Without saying move on, find someone else, go to gym! I can’t even breath or make myself get out of the bed. I can’t function like a normal person…Please any advice…
It is not at first! It’s been 5 months now and sometimes its getting better, sometimes I can’t do anything. I’ve lost 40lbs and now I am finally back to my friends and family. I changed 4 jobs in last 6 weeks, and I am just such a mess…

Tags: 5 months, Break, divorce, friends and family, jobs

I ask because he has made NO further attempts to contact her; I gather she is on holiday (at home, and he is working) but as far as I know, he has NOT contacted her. Assume this is the truth.

So – was their meeting last week just coincidence?

History is:

In Feb this year I caught my husband cheating with a woman for a whole year and apparently he was on the verge of leaving me for her but we worked through it. He swore that was it with her. Although he said he had loved her. She sent me all his messages and texts and IMs and in these, he expressed his love for her, said he didn’t want to be with me, I was sexless and cold, but SHE was vibrant, sexy and made him feel loved and able to love again.

After I found out, he cut her off and was horrible to her. He also denied he "meant" what he said in the years’ worth of those messages. BUT –

He went back to her many many times over 6 months, after he promised me that he would cut her out of his life for good – most recently in August when he went to her work, asked the guard to call her down, she got into his van to hear him out ..

The next thing you know, my husband is arrested for ‘sexual assault’ in September. He was finally released without charge 2 weeks ago, and that was that, but they have been warned to stay away from each other.

PRESENT DAY:

As some of you know, lately (last 2 weeks) he has watched her from his work van as she walks from her office to the station; he DOES genuinely have jobs in that street but he HAS watched her as opposed to hiding behind a newspaper as he sits in his van/looking away, etc.

This has happened 3 times in 3 weeks, and each time, he has stared, and she has walked on, not stopping.

THIS TIME, SHE STOPPED AND THEY TALKED.

I can’t believe it. If the sexual assault arrest has not made him hate her WHAT THE F*CK WILL???

This is what they talked about, which I know because his partner driver "felt I should know" – he was not there but was nearby -

Admitted to her that he HAD indeed been waiting for her to approach him all those times he was parked near her work, and asked why she had been "running past" him!
Apparently he "forgave" her for having him arrested.
He wished her a happy belated birthday.
He asked how her new house was going.
Oh this is good; he asked why he "could not find her" on Facebook.
He asked her ‘can I trust you now?’ (!!)
He said ‘will you let me wave at you if I drive past you?’
She told him another guy had got obsessed with her lately and he said "See I told you you were dangerous" – what does that mean?

Please can someone decipher the things he said to her,AND tell me why would he give her the time of day?

This was last Monday but even on Tuesday, apparently he passed her in his truck and beeped & waved at her!

I am concerned as to what he plans next.

Tags: attempts, Caught Cheating, ck, coincidence, Contact, Husband Cheating, ims, jobs, love, Mistress, present day, quot, sexual assault, texts, truth, verge

K well like many out there i got stupid a year ago & had to take a Payday loan out to Survive, Well now im paying for it big time. Now i got several payday loans…& i cant keep this up.
I learned my lesson But now i need to find a way to free myself.

Im reacently Married & this has become a burden on both of us, If you read some of my Other questions you can see my Marriage is breaking apart, & the biggest cause are the fact we have few reasorces because of these Payday loans.
Now I have already tooken many Steps:

#1 I have already Closed my Old bank account to keep then from Withdrawing fees.

#2 i have changed my cellphone number to stop them from duing the annoying calls BUT i still try to keep in touch to update.

#3 I have TRIED to takeout a Loan with my Bank to pay these off but BOTH my wifes AND my Credit are Crap.

#4 i have repetedly Called them trying to set up a payment plan With them but there Refusing to work with me or AT LEAST work with my budget.
#5 i have basiclly completely Defualted on at LEAST 3 of them. so i can TRY to pay the others but our Budget STILL wont let me pay MORE then the fee’s & charges.

#6 we have set a budget & sold EVERYTHING we can afford to sell or can sell<including painfully enough pawning our Wedding rings.>

#7 We BOTH have tried looking for a 2nd job but neather of us can find one. to make things worse our current jobs have DRASTICLY cut our pay AND hours back.

#8 we both live in Texas, & i have TRIED to Reaserch texas laws but i dont understand all of it.

