My girlfriend broke up with me on Monday, she gave me no real concrete reason. She said that we were fighting a lot, and she was really stressed.
Background: She has a baby, we just started back to college, she wants to get a job, and move out of her mother’s house. There’s another guy, but she told her mom she doesn’t like him "like that," which may be a lie. I love her and the baby more than life itself (although the child is not mine).
She asked me for space and time, but she won’t let me give her any; she says she still enjoys talking to me. I want her back, and I want to be around her, but I don’t want to be her doormat, and I just want her back in my life.
I promised her that if she would take me back, things would be different. She was my first girlfriend, and, also the one that took my virginity. I waited almost three years to date her, and then it seems as if once she gets stressed she just dumped me. I’ve been a mess all week, throwing up blood (from my ulcer that I’ve developed) and I’ve had an upset stomach. I’m basically suffering from classic "broken heart syndrome," which is just a lot of bad feelings and stuff.
How can I get her back without smothering her, and without getting myself hurt again in the process? Or actually, any advice whatsoever would be greatly appreciated.
Also, Her mom and I still talk, because her mom really likes me and wants her to come and date me again. But her mom is using me to keep tabs on her, and I’m using her mom to keep tabs on her. Through the last few days, she’s been having it kinda rough (or so I’ve heard), and I don’t know when a good time to ask her to date me again would be. She still has my shirt (she gave the rest of them back), and I found a shirt she left at my house once. But overall it’s like I want to date her again so badly, and I want things to change, that I’m willing to do whatever it takes to get it better. All I really want is to stop the pain in my heart, and I want her to love me again, regardless of whether or not it will "last," I just want a real second chance with her.
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