I posted a question a while back (below) about what I should do as my boyfriend was hurting me only having come back after he left a few months ago. Firstly I want to say a big thank you to everyone who took the time to reply it really helped.

Since all of this happended he hasn’t really tried at all, he didn’t even do anything for my 30th Birthday and didn’t even help. What he was more interested in was a speaker for his car, he could afford that. On my actual birthday he wasn’t around, the night after he went out, i explained that how can I beleive him when he says he loves me, he told me I just have to. The night of my party he kept dissapearing and people where asking where is he, I couldn’t answer so felt stupid. I caught him on the stairs texting someone else but he turned his phone over when I walked towards him. He had also already mentioned that it was another friends birthday, i told him if he wanted to go to hers instead. Later that night when I went to find him I caught him outside on the phone saying I’ll be there, i’m coming, when he turned around he looked shocked that I was there, I asked where are you going and why are you abandoning me on my party night. All I got was I’m going, I said what, again he said he was leaving. Now this was really wrong but I couldn’t help it I felt so let down I ended up slapping him around the head, I shouldn’t have done this as its not me at all but I was so upset. Only days before after all the crap with that girl had he said I need to trust him that when he says he loves me he does. Certainly didn’t feel like that. When I got home his stuff was gone, which i’m kinda glad about as I was thinking of asking him to leave at the end of the month as he wasn’t paying his way with bills and stuff, but I thought I’d give him a change and no money ever showed up- just like before expect this time I had to be strong and not keep him. I feel better that I don’t have to worry about doubting someone thats supposed to care anymore, but feel lost as I was hoping that when he came back he would be the person I fell in love with all that time ago. Even some of his friends have said that they don’t like him anymore as he has changed, but not for the better. I think I was right to not stand for this anymore but your thoughts would be most appreciated if you have time. Thanks again.

What should I do, My ex came back but wont stop texting someone he was seeing?
My ex recently came back and moved in again after a few months apart. He explained he left over silly reasons and that he came back because he loves me. Obviously I loved him and tried everything to make him see sense but ended up having to give up and try to move on. I started to see someone else and a few others took interest lightheartedly of course. Anyway when he came back we had the awkward conversation of do we have anyone else to tell that we are back together he said he had seen this one girl and it didn’t mean anything and i told him about mine. The next day I text everyone to say I was back with him and I showed him this and their response. He seemed reluctant to inform his interest. Anyway eventually he did and she kept texting him and calling him and at first he got mad and didn’t reply or was abrupt with her on the phone. I explained it has to stop and he agreed. A few days ago I received a message from someone who was still interested and I told him about this to keep the honestly between us alive like we agreed. Out of curiosity I asked him have you heard from yours, he then just casually said yeah we’ve been chatting. Now i’m not sure if what I feel is wrong, but to me at my age late 20′s if you get back with some and agree to draw a line under something you don’t bring the crap that you had over that point. I mean she still texts him and calls him when we are in our bed. I now dread hearing his phone go off and don’t want to ask him. A few days ago I mentioned that this is hurting me that even without him having to ask me to get rid of those interested in me i did so, and that I now have to put up with her all the time and it feels crap almost like he is keeping her there for a reason. When I ask him about this and actually say I don’t like it all I get is that she is a friend, he makes out like she is this amazing mate, who fair enough he has know for years but before he left he hadn’t spoke to her for 2 years. I tried to explain that he was the one who screwed up and that sometimes we all have to deal with the consequences our actions, even me in loosing the friend I was seeing because I don’t think its appropriate to keep them on the scene if Im with my fella. He really doesn’t understand this and all I get is she is just a friend. I don’t know what to do as I do love him, but over the past few days since he has basically said that he wont get rid of this person I don’t feel connected to him anymore, pretty much like he threw us away so easily before weather it was a mistake or not and now I

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my boyfriend of a yr & a half broke up with me this past week & the week before. the week before he decided he wanted to work on things.

i’ve been trying to not contact him but i failed & called him the other day & he asked how have you been doing babe & talking to me. i went to see him at his work yesterday & asked if he would get back together w/ me & we could do things slowly.

he still loves me but we were fighting alot. i am likely to see him at a mutual friends birthday tonight. i wrote him a letter but don’t know if i should give it to him, since i cried my eyes out in front of him at his work.

he said hes just been focusing on himself for now…hes not interested in being with anyone else & hopes i don’t do the same. i told him i can’t wait forever & put my life on hold. our relationship was good when we didn’t fight. i love him so much still.

i want us to get back together before Valentines day. i want this badly because last year this time, we weren’t together. he had broken up w/ me after 2 months, but since then we’ve been back together since last march 08.

what should i do to make this happen? i’m just so heartbroken.

