I will try and make this short- over a year ago my ex boyfriend broke up with me. We were actually engaged, to be married this past September. Over the past year, we have gone from not speaking, to being friendly, to being full fledged back together, to breaking up- several times. He has come back to me probably 4 times since he first ended things, and the last time was around this past New Years Eve.

We had been living together and I moved out when he ended things. I moved about 4 hours away, back to my hometown. He came out here around New Years, we had a good weekend, talked about being back together, he said he loved me, etc. He even said while he was here that he would marry me the next weekend if that’s what I wanted, but of course that would be rushed and I said I would rather wait and plan something low key but special.

He left and not two days later he called me and told me what he did every other time he broke up with me- he’s depressed, he doesn’t feel the way he should about the relationship, etc. And he ended things. He said he is also unhappy with the business he runs and he wants out, he isn’t making enough money, etc. I asked several times what the real reason for breaking up with me is and he said he can’t put his finger on one particular incident or reason, just that he gradually changed. I was devestated and could barely function for over a week after this.

He told me via text last week that he talked to his parents and he is going to talk to a therapist about his depression/unhappiness. He said that we can’t keep doing what we’re been doing because it’s too hard for both of us.

He is 30 years old, by the way. I love this man, and I cannot picture my life or future without him in it. I would have stood by him through anything, no matter what, but he has pushed me away several times now. I feel like I can barely breathe I miss him so much. I kept taking him back because he is a good person and I believed him when he told me he loved me and wanted to be together. Now I feel like a fool.

What should I do? I know I have to leave him alone, but its so hard- he was my best friend. Beofre anyone says there is someone else- I know for a fact there is not. We both have dated other people this year we’ve been apart, but I am best friends with his now roommate and I would know for sure if someone else was in the picture. So, how do I proceed? If he really is depressed, I want to be there for him. But I don’t want to chase him either. Adivce?
He now says he cannot continue forward with me because he has doubt about the future, and cannot enter into a marriage with doubt. I understand that, and would not want him to be with me if he wasn’t sure anyway. Should I wait for him to come along? I can’t stand the thought of losing him, but don’t want to hold on to someone that doesn’t want me, either…

Tags: depression, enough money, good person, hometown, last time, new years eve, parents, Real Reason, relationship, several times, Unhappiness

Three months ago, my wife and I got married. We were doing just fine. Until she started stripping. I wasn’t ok with it, but she started doing it with a friend. I was never ok with it, but I accepted it because I love my wife more than anything in this world. And it was her decision. But a little over two weeks ago, she had a break down after telling her dad what she was doing. She started blaming me for her stripping because of where I work. I dont make enough money where I work to comfortably support us. Which is why she started stripping. Before we got married, I had promised her I’d get a new job. But I kept putting it off. I had every intention of getting a new job, but I just put it off. And that happened a couple of times. This time, she left. She is staying at a friends house and has been ever since. Ive changed the way I do things. I use to be lazy, but Ive changed that. Im taking resposibility and doing things that I should have done a long time ago. I sold my truck, so 300$ a month goes back into our pockets. Ive been constantly been looking for a job. Got a couple different options coming up. one possibly with the school system. She wont come home because she is afraid I’ll quit searching for a job. And she doesnt trust me when I tell her that I promise to do everything I say im going to do. But after what Ive done, can you blame her? Saturday, she talked to me and said, she wanted an Anullment. But a couple hours later, she tells me that she is going to hold off on the anullement because she loves me. And I know she does. She said dont call or txt her. She’ll call me. She called me after 3 days. Today. She said she was calling to hear my voice and to see how the job search was going. ive been looking for a Fulltime job that pays more than minimum wage for over 2 weeks now. Its hard to find somthing like that. And believe me, ive been looking as hard as I can. I have a few connections and maybe able to get a job with the School System here as a Custodial/Maintanence engineer. I guess you could say, Janitor. Im in college but they are all online classes. Thank god. But i cant convince her to come home and let me show her how much ive changed. And im afraid that if I cant get this job fast, she’ll get tired and leave for good. I love my wife. I know ive made some mistakes in the past. But I am human. And i want to make up for all that. But How can I show her if she isnt home and I cant call her? Any suggestions?

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I have been with my Fiance for almost 3 years. I have made some mistakes in the past and he knows what happens in the past, stays in the past. Since I will never do what I did to break his heart ever again. I want him to want to be romantic again and Fall IN love all over again.
It’s also hard not being with him everyday 24/7 like we were for 2 years when we lived together. I had to move back into my parents house so I can get money for college and have health insurance and such.. So now we have to work around his busy sheudle of being a Real Estate Property Manager and Me in college and working part-time.
I know we wil get married down the line ounce I am down with college and have saved up enough money to move out of my parents house.
What Can I do?

I love him so much and I miss him whenever I don’t see him. I know that he loves me to, but not like how it was when He didn’t know all the full-truth to what happened in my past.
It was almost 3 years ago, what I did, but reccently I told him the whole truth to the story. Since WE ARE ENGAGED, I like him knowing the truth about my past before and when I was unsure if he wanted to be with me , when we first started dating.

Tags: 3 years, enough money, fiance, health insurance, heart, insurance, love, ounce, parents, part time, real estate property, truth about, whole truth