hey, i’m 19. me and my ex-lover who is also 19, had an honest, solid relationship. we were really close. i became unhappy in our relationship because i realized how much more mature i was than he is. i love this guy but he is so immature. i wanted to find someone who was more like me, who wanted to travel, was more mature and spiritual, looked different, etc. i started getting close to another guy, and i wanted to try having a relationship with him because i wanted to explore. my ex was my first love and i wanted to try things with this new guy. i explained everything to my boyfriend. he did NOT like this, and it hurt him. i hurt him a lot. we were so close. i wanted too much, tried to perfect my love life but it backfired and now i miss my ex so much and it made me realize how important he seriously was to me. he made me happy and i got bored and distracted by this new potential love-interest dude who turned out to be so much less than i had imagined and i lost touch with the fact that my relationship with my ex was soo great and vital to my life.
we broke up about a week and a half ago. after we broke up, me and "the new boy" hooked up. during the "hook-up", all i could think about was my ex and how much of a mistake i was making for us. it wasn’t until then that i realized all this. all i was trying to do was get an ego-boost from another dude. all i really wanted was to express myself and have other people to recognize me for being beautiful and smart and whatever else i wanted. i wanted someone to be into me and make me feel important and amazing. but it was stupid and dillusional, what i did. all i was doing was not appreciating my boyfriend and thinking all about me.
so anyway. what should i do????? or not do??? to make him want me back. because i know he still loves me, this guy was totally in love with me. and i hurt him a lot. i know he HATES cheaters. but i know that i was honest with him about this and didn’t cheat. and he admires that but i know what i did hurt. but what can i do to make him want me back regardless of that mistake i made and how do i approach him about it without seeming like i have no pride
please help thankyou for readinggg

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I recently broke up with a guy I’ve dated for almost a year. His response was basically a "You can’t fire me, I quit" – sorta thing. He has anger management issues and is basically ignoring me altogether, even when I tried to amicable/civil. He’s trying to get at me with apathy, and unfortunately, it’s working.

What’s a good way to get over this? I’ve been in break-ups before, but for some reason, this one is affecting me more than the others…not necessarily because I thought he was "the one"…far from it. I guess more from a bruising of my ego.

Tags: anger management, apathy, break ups, ego, management issues, quot, ups