i have two problems first off my boyfriend and I been dating 2 months today and i just dont have the same feelings for him has i did but i dont wanna leave him but i think i like his brother a lot becuz we are good friends and when my boyfriend said to me and his bro we couldnt talk anymore its kinda hard but when i call him his brother is always is like hi nikkki!!! or they fight over me but idk what to do about that . problem #2 – i spoke to my EX last night for 5 hours and im starting to fall in love with him again and we both miss each other he was my 1st true love and i was too him too but idk who to choose or what to do ???

ps, sorry this was long i just need soomme bigg ADVICE thank u guys soo much<3

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Hi everyone! I broke up with my now-ex boyfriend within the past few days, and although I am recovering from the break up very well, I still wonder what may have gone wrong, and how can I be friends with him or ultimately get back together. Or should we get back together, and would it work?

First off, he broke up with his previous girlfriend a few days before he asked me out. He had not seen her in several weeks, so he already deemed that relationship over. But, and I wonder if this is a factor, he was never officially single after that, so I wonder if that affected his choices later. The first month we dated were blissful, and even though we were very different, we got along great, and both of us saw a long relationship in front of us. We were together constantly. Marriage was out of the question, as we both knew we are too young for it.
About a month into the relationsip however, he started to worry that we would not last long. He felt as if he was lying to me because he decided that he didn’t see a future for us. He was as nice as he could be, and felt bad for letting me down. I did my best to remind him that even though we had our differences, we still got along great, and could make it work. But after about a month, during which we still dated as before, he told me that he didn’t believe he could love me, that the ‘spark’ wasn’t there anymore, and we should take a break to think about it. I did not agree, as breaks were codeword for (im going to dump you later) and I ended it, even though it broke my heart. He really wanted to remain friends though, which I agreed to. After our first class together after the breakup, he seemed sad that I couldn’t stick around like we had before we started dating. I am recovering, and he is too, but here is what i sill wonder:

When can I talk to him again without risking a future relationship? How should I go about it? If we decide to give it another shot, what can we do differently to hopefully keep the ‘spark’ going? If he (or I, or both) decide that a relationship cannot happen, can we be friends? How?

Thank you so much for any help you can give. Please be honest though. I find that people ( such as myself ) are much more likely to listen to a neutral party that can give a fair answer without being biased Thanks again!

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I’v posted a few questions about my husband and I being unable to carry a pregnancy (3 miscarriages, 1 stillbirth in 2 years) and my DR wants me to give up because it is playing havoc on my hormones in my body and she’s concerned about my mental health. I want to give up too. Adoption is still an option and we are signed up for it and on the waiting list. We still do need to raise a few thousand dollars before we can go onto the next step though, but I’m going to be 40 soon and thinking of shutting this whole thing down. Many people are saying that in order to save my marriage I should do ANYTHING to get a child, whether its surrogacy, in vitro, (woudlnt work, I can’t carry a pregnancy) or asking a family member to have one for me. I’m not sure how correct this is…if my marriage is going to fail if we don’t have children, then is it really fair to put the whole success of the marriage on to a poor innocent child? What do you think?

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Wouldn’t I be better off "surviving" a divorce and then finding someone who cared enough not to cheat? Do people who survive every really trust the partner again? I’d love to hear your stories. How long did you work on things before calling it quits after the affair? Or, are you truly happy if you worked through it?

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I really miss him and I being together, any ideas on how to win him back or at least get back to being close again?

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