I am in a happy, stable (semi open) marriage with my man. He allows me to date women. We have been together 10 years. He and I recently met/got to slightly know a woman who is SPECTACULAR! Since the minute we both met her (and each separately the first time) we conected with her on many levels, and she was very flirty with us sep and then together when we met up together. We both got an immediate bi or lesbian vibe from her. But then we found out she was married but yet she continues to exude a flirtatiousness with mostly me the woman. (less with him now) Soon we will be meeting HER husband as well and will be hanging out as a couple. I don’t think they are swingers but I can almost bet SHE is at least bi (or closeted). I am SOOOO attracted to her that I burst out of my skin when I think of her!!! And when she was in my presence those few times, I got the same kind of energy from her that she also loves being in my presence! I am almost certain I am not mistaken with these vibes, I am also pretty sure she knows I am bi bc its openly on my myspace profile as such and we are friends on there. We are going to start hanging out as 2 couples soon, and though I am happy to be ‘just friends’ with the couple, my crush will always shine thru I fear. How, if, or when should I tell or show her I am attracted to her? At some point I don’t mind risking rejection if I do make a move and she declines. Because I know we and I could still be friends even with the humiliation of being rejected lol, but she is SO worth the chance to find out! Last time we hung out with her, she was excited about drinking wine together. If we have wine again, and she continues to be flirty, and I continue to be attracted, should I use the wine to my advantage lol…! And how do I make a move? Ask first or try to be a little affectionate and see what happens? In the meantime, I can’t stop thinking about her. My husband thinks its so cute… I am lucky to have the relationship I have with him and I will never leave my man. But this woman is literally ONE in a million and I would love to nurture whatever special relationship/friendship I can with her. And, where does her hubby fit in all this? Also, I am in my 30s the woman in her late 40s thanks!
Not everyone views marriage as YOU people do. 65% of people cheat on their spouses. I really hoped that someone with an OPEN mind could have answered my question properly instead of judge me. And for the first 2 responders, for your info, we have brought other people in before with nothing but bliss and fun for all… you should try it sometime!

Tags: 10 years, Bet, Bisexual, couples, Crush, drinking wine, humiliation, just friends, last time, lol, marriage, Met, open marriage, presence, rejection, relationship, vibe, vibes, Woman

do couples who breakup ever have the chance of getting back together again?
honestly, you can make it work, im against people who say, only to break up again.. if u still love that person why not get back together with them.,. u can make it work, u just have to try and keep working at it, why give up?

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honestly, you can make it work, im against people who say, only to break up again.. if u still love that person why not get back together with them.,. u can make it work, u just have to try and keep working at it, why give up?

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So, I am bisexual. I was going out with my ex boyfriend in September 09. He asked me out; we’re in the same school and he is the reason why I came out to the entire school. He lives kind of far away and I understand we couldn’t see each other as much as couples should, but I noticed that he never tried his best at school to show affection; He was out to some of his friends, but not everyone – not out like me. We either had to meet up in the bathroom and just hug and kiss, but that’s it. So one day my parents decided to take me and my brothers to Starved Rock [some really nice attraction in Illinois] and i remember that day because it was our anniversary. [it was in November] My parents made plans about going there a week before the way we actually had gone and so I let my ex know about it, i asked him if he wanted to come but he refused because he said he would feel uncomfortable being with my parents and stuff and I asked him why and he said because we’re a couple, and i told him it’s not like they’re going to know. I respected his decision and just left the situation alone. So, the day came and I sent him a message through facebook congratulating ourselves cause it was a month being together. I left to starved rock with my family [it's like 2 hours away from my house] and that was my day. By the way, he has no parents, he was deported from Colombia to Chicago and he lives with a friend of his, and he does not have a cell phone. The phone he used when we spoke was his friend’s. So, i remember coming back home at night and he sent me a message on facebook telling me that he was mad that I didn’t call him or anything. [i tried contacting him from starved rock, but there was no signal and i wanted to do it in the morning before i left, but i remembered him telling me to never call his friend's phone cause his friend didn't know about him] so I was hurt because it was not my fault that i couldn’t communicate with him, and plus he chose NOT to come with me to starved rock which would have been a PERFECT place to spend an anniversary at. Then, he was telling me how he fantasized about my straight brother, who also goes to our school and that he thought my brother was cute and everything. That wasn’t the only time he told me that. I was really mad and i ended the relationship that same day. Every since, til now, he sends me a message through facebook again and he tells me how he wishes he can go back into time and how he would make a great boyfriend; he basically wants me to give him another chance… but I’m not sure if i should buy it or not. I don’t know. He has a history of telling people at school that he thinks they’re hot and stuff, and I also heard that he’s asked people out but they said no. What should I do? I am so confused. He was my first boyfriend, and i still have feelings for him, but i don’t want to get hurt.
HELP!

