Ok, My boyfriend and I broke up about two weeks ago. It has been a hard two weeks. One of his family members past away. And he has been ignoring me for the whole two weeks. These two girls that I hate very much like him. Their so pretty. I hope he doesn’t like them. Does anyone have any tips ? I need help on how to get him to talk to me and like me again /:

Tags: Ex Boyfriend, family members, two girls

diamondcity34 Posted on Jun 12, 2010 9:41 AM

I am writing today because I am the victium of a DL brotha(Down Low), I am at the point now where i am lost and I feeling i’m crazy..well at least me is making me feel that way..We have been married for 3 and half years now..and we have 2 kids together..my husband is in the national guard and currently is serving his second term in Iraq. I served in the military as well but got out to jet married and have a family. I should have known something was up when everytime i would cheat on him when we were dating..he always took me back and said that he loved me soo much and couldnt see me not being in his life..we were high school sweethearts, forgot to mention..anyways when i was stationed in germany which was his first tour in Iraq we were suppose to get married since then..but for some reason i didnt feel right about the situation and i turned him down..i could never put my finger on it as of what it was..anyways that was my last tour and i got out of the military..came back home and he would always push the issue of us getting married..so then we just got married with the justice of peace..honestly i was pressured to marry him by family members and all…so i did it…his mother never even came!!!, said that she had to work!!..wow, A MOTHER KNOWS HER CHILD..but it still never dawned on me..anyways a couple months later i was preganant with his first my second child!, while i was preganant he neva showed no affection..and so i fussed and fussed on the issue and moved out and went my own way..got me an apartment and all…

Anyways ima skip some things cause i will be typing forever..My husband is currently on a tour in Iraq at the moment and I heard him having sex with another guy on the phone..my heart dropped, I was trembling, shaking and all..shocked out this world..I kept on listening and he was telling this guy that he loved him..and the guy was screaming his first name!!!..So of course I started screaming and going off on him..and he never said a word..I hung up on him and he never called back til 2 days later!…during that time, i was lost..my world had just came down right there in my face..He finally called back and said look i know that you heard things but jus ignore it!!!..now u know if i coulda stick my hand throu that phone..lets jus say it wouldnt be nice!..Anways through all this yes he has desires of being with me..he told me he felt that way since high school..its like i have soo many questions and he’ll tell me little things like yeah i have been sleeping with men..then turn around and say he lied!!, He constantly does things like that to me…and its breaking my heart..he dont even tell me he loves me anymore..we only had sex twice before he left..he shows me no affection and says when he gets back that he will work on that..??my take on that is how do you have to work on something that is natural when u love someone!!…His ring he doesnt even wear his ring…I asked him if he had it and he said yes and when i asked him to see it, he refused to show it to me!!!…and then the next day he apologized and showed me a ring that is not even the same ring that i purchased for him!!!..crushed me again…he is always going to the gym at 10:30pm!!im like wth!!..he sleeps with his back faced me!!..He doesnt even ask about the kids!, He lies, and keeps secrets..

*And he laughs like its amusing to him!, and brushes me off…The killing part of it all is that he is sleeping with his roomate!!…so he is living the life out there..wrk once a week…and watch dvd’s all day..he never sleeps and i dont understand that..I ask him to show me his d**k and refuses..and when he does it on the hard!!! and all shiny!!! wth!!…i ask him why is that like that..and he makes up lies and i see it in his face that he is lieing!!! It’s like when we talk its like he twists it on me!, like i can ask him well do you want a divorce and he tells me well thats what you want so do it..i dont want it but if thats what you want then thats on you!!, like he does things like that!! and laughs like its funni!!..*

HELP ME WHAT AM I TO DO!!??

