I had no contact with The Ex over the summer, really after I broke up with him. Sporadic texting. Never flirty. He said a couple hurtful things about how he "missed me on occasion" and mostly he missed how supportive I was. So I left it. Until, a little over a month ago, I sent kind of a bitchy email saying he "didn’t have to pay me back any of the money he owed me because I’m not hurting for cash and I know he is. Everything has been going so great for me this summer. It’s so weird how everything just got better for both of us after we broke up". He responded- seemed grateful.
A week later he randomly texted about how I looked like someone in a movie- total foot in the door move. We ended up going for coffee and sushi. It was really fun but he was overly familiar the whole time. From the get-go he was throwing things down my shirt and inviting me out to his cabin. Whatever, it was good for my ego. We ended up hanging out like twice a week after that. Didn’t talk every day necessarily but often. He was always flirty. His birthday rolled around and I took him for a quick drink after school as a present. We got drunk…he admitted he still loves me. I told him I was seeing someone. He slapped my ass a couple times. We talked about the breakup a lot.
We hung out a little more until last weekend (so it’s been over a month hanging out). I was on the rocks with my boyfriend and tried breaking up with him (but he cried so I got freaked and let it be for a bit). The Ex showed up at my work when my shift was over to take me shopping. We went for dinner somewhere nice first and he paid- had a couple drinks. He bought me a present. Then my boyfriend ditched on the plans we had that evening so The Ex suggested we go and play cards. Harmless. He picked up wine and we went to my place. Got drunk. He asked if I wanted a backrub…we slept together…he left a few hours later. He texted the next day to see how I was. We ended up making plans for the following weekend (this weekend). He picked me up from work…took me grocery shopping. We got wine. Same thing happened but he stayed over. He brought up our past and asked why I always tried to break up with him. We talked about how we used to have plans to get married. We cuddled and he stroked my hair. He stayed for a bit in the morning but had plans and made plans to see me that afternoon. We hung out…it was fun. I had an hour break in there to go officially break up with my bf. I came back and talked to The Ex about it and I was super bummed out. I asked for a hug and he held me for a while. But when I put out my hand…he high fived and didn’t hold it.
So I asked him where we were…like, are we dating now? And he said…what? He would barely look at me. I said I broke it off with my bf at least partially because of him. We hung out all the time. He still has feelings for me. He buys me stuff and takes me places and we talk all the time…it’s like dating already. And he said he hadn’t thought about it that way and he doesn’t want to date anyone right now because of school. And I said I didn’t want to see him any more than we were (also because of school), so how would it make things different? His responses were short and kind of seemed like he was scared or super uncomfortable. And I said if he thinks we’re just friends we shouldn’t be having sex and I didn’t think he could keep it PG. And he said he could and he wanted to stay friends with me…he wanted to have me in his life. So when I tried to say we couldn’t be friends he talked me out of it. I brought up how he admitted he thinks about me sexually like, every day. How he said he still loves me. And he said a) well yeah, so what and b) we were together for so long of course he still has feelings for me. So I gave him the ultimatum that we could be friends but he couldn’t flirt at all because he knows I still have feelings and it’s confusing and making me feel like dirt- and that he can’t change his mind and say he wants me later. And he was all "Yeah, totally!"
So…he flirted from the start. Admitted he still loves me. Hung out and essentially dated me for a month before anything happened. You don’t hang out with your ex and buy them shit and flirt AND talk about the past (every time we drink he brings it up and we talk about it for hours) and actually think you’re just friends, right? You don’t tickle them to turn it into just cuddling and talk about how good it feels to hold them again, do you?
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