I dated a girl for 11 years. We never married because she didn’t believe in marriage. I truly loved her completely and never doubted her love for me. I did everything for her, above and beyond most men. When I moved to take a job in a city she wanted to be in, she decided not to follow me and left me.

Shortly after our split, which was cordial although painful, she started dating and sleeping with my best friend. I am twice the man he ever will be and it just destroys my pride she would do this. Then she begged for me back and I took her back. Then she left me again and started dating my friend again.

It’s been over a year and I still can’t help but I still feel hurt and angry. And, I still have love for her. I can’t seem to move on to love any other woman, despite dating around. Should I continue dating? Will I ever get over her? Will I ever love again?

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my ex boyfriend and i broke up a little while ago but the next day even, he acted as if he was already over it and over me…we were together for two years and keep in mind he has ADD ADHD is and is on antidepressants (some people think that he may be bipolar)…upon talking to him a few months ago..i told him he really changed..and my tone of voice made it obvious that i didnt mean it in a good way..only he was like "oh i know ive changed for the better" and went on talking about how wonderful he is..although, ive heard within the past month that he got a speeding ticket for going 130 and might lose his liscence..he got a dui, he drinks every day and night, and he is into cocaine..of course i want nothing to do w/ him and id never be with him again, but i dont understand why for the past 5 months(how long weve been broken up) he acts as if he has some wonderful life and that he is always happy and over me..even tho his life has gone down the toilet..whats his deal?
Id just like to add i havn’t talked to him for months yet, the other day (2 days before i leave for college) he randomly IMed me the second i got on trying to squeeze out every detail of what i have been up to and who ive been dating..then he goes on to say "hes getting some wonderful job that pays so much money" even tho he just got fired from his job…the kid is obviously a screw up but he knew i was leaving for college so did he purposely IM me right before i left just to get one last "bang" in of how wonderful he is.. i dont understand..? please everyone give me as much information as possible, thanks!

Tags: 5 months, Add Adhd, adhd, antidepressants, Bipolar, cocaine, deal id, dui, hes, job, liscence, much money, Narcissists, relationship, Screw, speeding ticket, tho, toilet, tone of voice, wonderful life

me and my long term boyfriend broke up today… we lived together in cali and he moved today to chicago to go get his life together.. i took him to the airport this morning and we said our goodbye’s. we were both crying and he didnt want to leave, but we both know he has no choice. he says he still wants a future with me and so do i with him. he said he will be back, but didnt say when. he wants to get a job out there and save some money and come back to me. i love him so much and this pain is unbearable. i feel like i cant breathe, like ive lost my best friend, like he’s died, like i will never see him again. i cant stop thinking about it. we have been together 24/7 for a long time and now he’s completely gone.. i dont even know what to do with myself. im so hurt. we are going to keep in contact, but it will be very little. please any advice to help me feel better. im desperate. and please nothing negative. thanks

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I have seen it a few times. One spouse (typically the man) gets a debilitating illness, or is involved in an accident, that claims his/her life. The surviving spouse stands by the dying spouses side, while keeping a job, taking care of the kids, all the while getting all the credit in the world for having such strength and dignity. When the death finally comes, the surviving spouse gets elevated to almost Saintly status.

That doesn’t seem to be the same scenario as divorce, where you have 2 equally healthy adults, 2 different parenting styles, and 2 equal contributors to the household.

What are your thoughts?

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Sorry if this is too long. So I was dating my past boyfriend for about six months, but recently I broke up with him because a whole bag of ****. He was always working and we never had any time to even see each other, and he wasn’t even willing to give me any time, and when we did have a scheduled time to be together, he always stood me up and had some excuse for why he couldn’t make it. I was wanting to move in with him but I didn’t have a job yet, but now I do after I broke up with him.

And here’s the problem. Now that I ditched him, he will not let go of me. He is always calling, always leaving me messages, and talking about how we need to get back together. I told him I am done with him, and that I want to move on, and that he needs to also. But he tells me he will always be waiting for me, and that he will never give up hope for us. I want to be nice, as I have tried to be during this entire situation, but I can’t get the point across that I don’t want us to be together ever again that he has lost me. Now don’t give me **** about it not being his fault, because he showed almost no interest in us while we were dating, and now he is all over me like white on rice.

Also when we first started dating everything was going well, and we always were together and he always had time for us. Now he is always busy with something else, and I always say that if you are too busy to find time at least once a week to be together for a little while, then you are too busy for a relationship.

I’m mentally exhausted from him, and I was wondering if anyone has gone through this same thing, and what did you do to let them know that they just need to leave you alone and move on? I have tried everything almost, except from telling him **** you and go jump off a bridge. I also feel that if I find someone else, that he might be scared away from my ex calling and leaving messages all the time. UGH
Horace, go suck a god damned bag of dicks.

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