Tags: affection, anniversary, Boyfriend Help, cell phone, colombia, couples, entire school, Ex Boyfriend, facebook, kiss, parents, starved rock

How do I stop my divorce? Have you been asking yourself that question lately? It’s a hard question to answer because every situation is so different. In many cases it can be answered, “Yes, for a t least a while.”

Divorce lawyers do a booming business. Over half of marriages end in divorce. Have you ever wondered why that number is so high?  Is it because too many couples get married too quickly before they really know what they’re getting into? Are they asking, “Can I stop my divorce?” practically before the last piece of wedding cake is wrapped?

Are people marrying too young? These things might seem like pat answers, but when you consider that many couples who have been married for 20, 30 and 40 years are getting divorced too, that seems to eliminate the more frivolous marriages and divorces like those we see among starlets and stars.

No, usually when you wonder, “How do I stop my divorce?” it’s not because you married too young or because you’re in a marriage that was doomed from the start. It’s just that you’ve grown apart from your spouse.

On one hand that’s good. It means you’ve grown, and generally a married person needs to be in a caring, nurturing marriage to grow. On the other hand it’s all too easy to grow in such a way that we feel a bit isolated from our spouse, as if they don’t know a certain part of us that we might like to keep private.

When one spouse grows and takes on new interests, it can cause that disconnect between the spouses. Sometimes there’s jealousy and envy that a spouse is succeeding while the other feels inadequate or cheated in some way. Marriage counseling is the recommended treatment for such feelings.

Until or instead of counseling, though, you can try to take an interest in something that your spouse does apart from you. You’ll quickly discover if the gap between your activities is the problem. If your spouse isn’t thrilled about your interest, then let it go. He or she considers that particularly activity to be me time for them.

On the other hand, if your spouse seems very enthusiastic about you getting involved, maybe that was part of the problem all along. He or she wanted to include you but didn’t know how to go about it, or didn’t think you would be interested.

Show genuine interest and ask questions without overdoing it unless you are genuinely excited by the topic. Engage your spouse in conversation about the interest. Be affectionate as you’re talking by putting a hand on his/her arm or shoulder.

Since you’re wondering, “Can I stop my divorce?” you’re going to want to do everything you can get to things on your side. You’re in rescue mode, so no matter how disinterested you might be in your spouse’s hobby, don’t let it show.

And while you’re wondering, “Can I stop my divorce?” don’t forget that your spouse might turn around and ask you about your hobby, too.

Tags: amp, couples, Divorce Lawyers, Pat Answers, stop my divorce, Wedding Cake

Dealing with a breakup is never an easy situation and T.W. Jackson in his new book, The Magic of Making Up, seems to really understand the difficulties couples face when one occurs. His methods are by no means conventional, but that may be precisely why they are so very effective.

He understands that most people rely on traditional methods of handling a break up and end up falling into useless and self-destructive patterns that are ineffectual. Couples who really want to heal their relationships, and find the support and guidance they need, can’t go wrong with The Magic of Making Up.

The author, T-Dub as he likes to be called, offers a very straight forward and honest approach to dealing with a breakup. He explains his techniques by using real life examples and showing what happens when a variety of scenarios play out. He is very clear about the dos and don’ts making it easy for readers to follow his suggestions. He doesn’t leave you guessing. His approach may seem counterintuitive but the results are very effective.

Although T-Dub is neither a doctor nor a psychiatrist, he has an abundance of experience, practical advice and common sense that makes this guide particularly helpful. He’s not burden by the normal protocols of traditional therapy and medical guidelines and is able to lay things out in a more direct fashion. He’s good at telling it like it is and helping the reader get a handle on and deal effectively with his own unique situation with exceptional results.

The Magic of Making Up explores issues common to all relationships while taking the time to mention more specific issues as well. It deals with all types of problems, from the discomfiting quarrel to the complete and absolute breakup that seems to show no healing potential.

The book offers a holistic approach and solutions for any situation. The author helps the reader come to terms with the possibility that all relationships are not meant to succeed and how to determine the future of your own.

Using plenty of examples from both the male and female perspective, the author provides the reader with methods for overcoming a breakup. The Magic of Making Up review revealed the authors clever ability to help the reader re-gain a sense of control and direction over their lives and their relationships.

