I know it can very depending on the circumstances so here is a brief overview of mine:
-I knew him 7 years (we broke up 4 of those years and tried again 2 years ago)
-We have a 5 year old
-I love him dearly… we were planning to get married
-He began smoking pot everyday and he lied about a lot which caused A LOT of arguments
-He supposedly quit but continued hanging out with his old drug buddies
We broke up 2 months ago and while Im trying to focus on being the best mommy I can… I am completely torn up on the inside. Sometimes I’ll feel okay but the heartbreak will hit me like a ton of bricks again. When will this pain go away when I have to see him every other week for visitation? My heart literally aches. How long did it take you to heal?
You are telling me to support something that is illegal. How about last fall when he got arrested and sat his butt in jail for 2 days for possession?
IT IS ILLEGAL!!! If you think getting high to escape the reality you screwed up your life is worth leaving your child without a father then maybe its best you keep gettin blazed and spend the rest of your life in jail before you have the opportunity to have kids to screw up.
Grow up, kiddo. Life isnt about making you happy. Its about doing for others. You’re just a selfish excuse for a human being.
It has nothing to do with weed making you unintelligent (thats a whole ‘nother argument in itself). My issue lies with the fact that it is illegal. Whether you think it should be legalized or not is irrelevant… it just is. Its easy for you to justify your actions based on your own personal circumstances. But you arent me. I had to watch my child beg her father to wake up off the couch every day when he was too blazed to notice her. I had to deal with his mood swings when he couldnt afford to buy weed for a week and put me in a choke hold… something he never once did in the years before he even tried smoking.
He became lazy. We went from being a loving couple to people who sat at home all day because he "just didnt feel like doing anything" he was so high. He used to be active before he depended on a substance just to get him through another day of dealing with people.
Im the one who listened to my daughter cry when daddy forgot to come get her after we broke up. Not you.
I was the one struggling financially when he couldnt pay he didnt pay child support only to find out later he blew it on pot and K2 "spice".
I was the one holding our family together and standing by his side for 2 years. He used to be loving and selfless. Since he started smoking he started to lie about everything.
You dont know HOW it feels to be told getting high is better than being sober with your family. So before you go defending your addiction, take a look at how it hurts those around you. My mom smoked all through my childhood and I was totally neglected emotionally. Smoking weed or doing any drug for that matter hurt those around you whether you choose to see it or not. Chances are you wont because its like you guys are blinded. And its people like me and my innocent little 5 year old girl who are hurt and neglected as a result.
My mind is molded? Sure you could say that. But not by the textbooks. My experiences alone showed me how drugs of any kind suck the life out of you and those around you. I have first hand experience… I was the daughter of a pot head. And I chose not to do this to my own child which is why its unfortunate her father is making the choices he is. It has nothing to do with "opening my mind" to try new things. I have had more than my fair share of experiences with it through the people I know. I hope for your sake and the sake of any children you have in the future you quit or seek help. No one needs a life of depending on a substance to make you feel happy. Its artificial.
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