We have been married for 20 years next month. I am a stay at home mom with a 13 and 17 year old kids. I feel unappreciated for everything I do (everything except the yard work) but that’s just part of the problem. Although my hubby says he loves me, he really doesn’t show it. We have this pattern of things going fine for awhile, I get frustrated, blow up and tell him what’s wrong, he changes for a while but in about 3 weeks, he’s back to his old ways again. He’s trying and even my daughter told me he’s trying, mom, he really is, but I don’t know how many more times I can keep this up. The difference this time is that I’m not "running back to him" like I usually do. I hate conflict and it kills me inside to have this going on. I’m very frustrated and angry and have quite honestly thought about the greener grass, but realize it has it’s problems too… I’m feeling stuck… Any words of wisdom out there?

PS… He has a lousy relationship with his mom and I think he really doesn’t know how to relate to women. I asked about all of his previous relationships and he said they all broke up because "the new wore off". I asked him what was different about me….hoping for some awesome statement… He said, basically it was because I stuck around…
To give a bit more detail… I have been working off and on part time throughout the years. My husband likes to be the sole breadwinner and rather discouraged me working, especially full time, so I could stay at home with the kids. After the summer I do plan on finding a job since our oldest is graduating. We got married when I was 19 and really had no idea about love or marriage.
I’d also like to add that there have been several years of verbal abuse to not only myself or my children. He believes marital counselling is a "last resort" and isn’t interested in going. I have given everything to my husband and my family…I just want to be loved in return…that’s all…
Oh and for those of you who think there’s another man…there’s not!

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Hubby works a lot & then he goes to a garage to work on cars almost every nite. I have tlkd to him about this b4 and he blames me for everything. Tells me the kids dont like him b/c of me, we are broke b/c of me, our marriage sux b/c of me, I feel that sometimes I am at the point to where there is nothing he can do to make it btr, but I dont want to give up on us either. He use to be so attentive to me and kids and now there is nothing. We went thru some bad times last sumr, he wldnt come home until 4-5 in the a.m. or not at all, and of course nothing wld be going on with him, now he tells me to get over it and I am having a hard time with that. I am scared to be myself around him for some reason. I have always been loyal to him, sure I have done dumb things I am not perfect, but living everyday knowing that someone blames you for everything and I mean everything breaks u down and its hard to deal with. I dont want a divorce but what can I do? I am just scared & hurt. Advice??

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i met my hubby when i was 16, im now nearly 21, we got married when i was 18 and had a lovely little boy. but now i just feel he does not notice me anymore. when i went and got my hair done he didnt say anything then when i asked him if he liked it he said he did notice, he just forgot to say anything! i want the man back i fell in love with, please please help!!! ty x

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I have been married for 3 years and together with my Husband for 7 years. I am 26 years old. Everything was going great until a month ago. I felt as though my whole world collapsed. I couldnt decide if i loved my husband anymore. this broke my heart. i kept looking at him and trying to decide. I am off sick from work with depression because of it and i just want things back to normal i keep telling myself.

I decided if i didnt want to be with my husband anymore i was going to end my own life. i am so scared of failing my marriage because i made my vows and told myself i would never stray from my hubby.

i had a turbulant childhood, always moving around and i went to 11 different schools. my dad was never known to me so it was always just my mum and siblings who had different fathers. I explain this as i am trying to put my problems down to my childhood. Perhaps i am just ready to move on as i have never been stable? i knew i loved my husband but i dont know now.

we bought a wonderful house and i learnt to drive and got a new car of my own and got a dog and a good job and eveything i have ever wanted but now i dont want any of it. I hate the way i am feeling. I know i have to stay and try and sort things out with my hubby but i cant even go home, i am staying with my in-laws as it upsets me to go home.
as i have said i wanted to die because of these feelings taking over me but i dont know what to do. He hasnt done anything wrong and is the sweetest guy in the world, i just dont feel that buzz any more and how do you know if you truley love someone?
My mum was married 5 times before she died when i was 16 and she had 7 children. I dont want to be like this and have worked really hard to avoid it but I am now at breaking point.

Please help, I need encouragement to stay and battle through. I dont want to run away again.

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ok so i was seeing a married man we were sleeping with each other for near enough a year and a half
it ended over a year ago now last time i saw him was over a yaer ago however
iv recently message him via the facebook website
just to ask how things were going and if he was ok
was just a polite message b ut the next day to messageing him id been out with friends and got very DRUNK…
therefore i messaged him once again telling him i missed not seeing him
i later got a message saying sorry do i no you inplieing hed had no other messages i know its his wife messageing me back he wouldt put such a thing so now his wife knows of his little secret but shes is not away that we were seeing each other for over a year

theres probably hell on within thier house hold at the moment
i really shouldnt of messaged him should i
i wish id of let well alone i was wrong of me i know!!
but do u thing they will work through it could you try save your marriage after finding out his been haveing an affair??
or will this be the end……
i think they have been married over ten years now
so i really dont no what the future holds for them both now?

could you forgive??

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