we just had a babygirl – our first child. she is from europe and I am from the U.S. The last 4 months of her pregnancy (during which we were fighting and sometimes not even on speaking terms) she spent in her home country and during that time her ex-bf intervened and played the supporting role and now she and he are "together"…I am desperate and am seeking advice as to how to put our marriage back together. she will not go to counciling but has agreed to read some articles I have found on saving marriages. her claim is that she and I are incompatible because we rationalize about things differently and make decisions differently…that our lifestyles are too different but we’ve only been married for two years. she says her ex gives her security but this is the same guy who while they were dating for 10 years, slept with her best friend and her sister. All I want are my wife and daughter back. she is standing her ground and says she doesnt love me anymore but there was a reason she left him for me. I have to believe there is a way and that deep down she still loves me! I don’t want to give up. can someone please lend me some advice? thank you very much,

james

Tags: 10 years, 4 months, best friend, bf, Decisions, europe, lifestyles, marriage, pregnancy, quot, speaking terms

okay… well im 14 and my boyfriends older.. 4 years older.. i met him a year ago online.. and ever since we’ve met we have been inseperable all day every day. i went 12,000 minutes over my phone bill and we are always together if not on the phone. im sure you can see there is quiete an age diffrence and most people say im not mature enough for him or hes to old for me, or it will never work. But that’s all just stupid statictics that dont matter. we have everything in common. Are taste in music, movies, clothes, people, religion, fetishes (lmao), life, and relationship decisions are all the same. he even left his girlfriend for me. and my ex boyfriend said we are perfect for each other. he has helped me through the toughest time in my life. he stopped me from commiting suicide.. i like to think i help him to.. lol.. well he tells me i do, and im the most important thing in his life. he is so sweet, and funny, and nice, and he understands me, and loves me unconditionally, and he can be serious when i need him to be. lol he’s like my "edward cullen" or "prince charming" or anyone elses perfect guy/dream guy thats what he is to me =]. we never ever fought and never disagreed. but a few weeks ago he proposed.. and of course i said yes! he is everything i could ever ask for and so much more. he’s not the first person ive been in love with but i definatley want him to be the last. but anyway back to the point. ever since he proposed he’s been really needy and he yells at me alot and its awkward. not to mention went he smokes dro (weed) he gets really violent… i love him to death i just want to make things better between us, it never used to be this way. i want to make him fall in love with me all over again. DO NOT SAY IM TOO YOUNG PLEASE! just answer my question thank u
God Bless!
omfg dont say suck it or blow him or become his sex slave!?! wtf?!?! ive done that.. he seems to enjoy it =]

Tags: Boyfriends, clothes, Decisions, dream guy, Fall In Love, first person, girlfriend, love, Met, music, prince, quot, relationship, religion, sex slave, statictics, suicide, time in my life, u god

If you are really interested in getting boyfriend back then you may have to be a bit more assertive than you are used to being. You may have to put yourself in the role of the hunter rather than the hunted. If you are more experienced in being pursued than pursuing than you may be in for a tough time, unless you can figure out a way to hunt that suits your strengths. You have to use the tools that you have at your disposal. You will have to be creative. You will also have to know how guys think and make decisions and use that to your advantage. Getting boyfriend back may rely on the hunter becoming the hunted.

The natural role of the male is that of the hunter. It is usually the guy who wants to go out and capture what he wants. He needs to feel the thrill of the pursuit. He needs to feel like he is attaining something. Yes, he needs to feel like he scored. How do you use that to your advantage? Is there something that you can do to go out and recapture someone who would rather be the one capturing instead of being captured? Yes, there is. Getting boyfriend back is going to cause you to trick the boyfriend back into thinking that he is pursuing you and capturing you.

In getting boyfriend back, you are going to have to use everything that you know about your ex boyfriend. You are going to have to know what he is interested in. You have to know what drives him and what makes him jump at opportunities. You may have to look very closely, though, because things may have changed. Pay close attention to what motivates him to act and then see if you can get and be those things that motivates him.

What this means is that you are going to be using yourself as bait in trying to land this big fish. The greatest draw that will help you in getting boyfriend back is going to be what you cause him to see in you. Become what it is that he wants you to be. Let him see that you are what he is looking for and can’t live without. That you are what he has to have and what he has to go after.

You have to be subtle taking this strategy in getting boyfriend back. You can’t throw yourself down and say, “Here I am!” As attractive as you might be you may have just made yourself boring. What he needs to have is a chase. What you are going to do is cause him to imagine you. You have to give him just a bit of attention and a small piece of what it is that he wants to see and then take it away. Don’t take it too far away, remember ‘out of sight, out of mind’. Your goal is to make yourself just out of reach after making him want to reach out for you. Getting boyfriend back requires a bit of teasing but it is a great way for the hunter to get what they want.

Tags: Advantage, Decisions, Suits