This may seem daft, but I wish my husband would notice me like he used too. I know that after a few years the passion can subside, but I do miss it.

He just seems utterly blind to me as a sexual woman with needs. We only make love once or twice a month. We have been together 5 years.

Other men notice me, and it gives me a buzz, but I wish my husband would look at me in the same way! A gorgeous guy at work has made it clear he is attracted to me and it makes me feel warm and giddy, like my husband used too. I would not do anything, but I fear that the lack of love and attention from my husband will one day drive me into someone elses arms.

I am open about how I feel, but I dont think he see’s the problem. I am currently loosing weight to regain my self confidence, but have not told him, I want to see if he starts to notice me again.

Ladies, I know alot of you out there have felt this way at some point during your married lives. Do you have any advice for me?

Many Thanks

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me and my ex that i had loved for 5 years broke up for good today, we had been going out for almost a year and a half, however like half of it was long distance cuza him going to uni
recently however we kept having problems, and broke up about 3 times in like 2 months.. but kept getting back and trying to fix it
but i felt like he lost feelings for me because he wasn’t acting so interested anymore,
although he said he still loved me
and now we finally broke up for good.. and i am finding it so hard to get over him because i keep thinking that if he DID love me then maybe this was cuz of my fear, even though he WAS different
and i just feel like i can never fall in love again and i just want him back, but i know it cant happened now and want to move on! sorry if i sound like im venting it out, but i just really need help on this
thankyou for the answers, all of them are really helpful
i was also wondering.. any tips on how to get through sleeping.. without thinking to much? that’s the hardest part lol

Tags: fear, feelings, long distance, love, thankyou

I visit YaHoo Answers frequently, and time and time again, I respond to a lot of questions that revolve around women who find themselves stuck in bad relationships, but cannot find the courage to leave despite their on-going misery. The topics read like a bad Jerry Springer episode: He cheats on me, but I love him; he has had other children outside the marriage, but I love him; he beats me, humilates me, has no job, he’s a horrible parent and given me VD, but I LOVE HIM!! I don’t understand this. I mean . . I have had my share of bad relationships, but if I even got a hint of something funny going on, I was outta there. I just wasn’t having it!! I don’t know if this is an issue of my self-esteem or because I had a host of strong women in my family that instilled in me in at an early age that I was worthy of being loved. Honestly, I think if there was a piil that allowed women to get over the heartache, I think they would be leaving these types of men in droves. What do you think?
This question is not meant to suggest that bad relationships do not happen to men, but it is mainly directed toward women because through my observations, women seem to feel more emotionally trapped or better yet, financially trapped into staying in bad relationships. Fear is a prime motivator to stay– fear of not finding someone else or fear of being alone, especially if the woman has children or perhaps is not confident about her appearance, weight, or finds dating difficult.

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been with my bf for 3and a half years. great reltionship. broke up for a few months – he did the breakin up. we got back together. after 4 months of being back, i started experiencing anxiety when i was around him. i love him so much and i’ve been trying to push through these feelings b.c i know i don’t want to not be with him. sometimes i’m fine and wonder why i worry. other times i get physically ill…most of the time it is anticipatory anxiety….anxiety about anxiety. will i get it today? will i feel anxious when i see him? we are moving in together, and i am freaking out that i’ll be in a constant state of anxiety once i move in. i know i wnat to do i though b.c i want to ove our relationship on to the next step. i want to conquer my fear…how can i move past this anxiety and cherish and value what i have and stop worrying about- what if’s? help.

