these things work. I also told her exactly how I feel about her, how I want not only her in my life but her family and friends as well, and how genuine and pure my feelings are for her. Time has no effect on intuition or the feeling you have inside when you just know who you are meant to be with. It certainly doesn’t take 3 years of a physical off and on relationship to figure it out either. This guy is telling her that sometimes you have to lose something to figure out what you lost and everything else in the book.

So where do I go from here? She wants to stay together because she knows what we could have, but her past with him and her feelings are too much for her to handle, and she feels like she needs a break to figure out what is right for her. But this would entail her talking to him and maybe seeing him in person. Do I step aside and let her make a mistake? or what do i do?

Tags: 3 years, chemistry, couple weeks, different times, emotional roller coaster, family and friends, feelings, gf, intuition, love, party city, partying, psychology, relationship

I’ve been dealing with a breakup from a girl I’ve been with for the past three years. We met at the end of senior year in high school. I went to school 10 hours away freshman year and we stuck through it. I felt stronger and stronger about her each day. I decided to come back home and go to school with her for sophomore year. Again, it was a fantastic year and I loved every minute I spent with her. We were best friends, inseparable and we connected on a very deep level. I knew I loved this girl but I felt like I needed to go back to my first school to get a significantly better degree. At the end of sophomore year I told her I wanted to go back. She began to pull away until I told her I was doing it for us and to better my future. That made her feel better but she still pulled back. I kind of changed too as a result. I felt weird about her actions and I knew she took my leaving as a slap in the face. I began to be more short with her and our relationship took a turn for the worst. I thought everything was fine until one day a couple weeks before I left that she came in my bedroom as I woke up and said she wanted to be single the next year. She said the way I had been acting, the distance, and everything made her want this. I went through many stages of falling apart, anger, upset, numb, happy, just every emotion. A few weeks ago I got to school and my feelings stabilized. I realized that this is a girl worth fighting for. I took a look at myself and the way I had acted to push her away. I think God forced me to make the decision to leave to better myself and now I feel like I can be the most amazing boyfriend to her. I’m now going back home because I don’t feel this is the place for me right now. This decision was not because of her, but it doesn’t hurt that the love of my life is there. She’s been kind of seeing somebody now. She says she likes him but still loves me. She asks me why I’d deserve a second chance after hurting her. She says maybe in a few years we can try again. I know I’ve changed and I know that our relationship is right. I know I can be everything this girl could ever want. I know her better than anyone in the world. We are still best friends. I’m afraid she’s already written me off because she is unsure and doesn’t want to be hurt again, even though she hasn’t told me this. I’m going back in a few days and I’ve gotten her to go to dinner with me this upcoming weekend. She says its strictly as friends. I want to show her I can be a great boyfriend but how can I do this as just a friend? How can I show her I’ve changed and will always make her happy? What about this other guy, I’ve been supportive but how do I approach it? If you’ve read this far then I really appreciate it and I look forward to hearing back. Thanks.
No need to be a dick Linah. Thanks to everyone else who’s taking me seriously
@ LM: correction, shes not with another guy just seeing him. she says she doesn’t want to be his girlfriend even though hes asked…makes me think even more shes confused as to what to do

Tags: anger, best friends, couple weeks, Dealing With A Breakup, emotion, Fall In Love, feelings, freshman year, girl worth, god, Love Of My Life, relationship, second chance, senior year, slap in the face, sophomore year

My ex and I broke up a little over 3 months ago in September. We were together for 1 yr and 3 months. We have been through a lot in that time though. We technically traveled the world together as she studied in France while I studied in Spain. Our split was mainly because there was a lot of pressure from our relationship because it progressed faster than we had planned and felt like we were very involved in each others lives. I guess you can say to a point where the appreciation and excitement of one another was losing its spark. Also the distance wasn’t helping when we were away from each other during our school semesters. Anyways when we broke up she studied one more semester abroad in Italy and I was here in the U.S. I stopped contact with her during the three months because I didn’t want to push her away by possibly making her feel any guilt from the separation and which I also thought was the best move for me regardless. During the 3 months I have not thought about her that much really and have been going out and enjoying the single life as you may say. Been able to move on from this instead of moping and feeling depressed from it, which I know I should of been doing anyways. So I have been fine and I know she had been fine especially being away from home.

