Well, her and I broke up about a month ago over stupid things, I guess I got a bit too clingy and she wanted her space, plus she’s been getting stressed with all the work she has in college and what not, so we agreed to take a break from our relationship.

Then she brought her ex boyfriend into the picture, and I guess I miunderstood what she was saying/doing and I ended up calling her something I do not want to repeat, and I regret doing now, big time. But basically she hates me for that now and before when I was getting all clingy and she’s been ignoring me ever since I called her a bitch basically. I would of never of intentionally wanted to call her anything like that or hurt her, but I was already hurting with the break up and what not, then her bringing her ex up, just kind of lost control of my emotions.

So now, I try to text her once a week to just see how her week/end was and she never responds, or when she does she’ll ask why I’m trying to talk to her.

Same story for if I ever call her, she’ll pick up, ask me why I’m trying to talk to her and I’ll just tell her that I serioiusly am sorry, I fucked up, I miss being able to talk to you and I would like to fix what I fucked up and she just hangs up on me. She won’t even give me a chance to talk about things with her or anything, and that just annoys the crap out of me.

So basically, what could I ever do to give me a chance to at least be her friend again. Because I still do love her, even though she doesn’t believe I do and says that I don’t, because I called her a bitch, but I made a mistake It’s like I’m stuck in a corner with her, she seems to think I hate her and don’t love her, while she also things I’m too clingy and I’m just clueless as to what to do. She’s a nice and unique girl, and I’d hate to have to see her completely walk out of my life, even if we can’t be together still, I’d like to be able to at least be her friend.

Tags: big time, bitch, Break, Clueless, crap, emotions, Ex Boyfriend, ex girlfriend, Guess, love, mistake, relationship, stupid things

This is a VERY hard question. Experts only, please.

I have a wife who suffers from depression. She has been on anti-depressants and they worked, but left her feeling neutral while on them, rather than happy and sad.

She is now off the medications (and has been for a couple years). Lately, she has been having depression strike in place of emotions like happiness or love. Instead of feeling the good stuff, she feels that feeling we get when we break up with someone.

My theory is that we could find a substance for her to take when she improperly dips into that pain (the breakup pain), and that alleviates it just like an aspirin alleviates a headache, then it might free her mind to feel happiness again.

Does anyone know of a substance that works fairly quickly that she doesn’t have to stay on, but can take more like an aspirin? Something that alleviates the symptoms, but isn’t an "anti-depressant" like Celexa or something?

Natural substances, illegal substances, medications
A little addition, in response to some of the first answers (and thank you VERY much for these first answers!):

Yes, ideally we would like something that isn’t addictive. That’s a bad problem. Also, won’t being on anti-depressants her whole life kill her? What about the liver damage?

Thanks.

Tags: anti depressant, anti depressants, aspirin, celexa, depression, dips, emotions, Feel Happiness, good stuff, happiness, headache, illegal substances, liver damage, love, medications, natural substances, Symptoms Of Depression, Whole Life

Married 12 years, and we have autistic daughter. Wife says that I didn’t listen when she said that our daughter needed to be medicated. She started talking to a guy she went to high school with about our daughter because she says that "he would listen". She wound up having an emotional affair, and lost interest in me. Even though she didn’t cheat on me, it still really hurts. I know she had made plans to cheat before we started going to a marriage counselor. I understand that she needed me to listen, and yes our daughter needed to be medicated. Things have gotten better since then. I know she loves me. Even her friends tell me that she really loves me. She’s been through so much trauma in her life, and I feed so bad for her. I want to trust her again. I do trust her, but I don’t know how to make the hurt go away. She was raised never to let emotions out, and it pisses her off when I tell her how I feel. I know she wants to be with me, and I know she loves me as much as it’s possible for her. Sometimes she says something that sparks a memory of our marriage trouble. I try not to let it bother me, but sometimes it does. I tell her that I don’t want to keep hurting each other. She gets mad and says "that was in the past, and we’ve already talked about it… I don’t want to keep talking about it." She also says, "if I had wanted to cheat on you, I would have, but I didn’t". The thing that bothers me the most is how she discounts my feelings, and says that I’m being a baby and being too emotional. It’s very frustrating to be a husband that’s more in touch with his feelings than his wife.

Tags: autistic daughter, being a baby, emotional affair, emotions, feelings, marriage, marriage counselor, marriage trouble, memory, quot, trauma

Ok so me and my girlfriend where going out for a bit more than a year befor we broke up. A few days befor we broke up we where in a fight and she started hanging out with this guy because she knows I don’t like him but a few days later she brokeup with m. Since then she stopped talking to him completaly actually she rilly doesn’t like him anymore but now she has a completaly new group of friends and I hate two of the girls with a pashion. We still talk and say we miss eachother and are on the verge of getting back together a few times but then something happens and we fight and stop talking for a day then were talking and repeat. But most of the tim the fight comes because she says she is gonna leave the two friends I hate behind so she can be with me we make plans to hangout at lunch (in school) and she doesn’t hangout with them all day but just befor we go to meet she goes and hangs out with the two girls again and I say she lied blah blah blah we get in a fight then the next day were getting along again. Right now were in a fight again because yesterday the same thin I described happened and when we where almost made up I foundout she lied to me about who she was with last night and it was a dif guy I don’t like her being around because of how he acts. So I hot mad and were fighting again and she said not to talk to her ever again but that was only emotions because it’s happened beor and I think if I tx her tomorrow she will be ok with me gain like it has been like… But this time the last txt sent was from me and I said basicly that she just used her last chance of picking er friends over me because Im gonna not talk to her and be indapendant and see what happens if she trys to makeup with me instead of me trying. Do you think I should do what I said about waiting? And what should I do to get her back? (and hopfully get rid of those two girls that are her new friends).

Tags: eachother, emotions, ex girlfriend, few days, girlfriend, girls, last chance, lunch, makeup, new friends, pashion, rilly, those two girls, two friends, verge

I love him so much he has always been difficult to be with but our love keeps us together, I stay with him despite being hurt a lot. Please if you are a soldier please tell me how I can get him to open up and be sweet again, he sees emotions as weak and it’s really difficult for me to handle. I’ve been with him for three years and have dealt with his deployment, death of loved ones, having a job, and getting all A’s and B’s at a very prestigious college, I feel that doing all that and staying with someone who is often verbally abusive and emotionally neglecting makes me a strong person, I may not be a soldier but that doesn’t necessarily mean I’m weak. I wish he understood that emotions are normal he says he hates when I’m emotional but it’s just a natural thing. Please if you have any advice I would love to hear it I really want to get him to open up. Here are some things that I’ve done that might be effecting it.. I like to talk on the phone and he doesn’t, I have stayed on the phone late with him when he needed to get up early, which I do realize is not being respectful of his needs, I have been stressed lately and turn to him to talk to but he doesn’t like to talk…I’m not sure what to do about this I mean he’s going to be my husband I feel that communicating is a BIG deal, and I get kinda naggy and clingy at times. These are all things I’m willing to work on and want to fix because I know they are bad qualities. Yet it’s hard for me not to complain about how he treats me, I don’t know how else to let him know he’s hurting me. Please help, soldiers especially (preferably married soldiers or those in LDRS) I could really use the advice of someone in his situation since I can’t talk to him (he hangs up when I say something he doesn’t like and then ignores me) I think it might help to talk to someone like him.

Tags: Advice, Cold Heart, deployment, emotions, job, love, prestigious college, soldier, Soldiers Heart