ok. my ex and i started dating in January of "09". we just broke up in February of 2010. we had spent every day together. that is until i went away to college. i was only 17 when i got with him. he was my first love and my FIRST. we became extremely close with each others family and friends. i even fell in love with his 5 year old son. YES he has a kid. him and his baby momma broke up when his son was 3. after i went away to school the relationship became strained. about a month ago i found out that he had cheated on me with her. i broke up with him even though he tried to convince me that it will never happen again. since i would not give him another chance, i guess he decided to make things work with her. i go home for spring break in a couple of days and i have made it my goal to get him back. i need ANY advice on how to rekindle my old flame.
PLEASE: no bullsh*t about how i can do better or he will cheat again or i shouldnt come between them. these are all things i have thought deeply about and i realized that he is who i want to be with!
ok for all you negitve nancy’s thanks for the abuse. but to let you all know, she KNEW him and i were together and she is a horrible mother. she has 3 kids 3 different daddys. i can HONESTLY say that i spent more time with their son then her. he called me crying last week asking me why i dont play with him anymore.

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I was in a relationship for 3 years and 90% of the time was not a pleasant experience. He was abusive (physically and emotionally) and hurt me emotionally in almost all the ways possible. I finally woke up 6 months ago and I decided enough was enough and I ended the relationship. He has not come to terms with our breakup and he calls me constantly for whatever excuse to talk to me. He will show up at my door, he was leaving lots of notes and roses and now occasionally will leave a note. He is extremely jealous/possessive and I can’t even be interested or date anyone because of this. I still love him and care about him, but I will never be in a relationship with him ever again. He said that he ruined the relationship with his behavior but I stopped his trying to re-establish a relationship. Basically I gave up in his eyes. I didn’t try my best according to him. I was always there for him, day and night. He owes me a large sum of money and I sacrificed many things (including one year of school) so I could make him happy. I worked two jobs to support him and his family in their times of need. I am now focusing on myself, school and family and friends. I’m only 21 and this is the only serious relationship I’ve been in and it was quite traumatic. Now for some reason he has switched it to where I am the selfish one who doesn’t have the time or desire to see him, when all through the relationship I had to practically beg him for his attention and time and love, which I didn’t receive. He tells me that he loves me and tells me all the things I wanted to hear 3 years ago. He hasn’t gotten mad in the past 6 months and has been respectful (except for trying to make passes/moves on me) and pleasant…but I still don’t trust him and apparently that’s MY issue. I don’t know what to do. I know that I won’t ever date him again and I’ve told him that. He is very needy and I think he doesn’t want to let me go because I am the only person that has ever helped him with anything he has needed. I think he relies on me too much and now that I am not with him, he doesn’t know how to handle it on his own. I wish we could just be friends, but with my resentment and his unwillingness to move on I don’t think that’s possible. I would hate to get a restraining order b/c he is my first love and that would be hard. Am I being a cold, hard person because I can’t just forget the past and move on with him. He said if I truly had loved him, I would be able to be with him like he is able to be with me. I need some input from other people because I am so confused if what I feel is okay.

I was so scared to speak my mind in the relationship that I buried my feelings. I find that now when I see him and he is calm, I will let my feelings out and I get so livid. I don’t know why I didn’t get mad until after we broke up. Is it wrong of me to be mad at him? I need help to move on and be happy. I want him to be happy too, and it kills me because I can’t give him what he wants, but I figure he asked for it with his inappropriate behavior.

Sorry so long…thanks for taking the time to read my story and offer advice. God bless! <3

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Me and my boyfriend/fiance of 5 years just recently broke up.. about 2 weeks ago. I found out from a friend of his that he was cheating on me prior to the breakup which hurt me so bad. But i kept quiet about it, Once I told him that I knew he was cheating on me,he denied it but finally admitted that he had caught hard feelings for the other girl. I moved out and we didn’t speak for a few days. He then called me and said that he wanted to talk to me face to face about it. While we were talking he said that he loves me and he was confused about who he wanted to be with. Then he later said that he wanted to be with me and her, he didn’t want to choose. How could he fix his mouth to say something like that? While In his presence I must admit that i became weak and I did allow myself to be intimate with him. He told me that he wanted me to move back home, but later said that he wanted to be with her. Now he says that he needs time to see where he wants to be and he wants me to wait for him.
He says that he needs time for himself and that he will make a decision as to who he wants to be with, but for me to be patient with him because he could choose me. He also told me today that he loves her, but they have only been together since April 27th. I don’t have much family and friends to help me get through this pain. 5 years is a long time and I still love this man with all my heart. Walking away is a difficult thing and staying will only cause me more pain I know this, but how do I avoid him? I wish I didn’t love him so much!

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