Married two years he left me over a month ago. I feel he was angry at me a lot and often showed a horrible temper yelling pushing me and some throwing things around. He says he yells cuz I don’t listen and that I’m not soft enough and call him on everything and make him feel like I’m his mom. Yes I have faults and probably was snappy at him a few times. But the abusive stuff I don’t think should happen! But I always apologized and took on the blame to stop his threats of leaving me.

Well he left all I can think of how much I miss him. And that I’ll never find anyone again. Yet I’m very attractive and have a good job friends family etc

He was often mad I wouldn’t have his kid. He says his dream is to have a family (yet before marriage he said as long as i have u)
I always say stop yelling and threatening to leave me for six months and we can have a kid. He never has.

Yesterday I spoke to him more and said I wanted a family too but need us to be stronger together. He has texted me back saying "ok to get me back you must have a kid in next six months. Then he will be mine forever.". He said he isn’t giving up on his dream. I said back to him I wanted to think about it and he wrote back "what part of I want a kid asap don’t you understand?" he
Said fine think about it but that he will keep looking for a replacement for me in the meantime. He went on a dating site two weeks after leaving me.

This could be my only chance at a kid I’m 39…. I know it doesn’t sound right but I really fear losing him
Help!

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ok so we broke up in march but pretty much february considering she cheated on me, but anyways we were together for about 8 months or so, and now juss to tell u, she was my first love, first person to have sex with, first with alotta things…now to my knowledge we broke up to go out and be free and not be tied down cuz were still young, I’m 19 and she’s 18…but wen I found out she cheated on me, she lied to me on y she wanted to break up..she pretty much broke up with me to make her and tha dude she cheated me on with public and official…and then after we broke up, I have no idea y but she deletes me off myspace..and I was like okay but my friend has her on myspace and he showed me her page and it says that her and her new bf(tha dude she cheated me on with) were together since february….funny thing is, is that I met this kid before..them two r friends..well more then friends now..but i even asked her many times after we broke up that if there was anything goin on between him and her and she kept saying no…and she lied to my face on that cuz she didn’t know I saw her page…soo lonnnng story short, the whole relationship was a lie, she cheated on me, and lied about cheating on me…idk how much more this girl can tear my heart apart but she’s doing hell of a good job!!!…now anyways I’m still hurt by all this of course, but I do what everyone says to do, cut off all contact, I don’t text, call nothing wit her!!!! and I have been for the longest time but the problem is that we work together so I see her whenever she works..and that’s the only time!!! now idk I’m doing somewhat good with this broken heart,but I have my moments where I get all emotional and shit and there r times where I’m perfectly fine…now I juss have alotta anger towards her cuz of all this..and I know it’s normal for this but I don’t think I fully let it out, like in a constructive way, cuz I juss don’t talk about our break up really to anyone cuz I thought not talking about it might help but idk, I have my sad moments….I’m not an angry person or nothing but I juss don’t think I let it out all the way..anyone have some ideas of what I can do…OMG NOW IF U READ THIS, THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH!! I’m sorry I wrote soo much

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2 weeks before my wedding my husband told me he didn’t want to marry me (had to go through with it cause of the $$ and people involved). I have went through emotional abuse, drinking, physical violence, controlling issues, and sexual issues with this man. There was absolutely nothing right in our relationship. I finally decided I wanted a divorce and I walked out. Had finally gotten enough self esteem that I didn’t need him and that I could make it on my own. I have a good job and can financially support myself. For temporary – I went to my parents house to live and my dad has cirrohsis…and after all he has been through I came home to him and my mom fighting because he was drinking again. I moved out young because of this problem and I ran from it again because I didn’t want to be there so I went back to my husband. I don’t love my husband at all. But he promised that he would start taking meds and change the way he treated me. Things have changed a little but I still have so much hatred built up for him for the things he has done to me. I met a guy on a work trip back a few months ago and we talk every now and then. We both really like each other but he lives pretty far from me. I get butterflies when I think about talkin to him. I fell out of love with my husband so long ago because he never treated me like he cared one bit and now I feel so stupid for sittin around and letting it happen. I want my life back! I am 25 yrs old and a really good person. I just want to be happy. My husband is trying to manipulate me into staying and saying I can fall back into love with him. I have been goin to therapy to try to get all this figured out but personal experience or opinions would be appreciated.

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I have been married for 3 years and together with my Husband for 7 years. I am 26 years old. Everything was going great until a month ago. I felt as though my whole world collapsed. I couldnt decide if i loved my husband anymore. this broke my heart. i kept looking at him and trying to decide. I am off sick from work with depression because of it and i just want things back to normal i keep telling myself.

I decided if i didnt want to be with my husband anymore i was going to end my own life. i am so scared of failing my marriage because i made my vows and told myself i would never stray from my hubby.

i had a turbulant childhood, always moving around and i went to 11 different schools. my dad was never known to me so it was always just my mum and siblings who had different fathers. I explain this as i am trying to put my problems down to my childhood. Perhaps i am just ready to move on as i have never been stable? i knew i loved my husband but i dont know now.

we bought a wonderful house and i learnt to drive and got a new car of my own and got a dog and a good job and eveything i have ever wanted but now i dont want any of it. I hate the way i am feeling. I know i have to stay and try and sort things out with my hubby but i cant even go home, i am staying with my in-laws as it upsets me to go home.
as i have said i wanted to die because of these feelings taking over me but i dont know what to do. He hasnt done anything wrong and is the sweetest guy in the world, i just dont feel that buzz any more and how do you know if you truley love someone?
My mum was married 5 times before she died when i was 16 and she had 7 children. I dont want to be like this and have worked really hard to avoid it but I am now at breaking point.

Please help, I need encouragement to stay and battle through. I dont want to run away again.

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