i know what i need to do per his advice (not wear slutty clothes, not be jealous of other women, enjoy sex, all the sh8t)….but what else do i truly need to do to get this guy to fall head over heels in love with me again. weve been married 2 1/2 years, have a 2 year old daughter, weve had a rough past and he doesnt want to work on his end of things, but im trying to work on mine…he doesnt find me attractive, doesnt want to do things with me like spend time with me, he ignores me most of the time unless we need to discuss groceries or something. when he talks its usually a note about a tv show or music and i dont feel like its meant for me, i feel like he is just saying it to say it so sometimes i dont respond.
what as a wife can i say or do, or not do to get through this. i want him madly in love with me again, and im terrified that even if i do the things he asks, he wont be.

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now he’s speechless, over the edge he’s just breathless, he never thought that he’d catch this love bug again…
hopeless, head over heels in the moment, he never thought that he’d get hit by this love bug again

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Two years ago, I dated a guy that I fell head over heels for. The problem was that he didn’t know what he wanted, and he was heavy into drugs. I’m a very serious person by nature, and once I realized that he was flighty – I had to cut him off. But I was heartbroken; he had treated me badly throughout the relationship.

I went to school and met a great guy – smart, ambitious, funny – but I kept comparing him to my ex (because as great as this current guy is, I still love the ex more). I finally managed to put that aside for the boyfriend’s sake, because he is very good to me.

Well, last night I got a phone call, and sure enough it was my ex (we talk pretty often, although I have always made it clear we were just friends). He told me he wanted to get back together and that he still loves me; he said he was working on quitting drugs, and has already stopped the drinking, and is actively going to a therapist. A few other people confirm this story.

He wants me to go on a romantic getaway with him, and to date him again. But I don’t want to hurt my boyfriend because he treats me well, and loves me very much and I can imagine a future with him. At the same time, I can imagine a future with my ex (one involving a lot of love).

Should I go on the trip, or tell him I can’t and cut him off? And who do you think is the best choice – dating someone I love more than anything, or dating someone safe who I have learned to love?

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