i dated this guy, lets call him Frank, we dated fer a few days over a month,i was 16 and he was 18. im currently 17 and he is still 18. he was my first everything, from hand holding to kissing to sex. then he randomly became mean so i couldn’t take it and broke up with him. its been about 8 months since our breakup and i have a new amazing boyfriend who treats me like gold. but all the time i randomly start thinking about my ex and i talk about him a lot, even to my boyfriend. me and ‘frank" never talk. and if we do, he is saying something mean (like im ugly and he never loved me) but he used to always say i was beautiful and stuff. he has a girlfriend now. and ive seen him once these past 8 months, and when i saw him he kept looking at me. my friends say he probably still loves me and wants me back. but it doesn’t show because he hasn’t said one nice word to me since the breakup. another bad thing is that about a month after me and him broke up, i dated his brother to get him jealous, and frank forced him to break up with me! i wanna know either, how to get him back, how to figure out why he hates me, if he still loves me.
its been 8 months. im dying here.
i need answers!

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sex therapy is the last chance i have to save my marriage but i don’t even feel like going. how can you expect to save a marriage when you are not even attracted to the person? we have zero chemistry & sadly, i can’t even remember why i was attracted to him in the first place. i know i was drawn to him because i knew he would take care of me….but i’m older now & don’t need a caretaker. (i was 19 when i married, now i’m 23 and he’s 30).

i actually recommended sex therapy a few years ago but that suggestion was brushed aside. now we are separated (for 7 months) & now he wants to try. he says he’ll do anything.

he is a good man with a heart of gold. i love him more than anyone…..but he just doesn’t get my juices flowing.

so, should i visit a sex tharapist with him, even if i don’t want to? the only reason i’m considering is because he’s really truly willing to do anything…& i feel rotten for not returning the favor….plus, i don’t feel right getting a divorce w/o trying
PS: I have already cheated on him. he knows about it and took me back with open arms, as it was an eye opener for him—-he realized he was not taking care of my emotional and sexual needs.
isn’t it too soon to be feeling the "7 year itch"? i’ve only been married 4 years and started feeling it after a year.

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