My wife and I have been married 4 years and she quit her job a year ago because we wanted to start a family and she got pregnant fairly quick. She did all of the housework and laundry in our home untill she got 5 months pregnant and then she just stoped cooking,cleaning, and would only wash my work clothing. I also noticed she started spending a lot of my money on stuff for the baby without telling me, so I took away her bank card and started giving her a 0 allowance which at the time seemed like a smart idea even though she resisted at first she accepted it. By 6 months our house had not improved so I asked my wife what was wrong and she said she was tired and her feet were swollen so I told her I was going to hire a maid twice a month and have it come out of her allowance. I ended up hiring a maid at that left her with only 0 and we both argued for a week about it and then on a friday I got home and my wife had packed her stuff and left. She left me a note telling me how much I hurt her by making what was supposed to be the most amazing time of her life into something she wanted to forget she also reminded me of how she took care of me after my accident and never took my bank card away or put me on an allowance. When I read that it really hit home and I drove to Georgia to bring her back home and she didn’t want to come back with me and then I really knew I messed up big time. My wife and I are still legally married but she said she wants a divorce once our son is born and that she doesn’t want to see me till after she has the baby, so I won’t even get to see my first son be born. I feel awful about how I treated her is ther any way I could try to save our marriage or Am I just hurting her by trying to save it? I already send her flowers daily and call her daily but her mom says she doesn’t want to speak with me. Her mom did tell me she cries a lot and says that she thinks my wife still loves me. What else can I do?

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We all have emotions and love is the strongest passion of them all. Therefore, when love ends, it may seem fatal. But there are certain secrets to how to win back your ex. This article will look at five strategies to pursue when you are trying to get your lover back.

First of all, you need to be honest to yourself and to each other. If there were underlying problems in your relationship, it is essential that you address them. For instance, if housework was a big issue, you need to address it before you can get back together. If you are messy and your ex was a neat freak, it can cause a considerable amount of stress in the relationship. If one person felt they were doing all the housework, it can cause a strain. Finances are another area where there can be strain. To win back lost love, you have to address these areas before you get back together.

Next, you need to be a dependable person. If you have broken up already, you need to be dependable as an ex. You need to be there when he or she needs you, even though you no longer have a “responsibility” to. For instance, if she’s moving, lend a helping hand and your truck. If he needs someone to type his resume, do it for him.

Third, encourage your ex. One of the things people miss when they break up is the encouragement their partner gives them. So, to win back lost love, try to find out where they are discouraged and cheer them up. If they are having a performance review at work, send an email timed to get there right before the meeting. If they are singing a solo at church, show up to give them some moral support.

Fourth, listen to them when they call. Most of the time after a break up, there is some level of communication. Often, this degenerates into fights. But, if you really listen to the things your ex is telling you, you may be able to figure out a way to get back into their life. Encourage them to share their problems with you. Don’t try to solve them. Just let them express their concerns with life. Be a sounding board.

Fifth, don’t sit on the sidelines. Life is meant to be played on the playing field. If you sit on the sidelines, it’s likely that someone else will become the quarterback of their life. Don’t give up on the relationship unless you are ready to move on yourself. Things are not going to get better on their own. You have to go out and make things better.

If you want to win back lost love, you have to take this five part action guide to heart. You have to be proactive.

The most important thing is to really care about your ex and to show him or her that you do care. You shouldn’t be worried if they date other people because they will come back to you if you are the right person for them.

You should know that it is possible to win back lost love. Now go out there and do it!

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Only been married six months. We are both in our forties. I believed in him and his supposed "efforts" of bettering himself when we married, but, the rose-colored glasses are off now and I see that he has no ambition. However, he does most of the housework.

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my husband and i have been to 3 different counselors, we’ve tried alot, we don’t agree on anything from housework to free time, we don’t fight effectively but we fight everyday, sometimes i hate him, i don’t know what else to do. i love him but it’s like we never should have ended up together so what do i do?
let me add we’re having a baby

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