A very important dimension of this author’s approach is learning restraint during a break up. He is very specific about what situations to avoid and how to get past the deeply emotional and volatile stage where the temptation to act on emotion alone is great. He warns against drunk-dialing and incessant texting as they are unproductive approaches that are destined to create a deeper division in the relationship.

The Magic of Making Up reviews almost every imaginable circumstance that can occur in a break up and clearly lays out a strategy and approach that can help the reader make the best of a difficult situation.

Click here to read my honest and unbiased review of The Magic of Making Up. Here you will also discover how this guide performs in comparison to other get your ex back guides.

Tags: Conventional Amp, couples, Dealing With A Breakup, Destructive Patterns, Dub, Guidance, Honest Approach, relationships, Scenarios, T Amp

A lot of people, women in particular it has to be said, appear to spend hours thinking of ways to answer the question of how to get back at your ex? My view on this is why bother wasting your time and energy on revenge ideas on ex boyfriend. The only person you will end up hurting is yourself. Anger and regret are negative emotions and do not have any long term value to add to your life.

Couples split up for all sorts of reasons but I firmly believe that it takes two to tango. Yes, he may have had an affair or she may have a drink problem but at the end of the day it is usually too simple to lay the blame for the break up at one person’s feet.

But when a relationship ends it should be final unless both of you decide that you wish to get back together. Otherwise, move on. Don’t waste your time or energy trying to think of ways to destroy his life or pick fights with her new man.

Every man or woman over the age of 21 has been dumped at some point in their lives. If they say they haven’t, they are probably lying. Breaking up can be extremely painful – you only have to see how many films and songs are written on the subject. Even classic books involve painful relationships – have you read Jane Eyre lately?

Relationships of all types make the world go round and it would be a very boring place if we were happy all of the time. Stories such as Cinderella and sleeping Beauty end when the couple kiss and we all believe they will live happily ever after. Cinders and Beauty have found their Mr Right, but what they don’t know is that his first name is always!

Life is too short to live it out with a grudge against someone else. The only person that will suffer will be you and those that love you. Your ex will be long gone – do you really think that they give you more than a fleeting thought. They didn’t care enough about you to stay together so why would they care now?

There are plenty of lovely people for you to date and perhaps fall in love with. But you will never find a fulfilling new relationship if your life is consumed by hatred for someone else. Being on your own for the first time in a long time can be tough but it can also be liberating. Think positively – you now have the chance to do all the things you wanted to do but your partner wasn’t interested in.

Make a list of twenty things you have to be thankful for and read this every night before you fall asleep. Add five things to your list every day and you will soon find yourself enjoying life so much that you won’t have time to worry about how to get back at your ex. It will be more like ex who?

Tags: anger, couples, Negative Emotions, Relationship Ends, Revenge Ideas, Sorts, Tango

As we all know, there comes a point in most relationships where the couple can openly fart in front of each other. Shows they feel close and comfortable with each other.

However, my perception is that it is always the male who initiates this "open farting" policy.

So my question is this: are there any couples out there where it was the girl who let out the first fart in the relationship?

Tags: couples, Fart, farting, perception, relationship, relationships

I have a problem. I can get any guy or girl into a relationship. I can help any relationship in bad times go back as if nothing happened. I pretty much know how what it takes to get into and stay in a relationship, but I cant find a girl of my own that likes/loves me for me and not for what I have. I wanna find a relationship in where I can have a long term relationship with. I get jealous of other couples and the couple and singles I help. A lot of ppl say that im attractive and ask why I am single for so long if u want to see a pic www.myspace.com/ssslyry.
P.S. if you need help with a relationship or wanna get into a relationship let me know and I can help.

Tags: couples, long term relationship, Lot, ppl, Relationship Help, Singles, www myspace

I love my husband and like all couples we may argue (maybe like 1 time a month) we have a wonderful child together, which we are a great team. He just feels like we don’t fit together. We have been married a few years and I just can’t see losing him over that.

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Like many couples we have had our bumps. Assumptions have been a killer, I have always been true to my wife. I think she is a wonderful, bright, and beautiful woman with so much to offer the world. She has mentioned that she wants to live life with no regerts. We got married and 20 and at 40 she tells me that she Loves me but not as much as she once did. I want her to understand that is normal and we must work through this for the sake of our two children and US. Yes, I admit that I have been on a emotional rollercoaster, but when someone you love so much tells you she wants to move on. It shocks the system. You feel like you are dying and a normal human reaction is to fight what is killing you. I have never hurt in anyway physical way. I do tell her I Love Her a lot and I like to spend time with her because I enjoy her company and I thought she felt the same way. That is why this has as caught me off gaurd.

Tags: assumptions, beautiful woman, couples, human reaction, sake