I lost my wife after 15 years of marriage do to divorce and it has been devastating. I’ve gone out with different women, but the bar has been set so high in regards to what I’m attracted to. My wife has amazing integrity, honesty and a sense of humor and has a gentleness about her, yet was strong and independent. Sigh..

I’ve battled with depression after losing her and still not sure if Ill be able to carry on without her.

Question: Where can I find someone that meets even half of those attributes?

Tags: attributes, depression, Find Love, gentleness, honesty, Independent, integrity, Love Lost, marriage, sense of humor

This is a VERY hard question. Experts only, please.

I have a wife who suffers from depression. She has been on anti-depressants and they worked, but left her feeling neutral while on them, rather than happy and sad.

She is now off the medications (and has been for a couple years). Lately, she has been having depression strike in place of emotions like happiness or love. Instead of feeling the good stuff, she feels that feeling we get when we break up with someone.

My theory is that we could find a substance for her to take when she improperly dips into that pain (the breakup pain), and that alleviates it just like an aspirin alleviates a headache, then it might free her mind to feel happiness again.

Does anyone know of a substance that works fairly quickly that she doesn’t have to stay on, but can take more like an aspirin? Something that alleviates the symptoms, but isn’t an "anti-depressant" like Celexa or something?

Natural substances, illegal substances, medications
A little addition, in response to some of the first answers (and thank you VERY much for these first answers!):

Yes, ideally we would like something that isn’t addictive. That’s a bad problem. Also, won’t being on anti-depressants her whole life kill her? What about the liver damage?

Thanks.

Tags: anti depressant, anti depressants, aspirin, celexa, depression, dips, emotions, Feel Happiness, good stuff, happiness, headache, illegal substances, liver damage, love, medications, natural substances, Symptoms Of Depression, Whole Life

we broke up new years eve….almost exactly a week ago. we were together 8months and generally happy, but he suffers from depression and was in a nasty mood the week of new years eve. we had an argument and broke up….. shortly after i told him i didn’t mean it and it wasn’t what i really wanted, but he said he feels like he needs to work on himself as an individual and can’t do that when he’s so involved with someone. he said he really didn’t want to lose me as a friend though, so we’ve been ‘friends’ so far. we hung out for the first time last night with a friend, when we were alone he admitted it was the first time all week he was awake and happy and he asked me if id please stay his friend. im hoping if im patient and play it cool, he’ll start wanting me back.

but how long should i wait to try to make the jump? i don’t want to move to quick before he has time to miss me(and maybe appreciate the ‘single’ me), but i don’t want to wait so long that he adjusts to being without me.

and how should i make the move: while it’s generally my style to be verbal, he seems to be MORE resistant to emotional moments, he kind of shuts down sometimes. i was thinking maybe i can just wait till the right moment and kiss him, he wouldn’t over think and maybe it would be the fun spontaneous kind of thing that would make him fall for me again.

what do you guys think? any advice for me?

Tags: depression, emotional moments, Ex Boyfriend, new years eve, right moment, Years Eve

I been dating this guy over 6 months online…i used to spend all day with him on msn video calls etc but one day i really got crazy for him and he loved me and i convinced my parents to go to germany (im from romania) so i can meet him in real life … he is 16 and im 15 and i got to met him we spent a month together and i had my … "1st time" with him after i had to go back home … we kept on talking for like 7 months and i was supposed to meet him again this summer but…he started to lie and i …got pissed off once and i messed up everything …. i pushed him away and that was one of the biggest mistakes i think i could ever do cause he was the only one who made me so happy who made me feel great and the only one that understood me … and he was hurt but he got over me so fast and after some days i tried to apologize but …he was already dating someone else and honestly that really got me down and i regretted what i have done so much …i became suicidal he was still my friend…but it was a huge difference …than he changed he became colder and distant and tried to push me away and he started to lie a lot and i just cant forget him even thought its been almost 4 months from that i miss him so much and i still love him even thought he hurt me and lie to me and pushed me away i want him back but now he doesn’t even talk to me he ignores me and made it such so i cant get to him anyway … i deadly miss him im getting in depression again i love him so much still … i didn’t eat for 3 days now and couldn’t sleep again just like the time after i broke up with him….i don’t want to get suicidal again because my family needs me but i cant go on like this and i have tried to replace him but its so impossible to be with someone else when all i do is think of him …please help me =(

Tags: 4 months, 7 months, broken heart, depression, germany, parents, quot, romania, sleep

i was with my ex for 2 1/2 years. i was so in love with him. to be honest, i still am. even though i’ve just found him to be a cheater on alleged cheater websites. although to be fair i had suspected he cheated on me several times. he was my whole world. i thought we’d always be together and that i truely was the only one.
we have a baby together. who he doesn’t support.
i must be crazy to still have feelings for him after all the things i’ve found out recently. to realize that he lied about everything. i trusted him and believed everything he said.
i feel physically weak and sick. and have headaches from thinking about him all the time.
my friends say what is this hold that he has over you? just move on. but i’ve been finding it so hard to do just that.
he’s the love of my life and was my first serious boyfriend.
he just upt and left, left me holding the baby.
im so sad. so down. heading towards depression.
is there hope for me. to stop this pain and find happiness again?

Tags: broken heart, cheater, depression, feelings, Friends, happiness, headaches, holding the baby, love, Love Of My Life, Move On 98, several times