My wife and I have been married for two years now. I love her with all my heart. However we are close to getting a divorce. The hardest part is she has shown no emotion over our problems and doesn’t make any attempt to work on it. I feel like I can’t breath or will never be able to get over this. Is this normal, I always thought this would never happen to me. How can I move on I always thought I would spend the rest of my life with my wife.

Tags: divorce, emotion, getting a divorce, heart, love, rest of my life

My husband and I have been married for 7 years and for the last 3 months all we have done is fight well a couple of weeks ago. He told me to leave and I did. He called and said he missed me and that he wanted me home. when I got back we got in a fight again because I am a stubburn person. that day he said that he stopped loving me and that he would need some to time to feel love for me. my husband does not show emotion very well I think its cuz of the way he was raised. I am very confused because there are days when everything is going good and then I remember that he said that he don’t love me and I get really resentful towards him. and I always end up telling him that I am going to leave when deep down I don’t want to. He always tells me he wants me to stay but that its my choice, Help me I don’t know what to do.

Tags: Cuz, emotion, love, Stubburn

I’ve been dealing with a breakup from a girl I’ve been with for the past three years. We met at the end of senior year in high school. I went to school 10 hours away freshman year and we stuck through it. I felt stronger and stronger about her each day. I decided to come back home and go to school with her for sophomore year. Again, it was a fantastic year and I loved every minute I spent with her. We were best friends, inseparable and we connected on a very deep level. I knew I loved this girl but I felt like I needed to go back to my first school to get a significantly better degree. At the end of sophomore year I told her I wanted to go back. She began to pull away until I told her I was doing it for us and to better my future. That made her feel better but she still pulled back. I kind of changed too as a result. I felt weird about her actions and I knew she took my leaving as a slap in the face. I began to be more short with her and our relationship took a turn for the worst. I thought everything was fine until one day a couple weeks before I left that she came in my bedroom as I woke up and said she wanted to be single the next year. She said the way I had been acting, the distance, and everything made her want this. I went through many stages of falling apart, anger, upset, numb, happy, just every emotion. A few weeks ago I got to school and my feelings stabilized. I realized that this is a girl worth fighting for. I took a look at myself and the way I had acted to push her away. I think God forced me to make the decision to leave to better myself and now I feel like I can be the most amazing boyfriend to her. I’m now going back home because I don’t feel this is the place for me right now. This decision was not because of her, but it doesn’t hurt that the love of my life is there. She’s been kind of seeing somebody now. She says she likes him but still loves me. She asks me why I’d deserve a second chance after hurting her. She says maybe in a few years we can try again. I know I’ve changed and I know that our relationship is right. I know I can be everything this girl could ever want. I know her better than anyone in the world. We are still best friends. I’m afraid she’s already written me off because she is unsure and doesn’t want to be hurt again, even though she hasn’t told me this. I’m going back in a few days and I’ve gotten her to go to dinner with me this upcoming weekend. She says its strictly as friends. I want to show her I can be a great boyfriend but how can I do this as just a friend? How can I show her I’ve changed and will always make her happy? What about this other guy, I’ve been supportive but how do I approach it? If you’ve read this far then I really appreciate it and I look forward to hearing back. Thanks.
No need to be a dick Linah. Thanks to everyone else who’s taking me seriously
@ LM: correction, shes not with another guy just seeing him. she says she doesn’t want to be his girlfriend even though hes asked…makes me think even more shes confused as to what to do

Tags: anger, best friends, couple weeks, Dealing With A Breakup, emotion, Fall In Love, feelings, freshman year, girl worth, god, Love Of My Life, relationship, second chance, senior year, slap in the face, sophomore year

Please Serious Answers Only, I am in need of some real and honest help.

My boyfriend broke up with me 2 days before Christmas. He says he is not happy with me, and we are not meant to be. I know he loves me, and he even said he still does, but it’s somthing he has to do.

We met on Jan 1st to talk and swap things. I wrote him a heartfelt letter and read it to him. He really had no emotion at all. I totally ruined my chances with him because I begged for him to not leave me, but I felt that it was the last chance I would ever see/talk to him at all. I was devastated.
We agreed to be friends, but i told him i just dont know if i can do that.

I have been really calm about everything lately, we casually talk on aim and hes actually pretty nice to me. But then yesterday somthing was really bothering me, so I brought it up. He was fine with the first statement, but when I said somthing else he totally ignored what I said. I feel that I just ruined my chances of ever talking to him again! I went ahead and apologized over message and I told him that I agree with the breakup, i know it’s for the best. I even went to say that I had some good news that I would like to share with him sometime…(which I thought would spark interest).
But he didnt respond to the message. So then I said " Well im going to get off here, have a good day" . I waited a minute and still no response. Now I feel completely stupid!

Did I ruin my chances of getting him back with that message I sent him? What do I do know? Do i just totally ignore him and wait to see if he ever says anything? Now I feel that I lost all hope, I know we are meant to be together, and we were even getting along this past weekend…what the heck do I do know? All hope is gone!

Have any of you went through breakups and got your ex back? If so, HOW?

Tags: aim, breakups, Calm, christmas, days before christmas, emotion, heartfelt letter, last chance, Met, what the heck

A few weeks ago my wife told me she loves me but is no longer in love. The issues she says caused this are today gone and she knows that. (The issues were that for years I had a very opinionated and controlling personality and that I never got as close to her son as I should have. I realize that those controlling feelings of there is a “right way” or a “safe way” to act were wrong and I will never be like that again. And, I have made amends with her son and will love him forever like my own.) Other than those personality issues, I was a great husband to her. (Never abusive, always loving, always complimentary, very supportive, etc.) We are going to counseling now.

I’d love for you to share – what are things that you did or your spouse did or you & your spouse did that helped rekindle the romance, bring those feelings back, and help you “fall in love” again? How long might this take? It has only been two days since she decided to try to reconcile. Yesterday we spent the whole day together doing stuff (errands, lunch, movie, had a late beer, etc.) – but no emotion from her – no kisses, no hand holding, etc. I know it is very soon but that was REALLY hard for me. I’m trying …

Can you help me (us)?

Tags: amp, controlling personality, counseling, emotion, Fall In Love, feelings, lunch, personality issues, romance, safe way