Tags: affection, apartment, dl, family members, germany, half years, having sex, heart, high school sweethearts, iraq, justice of peace, Lost, national guard, neva, Reason, second term, Typing, Wow

Last year I ended my 8 year marriage to my wife for MANY reason. We were total opposite, and in different places of our lives. My family understood my reasons and were very supportive. Until I started dating again. Shortly after my divorce I started dating Jenn, younger girl from work. We NEVER had any type of relationship before my divorce. We talked now and then but that was it. She is a lot younger then me she is 22 and I am 38. Our relationship went moved very fast, when we were seeing each other for close to 3 months she found out she was pregnant. My family were horrible towards her. My sister called her a home wrecker, gold digger and a child everything she could think of. my brother says I am in a midlife crisis and that our relationship isn’t real. My mother is nice when my girl friend is there but when I am alone she is always saying things like how she is to young or how one day I will wake up and she will be gone with some one her own age. I am happy and that’s what matters. But I know how much it upset Jenn, she wants my family to like her, she wants to be close to them. She has went out of her way to be nice but they are so closed minded that they don’t care.So many times after visit with my family they have made Jenn feel so unwelcomed that she was literally cried on the drive home. I hate seeing her so upset. It is to the point now that I don’t care if we visit them at all. Which makes Jenn feel like it is her fault I am not seeing my family. My sister in law (one of the few family members that is nice to her) asked me if she would mind if she threw us a baby shower (this is the first child for both of us)and my sister was mad about it. I know jenn would love it but at the same time how rude and cold would they be towards her. My daughter is due to be born in a few weeks and I am happy and excited so is Jenn but I am afraid of the way that my family will act. I literally stress out over wondering what they coudl possible say at the hospital to upset her. How can I explain or show them how happy were are as a couple and how much pain they are causing us?

Tags: baby shower, brother, Dating, different places, divorce, family members, girl friend, girlfriend, gold digger, home wrecker, marriage, midlife crisis, Pregnant, relationship, saying things, Sister In Law, younger girl

I know it is very wiered, i divorce my wife, she has filed the custody of our two year old baby and now i missing both of them, altough she allows me to see her every weekend. I realized that i love her, more than ever even when she was with me, i would appreciate if any one tell me that how can i make her belive that i love her and all this will not happend again, we communicate with each othere once in a month, she is very puzzle, sometime she even cries for me on the phone, how can i convince her and her family as there is some influence from those stupid family members who never ever came to see her when we were together.

Tags: belive, divorce, Ex Wife, family members, love, old baby, Puzzle, stupid family

My ex and I have been split for a month and a half. Two weeks ago, we had begun talking again. We both go to the same college so we see each other passing a lot. I always try to smile and say hello, and he does the same. I recently held a mutual friend’s birthday party and was inviting people to come, and my ex lived in the same dormitory as the friend. I knocked on the door and invited him. He said he was interested. He has been very apologetic and we ended up talking in his room for over two hours.

He told me he wasn’t over me, and he was afraid of hanging out by ourselves since a "moment of passion" could happen, so he suggested hanging out in groups. He told me he doesn’t believe there is anyone for him so he said he doesn’t want to date other people. Though he told me he didn’t want a relationship. He said that he was upset that he sees me on campus more now then he had when we were together. He said he always checks out my Facebook updates and highlights..

So he hugged me twice during the time I was in his room and the second time was a long embrace that was interrupted by my phone in my pocket vibrating. He told me how hurt he was when we ended our relationship in graphic details. He kept calling me my pet name "Honey" also. After our 2 hour talk, his friends showed up and he invited me to hang out with them. I stayed with them for 3 hours laughing and having a great time with my ex there too. My ex paid a lot of attention to me.

I feel like I am getting mixed signals. All of our mutual friends have said that while we were together, we both seemed extraordinarily happy. And he was just as intense as I was. There was no cheating, lying, or anything like that. We broke up due to miscommunication with our family members. And he made it a point to say a few times in the room that he always loved me in our relationship. He said he knew I didn’t believe it, but he assured me he loved me during our relationship. Please give your opinions about what he’s trying to do.

Tags: birthday party, Checks, dormitory, embrace, family members, graphic details, having a great time, Hello, honey, Lot, miscommunication, mixed signals, moment of passion, mutual friend, mutual friends, People, pet name, relationship, second time, smile