My wife and I are divorcing, the divorce is my decision,not hers. I am seeing another woman, just to do fun things with her and not for a long-term relationship. I can’t even feel right to kiss this new woman yet although she is looking for intimacy. My wife told me that she loved me and don’t understand why I deny her love, while I have been feeling ignored. Last year I told her I loved her more than before, and 3 months ago I told her that my heart was not in it for a long time. I am confused about my feeling, and not sure if I still love her. I feel that I have been closed up myself because I have been ignored. Recently, my wife asked me to if I could give her a chance to show her love for me the right way. She asked for my forgiveness if she had done things in the past that made me feel ignored because her focus was somewhere else (and NO, she never cheated on me, and she is a good and loving person). She told me that people made mistakes and why should she be punished when she has learned from her mistakes. She asked for my generosity to give us a chance to save our marriage. She told me that her heart is filled of love for me and impossible to accept love from another man to rebuild her life. We have a beautiful 14 year old daughter, and the divorcing process has hit her hard. My wife told me that she will give it all to make it work and asked for my part. She told me it is not too late and better late than never, and it doesn’t hurt to try. She said that we can’t reclaim our past but we could pick up pieces or start from a clean slate. If it’s doesn’t work than we can walk away for good without regretting that we didn’t try hard for our marriage and especially for our daughter, since she is in the age where she need both of us the most in her life. She told me she doesn’t even want my money, as long as the 3 of us are together. Should I give my marriage another chance , since I already feel happy going out with this new woman for about a month. Should I walk away from this new woman or walk away from our marriage of 18 years? How do we restart for the marriage saving process? Is it possible? Please help.
Tags: clean slate, divorce, forgiveness, fun things, generosity, heart, Heart Love, intimacy, kiss, long term relationship, long time, love, loving person, marriage, money, new woman
I’ve been dating someone for 4 months, everything has been smooth, easy and wonderful. A lot in common. Same morals, blah.. blah.. blah. He’s recently divorced (I know, my 1st mistake) and has a child with her. This is the 2nd time she had left him, filed for divorce this time. Told him that she felt no compassion for him on their honeymoon that he went through a lot to plan out and make special. No intimacy between the 2 before she left the 1st time and certainly not the 2nd. She now tells him she wants another chance, he has since told me that he isn’t considering her, that I’m everything he’s ever wanted and have made him happier than he’s ever been, I’ve done nothing wrong and I’m a wonderful person, BUT… he needs some space. He feels lost and empty. Doesn’t know if he can love again. Wants time alone to work on himself, get his head back on straight. Hasn’t called me since. Is he contemplating her? Or did he get scared? Will he be back or do I need to move on?
Tags: 4 months, blah, blah blah, compassion, divorce, Ex Wife, hasn, honeymoon, intimacy, Lost, love, mistake, morals, wonderful person
married 13 years 4 children stay at home wife I always worked alot. Wife fell out of love and divorced me and we are back together but only as roommates no love or physical contact I am dying and getting tired or trying nothing seems to work or help I am constantly in trouble or pushed away for something or another living on eggshells and breaking them all the time
Tags: 13 years, affection, home wife, intimacy, Lost Love, love, roommates
OK. So let’s say you’re in a relationship, but it’s a sexless relationship. You aren’t cheating or getting it elsewhere, but there’s absolutely no real intimacy in the relationship. No real kissing. No sex. No touching sexually. Nothing.
Is is possible for this lack of sex, when you really want it and crave it (though perhaps not from your unwilling partner), cause you to become insane?
Not just "OH I BE CRAZZZY WITOUT SEX", but I mean legitimately, honestly mentally damaged. Can lack of intimacy cause mental illness?
Nobody seems to have a straight answer for this one.
Tags: Crazy Sex, intimacy, Kissing, lack of sex, mental illness, Partner, Real Sex, sexless relationship, straight answer
OK this is quite long and complicated! This guy that I work with (now for 3 years), we have always been friends, and done friend things. Back in March I started having a bit of a crush on him. He is 19 years older than me. We kissed for the first time in June, and slowly we have entered a dating relationship (he tells people that we are dating, including our boss). He has only dated 2 other women in his lifetime, the rest have been men (yes he is bisexual). We usually hang out on saturdays and tuesdays outside of work. This last saturday I did the dumb girl thing and told him I really liked him. He kinda laughed, and then said that he liked me too, a lot (although in his voice it sounded like he was nervous saying it). The next day we went to breakfast. He brought me 3 roses into the restaurant, he then wanted to show me the house he was buying, then took me to Lowes to help him pick out paint colors. I am really confused about all of this. He seems hot then cold. The intimacy thing is strange.we have tried to be intimate a few times, but he has a difficult time keeping himself ‘up’ (if you get my drift). This makes me think he is not very sexually attracted to women. He compliments me all the time, says I am beautiful, funny, intellegent, and on and on. But I think he is afraid of anything and everything (he says he has never loved anyone before or been in a serious relationship). He is not a player at all (really he is not). He has a bit of low self esteem about himself, but I care about him and accept him just the way he is. I have no clue if I should just take this with a grain of salt, and just try and not let more of my feelings get in the way, or I don’t know! My friends think I’m turning his straight LOL. They also think he likes me quite a bit. He is very much a loner, but I need perspective on what to do! Should I date other people as well? Give him space? Blow him off a few times? I really value him and his friendship, so I don’t want to scare him away. I know if I asked him about it, he would say he is just taking it day to day. But I don’t want to get too deeply involved if it really has no where to go. HELP!
Tags: 19 years, 3 years, Clue, compliments, drift, dumb girl, feelings, girl thing, grain of salt, intellegent, intimacy, last saturday, lifetime, lol, loner, low self esteem, paint colors, roses, saturdays, serious relationship