Tags: 4 months, anticipatory anxiety, bf, fear, feelings, half years, love, relationship, worry

(Abyss Of Flames)

I’m so sick of trying to connect all the dots
I’m tired of sharing all of my thoughts
I don’t care what you think, cause it’s not about you
Would you give me a break, it’s the least you could do

I’ve been through some shit, and I just want to explain
But in talking to you, I am no longer sane
I’m releasing my anger and I’m letting it flow
I’m sharing my past, and how I can’t let it go

Would you get off my back about each grammatical error
This story is mine, and you’re not the bearer
So please just shut up, and have a good listen
There’s some valuable lessons that you might be missin’

I’m not one to judge, but you’re on top of my chart
As the person I hate most, for despising my art
Why don’t you get it, I am just seventeen
I don’t care if you like me or if you say I am mean

But I’m not who I was, and I never will be
The kid that you knew, and still think to be me
So stop all your praying, I will never go back
When I started to write, I got of the track

Now I am different and I’m not like the rest
My goal is no longer to be one of the best
Now I’m just trying to get through the day
Without cursing God’s name or just walking away

I fell to my knees, and I thought I got up
But I simply fell deeper, but not deep enough
So I continue on down and there’s no standing tall
I went to the edge, and I continued to fall

So here I remain and there’s no going back
I thought there was hope, but my thoughts are not fact
So much for thinking that I would be saved
The distance I’m falling leads right to my grave

There you will find me, buried down deep
If there was just one memory that I could still keep
It’d be the memory of the year two-thousand and five
Where the hope I once had was still considered alive

Because hope is everything that it comes down to
When all hope is lost, your fear will just grind you

Into an endless abyss of flames…

(The Ground)

Whether I get rich or whether I stay poor
Let me say it doesn’t matter any more
Whether she says yes, or whether she says no
Tell me friend, where’s it all gonna go
Far beneath the ground
Far beneath the ground
The Ground…

I’ll become the dust from which I was formed
I’ll be the sand that blows within the storm
When I’ve met my end
When I’ve met my end

Whether I live free, or I’m stuck behind a cage
My life is a play and the world is my stage
Whether I work hard, or I do not work at all
One thing that I know is that I am gonna fall
Far beneath the ground
Far beneath the ground
The Ground…

I’ll become the dust from which I was formed
I’ll be the sand that blows within the storm
When I’ve met my end
When I’ve met my end

There will be no sign and there will be no trace
No one will remember the look upon my face
When I dive into the ground
Dive into the ground…
The Ground…

Bridal Gown (Part 1)

I knelt upon one knee, and asked her the question
In case you didn’t understand my implied suggestion
That is the day I learned something I did not know
I left everything I once knew, as I lifted up that stone

I bought her a ring, you should’ve seen her face
She cried for a moment, then gave me a long embrace
I stood up from the ground and asked if that meant yes
She smiled at me and replied “That’s a good guess.”

We hugged once again and immediately left town
I’ve never been so happy, nothing could bring me down
We went on living normal lives for another year
Then after long discussions we faced all of our fears

Now here we are about to finally become as one
No our lives aren’t over, they’ve only just begun
I love her with all my heart and I know that she loves me
Although we’re both scared, we want to start a family

Within a few hours I’ll be, wearing a tux with a rose
I am kinda nervous, but I just can’t let it show
I swallow all my fear, and then I step out the door
I love this girl so much, but I want to love her more…

I’m standing at the alter as the flower girl skips down
I see the most stunning girl wearing the most beautiful gown
A tear falls from my eye, and I can’t help but smile
I’ve got to be the luckiest man, I’ve seen for quite awhile

All sound is silent, I hear nothing but her footsteps
After all I’ve ever been through, I have no regrets
Everything’s in slow motion, as she walks upon the floor
I haven’t looked away since she stepped through the door

Her hair is so lovely and her eyes are pretty too
I can’t believe that soon I’ll be standing next to you
Your father let’s you go, I must say “He’s quite a brave man.”
He hopes I’ll treat you well, and also believes that I can

In sickness or in health I’ll always stand by your side
I can’t believe that I’m with you, and that you’re my bride
I can’t explain this feeling it’s like a rush I’ve never had
I can’t define this emotion, cause I cry, yet I’m not sad

Now you stand before me as the priest begins to speak
I have never felt s

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