I have been with this person for ten years and we are still not married. i have a ring but not marriage. He constantly keeps bringing up it’s me who is prolonging it however, I see evidence that he is still enjoying women, the club life, etc. Don’t I have a right to happiness, honesty, loyal, compassion, faithfulness? I recently move out of the house with him and into my own however, he still comes over and calls but I still feel sad because he not fighting to be with me. It seems like he is trying to make me his friend and i can’t give myself to him like that and it may not be for a long time for that matter. i don’t know how to handle this situation at all. i love him, he don’t love me the same anymore.

Tags: broken heart, club life, compassion, happiness, honesty, long time, love, marriage

I lost my wife after 15 years of marriage do to divorce and it has been devastating. I’ve gone out with different women, but the bar has been set so high in regards to what I’m attracted to. My wife has amazing integrity, honesty and a sense of humor and has a gentleness about her, yet was strong and independent. Sigh..

I’ve battled with depression after losing her and still not sure if Ill be able to carry on without her.

Question: Where can I find someone that meets even half of those attributes?

Tags: attributes, depression, Find Love, gentleness, honesty, Independent, integrity, Love Lost, marriage, sense of humor

Of course I won’t send it to him, but I just wanted to see what you thought of it and if you think telling him this stuff will help get him back (??)

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Dear ex,

I hope all is well. I am writing this letter as part of my healing process, to be able to feel the feeling.

I am mostly angry with myself for having let you run away from me. I am angry that I was so distant and that I did not let you get close, I am angry that I was not myself fully, I am angry that I expected so much from you without giving you anything in return. I am angry that you could not see through me and understand that I was scared to feel and scared to let go, and I am angry you did not try harder. I am angry that you did not like me (though it is my fault). I am angry that I have yet another reason to hate myself. I am angry that I could not give you what you deserved and love you to the fullest. I am sad, baby, because I lost you and there is no way back.

I fear this break up means going back to my old depressive me, the me that hated herself and that did not believe anyone could love her. I fear that really, there will be no one else and that it will just leave one big whole that will mess up the rest of my life, namely my professional life. I fear that I will live out my life being single, never having been kissed. I fear that I will continue my boring old life.

I am always going to love your kindness and honesty, purity, good heart, and above all the fact that you tried liking me for me. I am scared I won’t find a person like you out there. I love the fact that you are so confident while being so humble. I will miss you like hell.

I love you, I just wish you were not my first experience, I wish I knew better. However, unfortunately, there is no time machine, this is why I will just let go and move on. But you know, even if I do move on, I know I will never ever find anyone like you and somewhere in my heart, I will always have a little remorse.
well, i wrote this letter as suggested on this website, if anyone is interested to read more about the healing process (I am just trying it out, don’t know if it will even work ):

http://www.therelationshipgym.com/how_to_get_over_a_break_up.htm

Tags: Fake Letter, first experience, good heart, healing process, Heart Break, hell, honesty, kindness, professional life, purity, remorse, rest of my life, time machine, writing this letter