I am in a happy, stable (semi open) marriage with my man. He allows me to date women. We have been together 10 years. He and I recently met/got to slightly know a woman who is SPECTACULAR! Since the minute we both met her (and each separately the first time) we conected with her on many levels, and she was very flirty with us sep and then together when we met up together. We both got an immediate bi or lesbian vibe from her. But then we found out she was married but yet she continues to exude a flirtatiousness with mostly me the woman. (less with him now) Soon we will be meeting HER husband as well and will be hanging out as a couple. I don’t think they are swingers but I can almost bet SHE is at least bi (or closeted). I am SOOOO attracted to her that I burst out of my skin when I think of her!!! And when she was in my presence those few times, I got the same kind of energy from her that she also loves being in my presence! I am almost certain I am not mistaken with these vibes, I am also pretty sure she knows I am bi bc its openly on my myspace profile as such and we are friends on there. We are going to start hanging out as 2 couples soon, and though I am happy to be ‘just friends’ with the couple, my crush will always shine thru I fear. How, if, or when should I tell or show her I am attracted to her? At some point I don’t mind risking rejection if I do make a move and she declines. Because I know we and I could still be friends even with the humiliation of being rejected lol, but she is SO worth the chance to find out! Last time we hung out with her, she was excited about drinking wine together. If we have wine again, and she continues to be flirty, and I continue to be attracted, should I use the wine to my advantage lol…! And how do I make a move? Ask first or try to be a little affectionate and see what happens? In the meantime, I can’t stop thinking about her. My husband thinks its so cute… I am lucky to have the relationship I have with him and I will never leave my man. But this woman is literally ONE in a million and I would love to nurture whatever special relationship/friendship I can with her. And, where does her hubby fit in all this? Also, I am in my 30s the woman in her late 40s thanks!
Not everyone views marriage as YOU people do. 65% of people cheat on their spouses. I really hoped that someone with an OPEN mind could have answered my question properly instead of judge me. And for the first 2 responders, for your info, we have brought other people in before with nothing but bliss and fun for all… you should try it sometime!

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do couples who breakup ever have the chance of getting back together again?
honestly, you can make it work, im against people who say, only to break up again.. if u still love that person why not get back together with them.,. u can make it work, u just have to try and keep working at it, why give up?

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honestly, you can make it work, im against people who say, only to break up again.. if u still love that person why not get back together with them.,. u can make it work, u just have to try and keep working at it, why give up?

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So, I am bisexual. I was going out with my ex boyfriend in September 09. He asked me out; we’re in the same school and he is the reason why I came out to the entire school. He lives kind of far away and I understand we couldn’t see each other as much as couples should, but I noticed that he never tried his best at school to show affection; He was out to some of his friends, but not everyone – not out like me. We either had to meet up in the bathroom and just hug and kiss, but that’s it. So one day my parents decided to take me and my brothers to Starved Rock [some really nice attraction in Illinois] and i remember that day because it was our anniversary. [it was in November] My parents made plans about going there a week before the way we actually had gone and so I let my ex know about it, i asked him if he wanted to come but he refused because he said he would feel uncomfortable being with my parents and stuff and I asked him why and he said because we’re a couple, and i told him it’s not like they’re going to know. I respected his decision and just left the situation alone. So, the day came and I sent him a message through facebook congratulating ourselves cause it was a month being together. I left to starved rock with my family [it's like 2 hours away from my house] and that was my day. By the way, he has no parents, he was deported from Colombia to Chicago and he lives with a friend of his, and he does not have a cell phone. The phone he used when we spoke was his friend’s. So, i remember coming back home at night and he sent me a message on facebook telling me that he was mad that I didn’t call him or anything. [i tried contacting him from starved rock, but there was no signal and i wanted to do it in the morning before i left, but i remembered him telling me to never call his friend's phone cause his friend didn't know about him] so I was hurt because it was not my fault that i couldn’t communicate with him, and plus he chose NOT to come with me to starved rock which would have been a PERFECT place to spend an anniversary at. Then, he was telling me how he fantasized about my straight brother, who also goes to our school and that he thought my brother was cute and everything. That wasn’t the only time he told me that. I was really mad and i ended the relationship that same day. Every since, til now, he sends me a message through facebook again and he tells me how he wishes he can go back into time and how he would make a great boyfriend; he basically wants me to give him another chance… but I’m not sure if i should buy it or not. I don’t know. He has a history of telling people at school that he thinks they’re hot and stuff, and I also heard that he’s asked people out but they said no. What should I do? I am so confused. He was my first boyfriend, and i still have feelings for him, but i don’t want to get hurt.
HELP!

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How do I stop my divorce? Have you been asking yourself that question lately? It’s a hard question to answer because every situation is so different. In many cases it can be answered, “Yes, for a t least a while.”

Divorce lawyers do a booming business. Over half of marriages end in divorce. Have you ever wondered why that number is so high?  Is it because too many couples get married too quickly before they really know what they’re getting into? Are they asking, “Can I stop my divorce?” practically before the last piece of wedding cake is wrapped?

Are people marrying too young? These things might seem like pat answers, but when you consider that many couples who have been married for 20, 30 and 40 years are getting divorced too, that seems to eliminate the more frivolous marriages and divorces like those we see among starlets and stars.

No, usually when you wonder, “How do I stop my divorce?” it’s not because you married too young or because you’re in a marriage that was doomed from the start. It’s just that you’ve grown apart from your spouse.

On one hand that’s good. It means you’ve grown, and generally a married person needs to be in a caring, nurturing marriage to grow. On the other hand it’s all too easy to grow in such a way that we feel a bit isolated from our spouse, as if they don’t know a certain part of us that we might like to keep private.

When one spouse grows and takes on new interests, it can cause that disconnect between the spouses. Sometimes there’s jealousy and envy that a spouse is succeeding while the other feels inadequate or cheated in some way. Marriage counseling is the recommended treatment for such feelings.

Until or instead of counseling, though, you can try to take an interest in something that your spouse does apart from you. You’ll quickly discover if the gap between your activities is the problem. If your spouse isn’t thrilled about your interest, then let it go. He or she considers that particularly activity to be me time for them.

On the other hand, if your spouse seems very enthusiastic about you getting involved, maybe that was part of the problem all along. He or she wanted to include you but didn’t know how to go about it, or didn’t think you would be interested.

Show genuine interest and ask questions without overdoing it unless you are genuinely excited by the topic. Engage your spouse in conversation about the interest. Be affectionate as you’re talking by putting a hand on his/her arm or shoulder.

Since you’re wondering, “Can I stop my divorce?” you’re going to want to do everything you can get to things on your side. You’re in rescue mode, so no matter how disinterested you might be in your spouse’s hobby, don’t let it show.

And while you’re wondering, “Can I stop my divorce?” don’t forget that your spouse might turn around and ask you about your hobby, too.

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