I am 25 years old and I have been in love with the same boy for over 8 years now. I fell in love at 16 and have never fallen out. He was my first love, first everything, and we were in a relationship for 3 years, then on and off, and everything in between for a couple more years. I still talk to him every once in a while, and since he’s gotten a new girlfriend, I haven’t seen him in months. I cut off all contact with him a few months ago, because it hurt too bad to just be friends, but then I couldn’t stop thinking about him, and decided that I’d rather have him in my life as a friend then not in my life at all.
I thought I had moved on… I was in a serious long relationship from 2007-2009, and even had a child with that person, but we are no longer together. I have dated a few guys in between, but nothing has never compared to my first. I am still, and have always been deeply, deeply in love with my first.
I am having a terrible time coping and dealing with the fact that he is in love with his current girlfriend, who he has talked about marrying. I try to act happy for him, because we are good friends and will always support each other and be happy for one another. I don’t think he still has the same feelings for me as I do for him, so that makes it hard for me to express how I feel about him, and also because he is in a relationship and I feel it would be inappropriate for me to have the "I am still in love with you" talk with him now.
Truth is, I cry myself to sleep every single night over him, and don’t remember the last day I didn’t shed tears over my heartbreak and how much I miss him and long for the past when we were together. I have tried to move on, accept the fact that that was then and this is now, but I can’t. I feel like he has a huge chunk of my heart and I am so incomplete. All I want is him. We have not been together in over 4 years now, just good friends, and I feel like 4 years should be plenty of time for these feelings to die down, but it really feels as though my pain gets worse every day. I don’t know what to do anymore. They say time heals all wounds, but this pain is not going away. Will it ever?

Tags: 3 years, 8 years, Act, broken heart, chunk, Contact, couple more years, Express, feelings, first love, good friends, heart, heartbreak, new girlfriend, quot, relationship, Shed, sleep, truth

I am married for a year and my wife is in love with another man with whom she had a physical and emotional affair. She has been in love with him before we got married and I didnt know about it. She tells me she is still in love with him and cannot get any feelings towards me other than being a friend. She even finds it hard to come close to my physically. In fact, she got married to me because of several other reasons – our families were close, we were engaged for almost three years and we were good friends, she didn’t want to hurt all of us by breaking it off. But she did tell me before our wedding that she didn’t want to get married because she didnt love me. All of us thought she was not serious and convinced her that everything is going to be ok after the marriage. Also, the man she was in love with was married at that time (he is now divorced because of his affair with my wife) and she thought that she would be losing everything if she walked away from her marriage knowing her boyfriend was married. But now, with him being single again, she is having a hard time getting over the fact that she made a mistake in getting married to me. She also feels responsible for her boyfriend’s divorce and that she feels guilty about this.

This is causing a lot of stress for us. How do I make her forget her boyfriend and fall in love with me? I try to do all the small things to take care of her and she notices it, but she is unable to feel the same way towards me.

Tags: all the small things, divorce, emotional affair, Fall In Love, feelings, good friends, hard time, love, Love Man, Man Love, marriage, mistake, stress

My ex just recentky broke up with me saying it hasnt been the same and she just wants to be good friends and still wants me in her life. I still have strong feelings for her and I want her back. Is this possible and what do I do??

Tags: feelings, Friends, good friends

Hello, a year ago, i broke off a 3 year relationship. The breakup was pretty bad; lots of crying and lots of drama. Then I started dating this guy shortly after the break up (in few weeks, or maybe a month). That relationship lasted for 9 months and the break up was mutual; we are still good friends. So I am convinced that, that relationship was a rebound. Now, few weeks after this break up, i’m starting to date again…would you consider this a rebound too? Is it too early to date again, even though i have moved on emotionally?

Tags: 9 months, good friends, Hello, rebound, rebound relationships, relationship

call me crazy but i have a problem. my boyfriend and I were really good friends. then we started going out. and after around 3 months he told my best friend that he loved me. and i already knew i loved him. and at the 4th month we had our first kiss. the reason why he waited so long is because he said he wanted to go slow and not rush things because he didnt want to loose me. its now 6 months that we have been together. 2 of my friends think ever since we started going out we both have changed, and his bestfriend wants us to break up because of it. also in the last month too was kind of hard for me: his parents got in the way of our relationship, he flirted with this girl like crazy right infront of my eyes, & because he had done something that almost ruined our relationship totally. I told him it would be awhile before i trusted him again when it happened. recently though he hasnt talked to me as much on the phone and he has stopped texting me. alot of girls seem to like him too. he tellls me he loves me and all but can i really believe it? and worse i really am in love with him. i am so lost and confused and its even worse to think about if he might break up with me because hes getting tired of us or something. and i know that if he is he really doesnt love me at all. so i figured if i could make him love me more or even get him to love me or care about me more maybe i could fix everything. because i dont want to just sit around and iqnore all that could be coming, especially if i had a chance to fix it or change it. So tell me what should i do?

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