I have been married for 3 years and together with my Husband for 7 years. I am 26 years old. Everything was going great until a month ago. I felt as though my whole world collapsed. I couldnt decide if i loved my husband anymore. this broke my heart. i kept looking at him and trying to decide. I am off sick from work with depression because of it and i just want things back to normal i keep telling myself.

I decided if i didnt want to be with my husband anymore i was going to end my own life. i am so scared of failing my marriage because i made my vows and told myself i would never stray from my hubby.

i had a turbulant childhood, always moving around and i went to 11 different schools. my dad was never known to me so it was always just my mum and siblings who had different fathers. I explain this as i am trying to put my problems down to my childhood. Perhaps i am just ready to move on as i have never been stable? i knew i loved my husband but i dont know now.

we bought a wonderful house and i learnt to drive and got a new car of my own and got a dog and a good job and eveything i have ever wanted but now i dont want any of it. I hate the way i am feeling. I know i have to stay and try and sort things out with my hubby but i cant even go home, i am staying with my in-laws as it upsets me to go home.
as i have said i wanted to die because of these feelings taking over me but i dont know what to do. He hasnt done anything wrong and is the sweetest guy in the world, i just dont feel that buzz any more and how do you know if you truley love someone?
My mum was married 5 times before she died when i was 16 and she had 7 children. I dont want to be like this and have worked really hard to avoid it but I am now at breaking point.

Please help, I need encouragement to stay and battle through. I dont want to run away again.

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I’m a 19-year-old college girl, and for personal and religious reasons (I’m Christian), I’ve committed to remaining a virgin until my wedding night. I still want to date now, because naturally my body is encouraging me to have sex, and I want very much to fall in love and move toward that wedding night. The only trouble is that it seems most guys are accustomed to getting sex much earlier in a relationship than I’m willing to provide it, and I’m worried they’ll all get snatched up by girls who put out sooner.

Also, I hear so much talk about wanting to ensure "sexual compatibility" before marriage. This doesn’t really make sense to me because I’m thinking that if we have compatible sex drives, as well as similar morals and desires when it comes to sex (all of which we can find out just by talking), and we both have all functioning parts, there can’t be any real sexual incompatibility. Of course, I’m a virgin, so if I’m wrong on this, do tell. My point being that many people consider premarital sex common, and even practical.

So here’s the thing: I want a man who will respect my desire to save sex for marriage, who will be willing to marry without a "test run," and who will be patient enough to work with me on the honeymoon until I’m able to please him sexually. Are they still out there? If so, where can I find them? Are there any men on Y!A who are also waiting?
greatprincemichael, that was completely unhelpful. I’m already aware that most people in our society engage in premarital sex. If you read the question, I’m looking for someone to help me live up to my personal standards, not to scoff at them. A conservative church has not forced these values on me; I have chosen them myself based on my own personal interpretation of the Bible, and based on what I do and don’t want to experience in my life.

Thanks to everyone else for the wonderful answers! I really appreciate the suggestions, the encouragement, the personal experience, and the humour!

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