The ultimate sin is being boring. Why? Because the instant
you bore the girl, he or she is onto something else, and you’ve
lost her.

Keep in mind women love adventure and excitement; intrigue creates attraction. Open any romance novel and you’ll find nothing but exciting (to women) event after exciting event.

One reason why many relationships go bad is that the guy who was exciting in the beginning now becomes boring because he stopped doing the things she found exciting. Remember, women view relationships as the ongoing process of attraction, men view them as an end in themselves. If you want to keep the attraction alive, you must keep doing the things she finds exciting.

This is not particularly difficult to do, and really, "variety" is
a better word than "exciting." Constantly changing up the places you go and the things you do is more than enough to keep her from getting bored with you.

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My ex and I broke up a little over 3 months ago in September. We were together for 1 yr and 3 months. We have been through a lot in that time though. We technically traveled the world together as she studied in France while I studied in Spain. Our split was mainly because there was a lot of pressure from our relationship because it progressed faster than we had planned and felt like we were very involved in each others lives. I guess you can say to a point where the appreciation and excitement of one another was losing its spark. Also the distance wasn’t helping when we were away from each other during our school semesters. Anyways when we broke up she studied one more semester abroad in Italy and I was here in the U.S. I stopped contact with her during the three months because I didn’t want to push her away by possibly making her feel any guilt from the separation and which I also thought was the best move for me regardless. During the 3 months I have not thought about her that much really and have been going out and enjoying the single life as you may say. Been able to move on from this instead of moping and feeling depressed from it, which I know I should of been doing anyways. So I have been fine and I know she had been fine especially being away from home.

Now she had come back home a couple weeks ago and I have seen her for the first time. I was very very happy to just see her and I had missed her very much. We got together a couple times just to catch up a little bit. One of the last times we had spoke, we kind of just spoke about how our relationship was before and how things may have been the cause of our separation. However I had asked the question of her possibly dating me again sometime in the future and she said maybe but that she wasn’t sure and that she has been happy being single. But our conversation got cut off after that cause we both had places to be at. A few days later I was invited by one of her best friends to her best friends Birthday Party. I had attended with a couple of my friends that they knew and we hung out with them and had a good time for the most part. For me it was the first time I had really felt the feeling again of really missing being her Man/ boyfriend and it was starting to kill me. I didn’t really interact with her too much that night but my friends had more than me. At the end of the night when I said goodbye I told her that she looked great and that it was nice seeing her. And she then informed me that she was wearing the dress that I had bought her before. Then we had a big hug and then an unexpected almost near kiss goodbye. Really wanted too but didn’t think it was right to. But my friends were all saying that they saw something that night. Maybe little indications of interests still there.

The next day I tried seeing if she wanted to hang out later that night. First she wasn’t able to do anything cause she had things to finish up and wasn’t sure if she felt like going out. Then I had mentioned that she should let me take her out once. After that she had said that our conversation that we had before the other day had gotten cutoff and that maybe we should get together and talk about it. So I said sure and then she asked to meet her at like a starbucks. Then before I was on my way she had mentioned that she didn’t want to leave the house and if I wanted to just go over her house instead. So I did. We spoke about what was going on between us and I guess you can say that she has been happy being single and isn’t quite looking to be in a relationship, however we had agreed to "Date" each other though. She admitted that being back home, that it is weird not hanging out with me when she is home or getting back from work and what not. Now she said she was afraid to go through with just dating because she thought that I wouldn’t be able to just date. However I felt like there was more to it than just being worried about me. But I’m unsure. So I guess you can say that we are technically dating now. We have hung out only a couple times now but when we do it feels just like how it used to be before when we were together. And I feel she tries to hold herself back at times but then she can’t at times as well and just goes with it. However we still now kiss each other at times and it seems cool for the most part. But for me I’m starting to feel the feelings that I once had for this girl. I loved her very much and I still do love her. Now I feel stuck in my head and what to think. I want to be back with her but at the same time I have no clue on how she feels because its like mixed signs.

My friends have told me that I am in a good spot and that I shouldn’t be worrying because they feel that she might be having similar feelings as well but she may be afraid from it as well. I just don’t know what to do and how I might be able to go about to possibly getting her back. I need some help, advice, something. If some of y’all can help me that would be great. It’s just tha

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My boyfriend and I have been together for a little more than a year and a half. We have lived together for the last 10 months. We are both 23.

Lately it seems that my boyfriend doesn’t enjoy spending time with me. He works all day and then comes home and just wants to play games on his computer. On the weekends he wants to spend the majority of his time on the computer as well, but will take me to see a movie and out to dinner. But even this seems like he is just punching a time clock so he can get back to "doing his own thing." If we do spend time together during the week it is usually while watching TV and he gets so zoned out that I might as well not even be there. When I talk he pays attention for awhile but seems to quickly get bored. For example, I was talking to him in a parking lot and the next thing I know he is starring at a van pulling out of a space and totally ignoring me.

My boyfriend used to be really attentive and act like I was the most important thing in his life, but now he seems to do the minimum and gets more excited about video games and even hanging out with his sister than being with me. He used to talk about our future but now he doesn’t at all and when I bring it up he seems to have no interest. He says he only misses me "sometimes" or "a little bit."

He says he still loves me but it doesn’t ring true in his actions. I think he loves me but it seems like he isn’t IN love with me. The only time he seems to show any real excitement about our relationship these days is when sexual intimacy is involved. I’m trying to give him space and even suggested we take a break but he said he doesn’t want to lose me. I’m so confused.

What should I do?

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The source cited is Daily mail in UK.

I noticed a question on so called "High flying " wives dumping househusbands or rather dull husbands who are devoted fathers .

Is this what was the aim in the end for equality???

How can a woman like this talk of responsible equality ?How can men be blamed for for dumoing dull wives who are devoted mothers then?

How can she walk away with the kids when the man is the one taking care as a househusband and should be given the rights that are given to a houswewife in case of divorce?

If a career woman dumps a man who takes care of the house and faimly because they had an agreement to begin with now dumps him because she wants excitement then why cant men do the same?

Poooh Poohing this by saying that this is about celebrities is not an answer please.
The source is:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/femail/article.html?in_article_id=467390&in_page_id=1879

Juniper dear lady your inputs are greatly appreciated but i still cannot beleive that this could be an increasing trend when women have just acheived equality especially in the work force and NOW THIS!!!!
Hiuchus you are not answering the question how come a career woman gets the same rights as a housewife in a divorce while a househusband does not?

And if men do this does that justify women doing this and then say women are better or wronged all the time?
Heartoffire Familial need did you say?

In that case a woman can dump a devoted father just because he no longer excites her and you think that is intellectual.

Where was intellect when he was taking of the house faimly and kids ???

And that means a man can also dump a devoted mother if she no longer satisfies him intellectually as you say?

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We have been dating for 1 year now. And recently, the old feelings are starting to come up again. The sweaty palms, racing heartbeats, nervousness, excitement, everything. Its like having a crush on him all over again! I can’t figure out how he did this..can anyone explain?

We both figured out that we have to do something to spice up things in our relationship..and apparently, he managed to do it.

How can i do the same thing too?
and how to show my appriciation to him for the things he had done for me?

Tags: appriciation, excitement, falling in love, nervousness, old feelings, relationship, Spice, sweaty palms