Now she had come back home a couple weeks ago and I have seen her for the first time. I was very very happy to just see her and I had missed her very much. We got together a couple times just to catch up a little bit. One of the last times we had spoke, we kind of just spoke about how our relationship was before and how things may have been the cause of our separation. However I had asked the question of her possibly dating me again sometime in the future and she said maybe but that she wasn’t sure and that she has been happy being single. But our conversation got cut off after that cause we both had places to be at. A few days later I was invited by one of her best friends to her best friends Birthday Party. I had attended with a couple of my friends that they knew and we hung out with them and had a good time for the most part. For me it was the first time I had really felt the feeling again of really missing being her Man/ boyfriend and it was starting to kill me. I didn’t really interact with her too much that night but my friends had more than me. At the end of the night when I said goodbye I told her that she looked great and that it was nice seeing her. And she then informed me that she was wearing the dress that I had bought her before. Then we had a big hug and then an unexpected almost near kiss goodbye. Really wanted too but didn’t think it was right to. But my friends were all saying that they saw something that night. Maybe little indications of interests still there.

The next day I tried seeing if she wanted to hang out later that night. First she wasn’t able to do anything cause she had things to finish up and wasn’t sure if she felt like going out. Then I had mentioned that she should let me take her out once. After that she had said that our conversation that we had before the other day had gotten cutoff and that maybe we should get together and talk about it. So I said sure and then she asked to meet her at like a starbucks. Then before I was on my way she had mentioned that she didn’t want to leave the house and if I wanted to just go over her house instead. So I did. We spoke about what was going on between us and I guess you can say that she has been happy being single and isn’t quite looking to be in a relationship, however we had agreed to "Date" each other though. She admitted that being back home, that it is weird not hanging out with me when she is home or getting back from work and what not. Now she said she was afraid to go through with just dating because she thought that I wouldn’t be able to just date. However I felt like there was more to it than just being worried about me. But I’m unsure. So I guess you can say that we are technically dating now. We have hung out only a couple times now but when we do it feels just like how it used to be before when we were together. And I feel she tries to hold herself back at times but then she can’t at times as well and just goes with it. However we still now kiss each other at times and it seems cool for the most part. But for me I’m starting to feel the feelings that I once had for this girl. I loved her very much and I still do love her. Now I feel stuck in my head and what to think. I want to be back with her but at the same time I have no clue on how she feels because its like mixed signs.

My friends have told me that I am in a good spot and that I shouldn’t be worrying because they feel that she might be having similar feelings as well but she may be afraid from it as well. I just don’t know what to do and how I might be able to go about to possibly getting her back. I need some help, advice, something. If some of y’all can help me that would be great. It’s just tha

Tags: best friends, birthday party, couple times, couple weeks, ex girlfriend, excitement, few days, friends birthday, Guess, guilt, italy, little bit, relationship, school semesters, single life, spain, three months

My ex boyfriend and I were on good terms and I was in his life. He doesn’t want to see anyone else, but he doesn’t want a relationship either. I stopped talking to him a couple weeks ago, thinking he’ll miss me and want a relationship. Am I doing the right thing by not talking to him and giving him zero attention? I need advice on what to do to get him back. What will make him want to pursue a relationship again with me? What makes guys want someone?

Tags: couple weeks, doing the right thing, Miss Amp, relationship, T Amp

Me and my ex had to breakup a couple weeks ago because of her psycho parents and now she wants me back shes always asking if we could get back together, but lately Ive met this new girl who i really like and i was planning on asking out but now i don’t know who to pick or what to do?

Tags: couple weeks, ex girlfriend, new girl, parents, psycho