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My recent ex, of a year and a half, and I broke up about a month ago. Recently, she came back to me asking if i missed us, and if i saw us in the future.. i said i dont know. and she said she could DEFINATELY see it. The thing is, SHE was the one doing the midnight calling for a week straight. Then the following weekend, she went to a friends’ birthday party and met a guy, whom she’s excited about.
It’s so hard getting over her because she showed signs of wanting us back so bad…. then she stopped talking to me like she was.. and started being very short with me on texting, and calls.. etc. I guess this is really a plea as to HOW PEOPLE CAN GET OVER AN EX! she’s got my heart in her hands, and she knows it now. What can I do to get myself back?

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My ex and I broke up a little over 3 months ago in September. We were together for 1 yr and 3 months. We have been through a lot in that time though. We technically traveled the world together as she studied in France while I studied in Spain. Our split was mainly because there was a lot of pressure from our relationship because it progressed faster than we had planned and felt like we were very involved in each others lives. I guess you can say to a point where the appreciation and excitement of one another was losing its spark. Also the distance wasn’t helping when we were away from each other during our school semesters. Anyways when we broke up she studied one more semester abroad in Italy and I was here in the U.S. I stopped contact with her during the three months because I didn’t want to push her away by possibly making her feel any guilt from the separation and which I also thought was the best move for me regardless. During the 3 months I have not thought about her that much really and have been going out and enjoying the single life as you may say. Been able to move on from this instead of moping and feeling depressed from it, which I know I should of been doing anyways. So I have been fine and I know she had been fine especially being away from home.

Now she had come back home a couple weeks ago and I have seen her for the first time. I was very very happy to just see her and I had missed her very much. We got together a couple times just to catch up a little bit. One of the last times we had spoke, we kind of just spoke about how our relationship was before and how things may have been the cause of our separation. However I had asked the question of her possibly dating me again sometime in the future and she said maybe but that she wasn’t sure and that she has been happy being single. But our conversation got cut off after that cause we both had places to be at. A few days later I was invited by one of her best friends to her best friends Birthday Party. I had attended with a couple of my friends that they knew and we hung out with them and had a good time for the most part. For me it was the first time I had really felt the feeling again of really missing being her Man/ boyfriend and it was starting to kill me. I didn’t really interact with her too much that night but my friends had more than me. At the end of the night when I said goodbye I told her that she looked great and that it was nice seeing her. And she then informed me that she was wearing the dress that I had bought her before. Then we had a big hug and then an unexpected almost near kiss goodbye. Really wanted too but didn’t think it was right to. But my friends were all saying that they saw something that night. Maybe little indications of interests still there.

The next day I tried seeing if she wanted to hang out later that night. First she wasn’t able to do anything cause she had things to finish up and wasn’t sure if she felt like going out. Then I had mentioned that she should let me take her out once. After that she had said that our conversation that we had before the other day had gotten cutoff and that maybe we should get together and talk about it. So I said sure and then she asked to meet her at like a starbucks. Then before I was on my way she had mentioned that she didn’t want to leave the house and if I wanted to just go over her house instead. So I did. We spoke about what was going on between us and I guess you can say that she has been happy being single and isn’t quite looking to be in a relationship, however we had agreed to "Date" each other though. She admitted that being back home, that it is weird not hanging out with me when she is home or getting back from work and what not. Now she said she was afraid to go through with just dating because she thought that I wouldn’t be able to just date. However I felt like there was more to it than just being worried about me. But I’m unsure. So I guess you can say that we are technically dating now. We have hung out only a couple times now but when we do it feels just like how it used to be before when we were together. And I feel she tries to hold herself back at times but then she can’t at times as well and just goes with it. However we still now kiss each other at times and it seems cool for the most part. But for me I’m starting to feel the feelings that I once had for this girl. I loved her very much and I still do love her. Now I feel stuck in my head and what to think. I want to be back with her but at the same time I have no clue on how she feels because its like mixed signs.

My friends have told me that I am in a good spot and that I shouldn’t be worrying because they feel that she might be having similar feelings as well but she may be afraid from it as well. I just don’t know what to do and how I might be able to go about to possibly getting her back. I need some help, advice, something. If some of y’all can help me that would be great. It’s just tha

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