I have been dating a girl for about 2 months now. When we are together the chemistry is perfect and every outside influence concerning her family and friends are completely supporting our relationship and view me as "the one." The only problem is her ex-boyfriend. They dated for about 3 years off and on while he lived for away partying all the time and taking her on an emotional roller coaster. He’d tell her he’s not ready to commit because he’s scared and therefore their "thing" was solely physical every time he came to town. A couple months ago, he came back to town lived with her for a couple weeks (he had nowhere else to go) and started treating her like they were a real couple. Well when he left back to party city, he cheated on her. That was when she had enough, she was heartbroken and decided to move on. Thats when I came in the picture about a month later. Everything since then has been perfect. I have never been happier in my life since we started dating. The only problem is her ex-boyfriend is now freaking out after he heard that she has moved on with me and is telling her he is in love with her, wants her back, wants to have kids with her, and all the things she wanted to hear in the last 3 years she’s known him. Nobody, not her friends, or her family like this guy, nor has he ever made an attempt to even meet her family. I know he has the upper hand over me because of all the things they’ve been through, but where do i go from here? She is now confused about what she is supposed to do. I had a conversation with her about life and these situations and honestly, i’ve played all three roles before in the past at different times, and I know the psychology behind it and how these things work. I also told her exactly how I feel about her, how I want not only her in my life but her family and friends as well, and how genuine and pure my feelings are for her. Time has no effect on intuition or the feeling you have inside when you just know who you are meant to be with. It certainly doesn’t take 3 years of a physical off and on relationship to figure it out either. This guy is telling her that sometimes you have to lose something to figure out what you lost and everything else in the book.

So where do I go from here? She wants to stay together because she knows what we could have, but her past with him and her feelings are too much for her to handle, and she feels like she needs a break to figure out what is right for her. But this would entail her talking to him and maybe seeing him in person. Do I step aside and let her make a mistake? or what do i do?

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