i was in a short 2 month relationship with a guy when i was 16 and he was 21. he was very emotionally, verbally, and somewhat sexually abusive. though it only lasted for 2 months before i got the guts to break up with him i still have nightmares that he is comeing for me and its been over a year since i have seen or herd from him. i also have not been able to date because evertime the thought comes up i think about my ex.

are there any good self help books on recovering from a relationship like that?

Tags: Abusive Relationship, Good Books, guts, herd, nightmares, relationship, self help books

We went out all through college, a very great but back & forth relationship. We have been broken up for almost 6 yrs. She got out of a 4.5 yr relationship last year & I want to see if its still there. We hang out casually and keep in contact here & there. I have spilled my guts a couple of yrs ago when she was in her relationship…she denied me. She thinks Im great, but she might be judging me on how I was when I was much younger. Do I address the past of when i made her feel crapy? what do i do? I was thinking of telling her im coming on a 2 hr commute each way to see her for an hour. that action might be flattering & show her I would do anything for another shot.

Tags: amp, ex girlfriend, guts, relationship

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So my friend, lets call her Sue, has been my friend for a long time and has started going out with a new guy, let’s call him Jack. Now, Sue introduced me to Jack and I got to be really good friends with him. Early in the relationship, Jack cheated on Sue. Jack kissed another girl, which was big because of Jack and Sue’s lack of much physical contact. But, Jack didn’t ever tell Sue about this and it’s just been realized what has happened these past few days, several months later. I personally think Sue should forgive Jack. This is because I’ve talked to Jack and just know his personality, and I believe he genuinely loves Sue and is very sorry. However, Sue’s family and all of her friends disagree, and I didn’t believe it myself until a few days ago when I talked with Jack about it. I told Sue this and I think she discussed it with her friends and family, and because I was once also against Jack but now am not, I think they are mad at me, which I don’t want.

As I sad before, I talked about this with Sue, and she will NOT be together with someone who cheated on her, even though he has gone as far as apologizing and giving her a ‘sorry’ gift in front of her sister, mom, and lots of friends, which in my opinion, takes a lot of guts. I also think that Sue is mad at me now.

Now I feel like I just can’t win. I told Jack I would try to talk to Sue, and I did, but it didn’t end up the way Jack was hoping, so he’ll be mad at me. I think that Sue and her family, who once deeply trusted me, no longer trust me, and I’m afraid that both parties, who I was once friends with, are not anymore.

I guess I changed my view on Jack, and I’m afraid that people won’t like me because of it. And suggestions on how I can get myself out of the large hole I’ve dug myself into?

Tags: few days, friends and family, good friends, guts, large hole, long time, personality, relationship, sister mom