You may have asked all kinds of different people how do I get my ex girlfriend back? Most people will just tell you that there’s nothing you can do, and it’s up to the woman to change her mind. These breakups are usually the result of a guy not knowing a good thing when he has it. There have been any number of ridiculous reasons why relationships have ended.

Some of the craziest reasons I’ve heard my guy friends say they dumped their girl for are

1. Having a poor fashion sense
2. Having an overly protective mother
3. They started to get signals from a cute waitress at a restaurant they frequent

While it’s understandable for a guy to get turned around when a different women starts to show interest, and it’s often said that a woman will end up turning out like their mother, what’s the sense in dropping a good girl because you don’t like the clothes she wears? If this was the criteria of finding a mate, then our species wouldn’t have ever made it to this point. Behind every good man there is a woman, be it their mother who raised them up and then later their wife.

One piece of advice I always give my guy friends who are having second thoughts is to make a list before they do anything drastic. On one part of the list go through all of the good points in the relationship. Is she interesting to talk to? Does she take good care of your needs? Does she cook and feed you every day? Does she find you interesting and funny? Are you physically and mentally attracted to her?

On another part of the list put all the things that are giving you doubt. Does she nag you about little things like leaving the toilet seat up? Is she not as affectionate as she used to be? Do you not talk as much as you used to?

While it may seem a bit cold to break a relationship down into good and bad parts, the ultimate goal it usually has is helping you realize exactly what you would lose. You need to really think hard about your decision and take the contents of the list seriously before you act. This is especially helpful if you’re acting on impulse because of one particular event. It’s easy to regret a decision and end up feeling unbearably lonely. Loneliness however is not a reason to get back together in itself.

If you find yourself in the situation that you ended a relationship with a woman that you’re seriously regretting, you need to act quickly. Great woman are hard to find nowadays. Finding one that is willing to accept you for who you are is not something that should be taken for granted.

Take a piece of advice given by Richard Gere’s book and bring some romance back into her life. Be thoughtful in a gift for her. Don’t just send her roses, but instead send her a bouquet of her favorite flowers. Include a handwritten letter than tells you how much you miss her, and what she means to you. Take her out to her favorite restaurant and treat her like the amazing person she is. By showing thought and compassion in the way you treat her, you won’t need to be asking how do I get my ex girlfriend back.

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