I love a girl… She is my classmate and a very good friend of mine… I love her from the core of my heart and she is my love at first sight… I told her that I love her and wanted to take the relation b/w us to the next level… But she doesn’t accept my love saying that she likes me but cannot love me beacuse she still can’t forget her first love… even though she has had a breakup with her boyfriend due to lack of communication for past 8 months.. i promise to give her even more happiness to her than she got previously.. Plz Help!!!! How can I win her love??? plz….

Tags: classmate, first love, Girl Love, good friend, happiness, heart, love at first sight, Love Girl, Love Saying, next level, Promise, second time

I have been with this person for ten years and we are still not married. i have a ring but not marriage. He constantly keeps bringing up it’s me who is prolonging it however, I see evidence that he is still enjoying women, the club life, etc. Don’t I have a right to happiness, honesty, loyal, compassion, faithfulness? I recently move out of the house with him and into my own however, he still comes over and calls but I still feel sad because he not fighting to be with me. It seems like he is trying to make me his friend and i can’t give myself to him like that and it may not be for a long time for that matter. i don’t know how to handle this situation at all. i love him, he don’t love me the same anymore.

Tags: broken heart, club life, compassion, happiness, honesty, long time, love, marriage

This is a VERY hard question. Experts only, please.

I have a wife who suffers from depression. She has been on anti-depressants and they worked, but left her feeling neutral while on them, rather than happy and sad.

She is now off the medications (and has been for a couple years). Lately, she has been having depression strike in place of emotions like happiness or love. Instead of feeling the good stuff, she feels that feeling we get when we break up with someone.

My theory is that we could find a substance for her to take when she improperly dips into that pain (the breakup pain), and that alleviates it just like an aspirin alleviates a headache, then it might free her mind to feel happiness again.

Does anyone know of a substance that works fairly quickly that she doesn’t have to stay on, but can take more like an aspirin? Something that alleviates the symptoms, but isn’t an "anti-depressant" like Celexa or something?

Natural substances, illegal substances, medications
A little addition, in response to some of the first answers (and thank you VERY much for these first answers!):

Yes, ideally we would like something that isn’t addictive. That’s a bad problem. Also, won’t being on anti-depressants her whole life kill her? What about the liver damage?

Thanks.

Tags: anti depressant, anti depressants, aspirin, celexa, depression, dips, emotions, Feel Happiness, good stuff, happiness, headache, illegal substances, liver damage, love, medications, natural substances, Symptoms Of Depression, Whole Life

Lately, I just have not felt the same about my husband as I use to. You see, he was my first real boyfriend when I was a senior in high school. I didn’t really date prior to that because all the boys I went to school with thought I was ugly and/or weird. So when I finally got someone who was willing to date me of course I fell head over hills and when he asked me to marry him I said yes probably in part due to the fact that I thought he would be the only chance at happiness I would ever have. Pretty bad to be feeling that way when you’re only 18. Now, seven years later things aren’t the same. My husband is a good person but I have become more and more, well I suppose bored with the marriage. I know I still love him but I feel no passion anymore and I think sometimes I am only staying around because inside I am still that depressed teenager who believes she is too ugly and disgusting to get anyone else. So I stay because I don’t want to be lonely. We have no children so that’s not the reason. What can I do? How can I fall in love with my husband again and save my marriage?

Tags: good person, happiness, Head Issues, love, marriage, passion, seven years, teenager

I went out with my sister-in-law this weekend. She is a smart, talented, hardworking, BEAUTIFUL woman. Her ex husband sucked the life out of her and never appreciated her.

Now she’s dating, and the guys that she goes out with use her up and then want nothing to do with her.

I see this all the time; a phenomenal woman will get with a guy and within a few weeks he is treating her like crap. Once he’s sucked all of the life out of her, he moves on. It seems like once a man has a woman hooked, he starts doing shady crap and when she calls him on it, he treats her like she’s "crazy" and "insecure" and "needy".

It’s to the point that I hate men! A man will try to flirt with me and I’m absolutely DISGUSTED! The thoughts that come into my mind are, "Yeah…you want ME to give YOU my happiness and worth. You want in my pants; you want me to clean your house and cook your dinner, while you go out with your boys. If I complain, then I’m a B****. If I ask for help, I’m a nag. You want me to take care of you in bed and out and I get nothing in return. Yeah, keep flirting, Loser".

I pretty much think how DARE he flirt with me!?! On the other hand, I see women. I see how they’ve been hurt. "Sl*ts" aren’t bad women; they are women that have been hurt by men so many times that they don’t care any more. They get their physical needs met and move on, because you can’t expect anything from a selfish child.

I actually told this to my husband the other day. I told him that I like him and I love him, but I just HATE men. This is genuinely how I feel. Men find a beautiful, vibrant woman, use her up and dump her out with the trash.

I don’t even understand why ANYONE would want to pursue a relationship with a man. I think if my husband turns out to be a run of the mill life-sucker like the majority of other men out there, then I’m turning lesbian.

Behind every B***h is a man that made her that way!
Ok, to be less general: why are GOOD men such a rare find?! There are some out there; I’m actually married to one of them. I kissed a lot lot lot of frogs before I found him though, and I see my girlfriends (married and single) just get used and used and used.

And to the men with the rude responses about my question: You are exactly the losers that I’m talking about! I bet you left some beautiful vibrant woman miserable in your wake. Good job! See if you can ruin a few more lives before God finally rids this planet of you.

Tags: bad women, beautiful woman, crap, Dating, happiness, loser, Many Men, Men Suck, Men Women, phenomenal woman, quot, relationship, selfish child, Sister In Law, sucker, trash, vibrant woman, Women Men