#9 I WAS thinking of Bankruptcy, Because we do NOT own a car or a house We rent from her In-laws, We have NO kids, Were both young in are 20′s, Her Parents WILL NOT help us & I my Family gone…
If i do file Bankruptcy i want to do it in a way that will NOT involve my wife in any way!….If i can. Mostly i dont know how to nor do i have the money to File Bankruptcy.

can ANYONE help us consolidate? or know a way we can conslidate these loans?….Im so lost & WE NEED help….I knwo what i did was stupid in the past, I have learned my lesoon about payday loans, Now i Just want to escape & get a chance. PLEASE HELP..any Adivce wil lbe helpful.
Please i dont need ANYMORE payday loans, I need help Do not Answer this if your solution is another payday loan!! or a loan that i cant get. Again i have crap Credit

Tags: amp, bankruptcy, big time, budget, cellphone number, crap, job, jobs, lt, marriage, money, neather, Old Bank, own a car, parents, payday loan, payday loans, texas amp, Tooken, wedding rings, wifes

My ex girlfriend and I were together for 3 years and broke up cause she cheated…Then for a whole year, up until now, we were on and off getting back together then breaking up, with her telling me that she can never let me go, and that she still loves me…

Through the whole back and forth period, we still have sex occasionally because we’re strongly attracted to each other…She says that there’s no other guy in her life and that she wants to get back together, but right now she lives about 20 to 30 minutes away and we’re both out of jobs and unemployed trying to find work, so she says once we get organized we can live together…

But I asked her if she wants to be my girlfriend right now, and she said she does but she wants to wait till she moves closer cause she won’t get to see me as much living way over there…Is that just an excuse to not be with me? Is she just saying that she wants to be with me cause she only attached? Or does she really love me and will get back with me??? We still have sex cause we plan on getting back together…Is this a wrong choice? Should I stop having sex with her so she won’t use me?

Tags: 3 years, 30 minutes, Bad Move, Bad Sex, ex girlfriend, excuse, having sex, jobs, Move Sex, Sex 101, wrong choice

I was in a relationship for 3 years and 90% of the time was not a pleasant experience. He was abusive (physically and emotionally) and hurt me emotionally in almost all the ways possible. I finally woke up 6 months ago and I decided enough was enough and I ended the relationship. He has not come to terms with our breakup and he calls me constantly for whatever excuse to talk to me. He will show up at my door, he was leaving lots of notes and roses and now occasionally will leave a note. He is extremely jealous/possessive and I can’t even be interested or date anyone because of this. I still love him and care about him, but I will never be in a relationship with him ever again. He said that he ruined the relationship with his behavior but I stopped his trying to re-establish a relationship. Basically I gave up in his eyes. I didn’t try my best according to him. I was always there for him, day and night. He owes me a large sum of money and I sacrificed many things (including one year of school) so I could make him happy. I worked two jobs to support him and his family in their times of need. I am now focusing on myself, school and family and friends. I’m only 21 and this is the only serious relationship I’ve been in and it was quite traumatic. Now for some reason he has switched it to where I am the selfish one who doesn’t have the time or desire to see him, when all through the relationship I had to practically beg him for his attention and time and love, which I didn’t receive. He tells me that he loves me and tells me all the things I wanted to hear 3 years ago. He hasn’t gotten mad in the past 6 months and has been respectful (except for trying to make passes/moves on me) and pleasant…but I still don’t trust him and apparently that’s MY issue. I don’t know what to do. I know that I won’t ever date him again and I’ve told him that. He is very needy and I think he doesn’t want to let me go because I am the only person that has ever helped him with anything he has needed. I think he relies on me too much and now that I am not with him, he doesn’t know how to handle it on his own. I wish we could just be friends, but with my resentment and his unwillingness to move on I don’t think that’s possible. I would hate to get a restraining order b/c he is my first love and that would be hard. Am I being a cold, hard person because I can’t just forget the past and move on with him. He said if I truly had loved him, I would be able to be with him like he is able to be with me. I need some input from other people because I am so confused if what I feel is okay.

I was so scared to speak my mind in the relationship that I buried my feelings. I find that now when I see him and he is calm, I will let my feelings out and I get so livid. I don’t know why I didn’t get mad until after we broke up. Is it wrong of me to be mad at him? I need help to move on and be happy. I want him to be happy too, and it kills me because I can’t give him what he wants, but I figure he asked for it with his inappropriate behavior.

Sorry so long…thanks for taking the time to read my story and offer advice. God bless! <3

Tags: 3 years, desire, excuse, family and friends, jobs, many things, relationship, roses, selfish one, serious relationship, sum of money, T Amp