I have a restraining order against my ex, he’s quite psycho. He has threatened to burn down my house, run me over, he’s slashed my tires, keyed my car, tried to break into my house, ran around my house knocking on all the doors and windows at 3am and so many other things I can’t even begin to list. The police department advised me to get a restraining order and I did, it’s good til 2012 but every time I’ve tried to use it they come up with some excuse to let him go. The most recent incident was last saturday, he came to my house and attempted to kidnap my son injuring him in the process hurting his ribs. Cops came, verified the restraining order but ended up letting him go…something is not quite right here.
Tags: 3am, Break, cops, doors and windows, Doors Windows, excuse, last saturday, police department, psycho, restraining order, ribs, tires
OK this is quite long and complicated! This guy that I work with (now for 3 years), we have always been friends, and done friend things. Back in March I started having a bit of a crush on him. He is 19 years older than me. We kissed for the first time in June, and slowly we have entered a dating relationship (he tells people that we are dating, including our boss). He has only dated 2 other women in his lifetime, the rest have been men (yes he is bisexual). We usually hang out on saturdays and tuesdays outside of work. This last saturday I did the dumb girl thing and told him I really liked him. He kinda laughed, and then said that he liked me too, a lot (although in his voice it sounded like he was nervous saying it). The next day we went to breakfast. He brought me 3 roses into the restaurant, he then wanted to show me the house he was buying, then took me to Lowes to help him pick out paint colors. I am really confused about all of this. He seems hot then cold. The intimacy thing is strange.we have tried to be intimate a few times, but he has a difficult time keeping himself ‘up’ (if you get my drift). This makes me think he is not very sexually attracted to women. He compliments me all the time, says I am beautiful, funny, intellegent, and on and on. But I think he is afraid of anything and everything (he says he has never loved anyone before or been in a serious relationship). He is not a player at all (really he is not). He has a bit of low self esteem about himself, but I care about him and accept him just the way he is. I have no clue if I should just take this with a grain of salt, and just try and not let more of my feelings get in the way, or I don’t know! My friends think I’m turning his straight LOL. They also think he likes me quite a bit. He is very much a loner, but I need perspective on what to do! Should I date other people as well? Give him space? Blow him off a few times? I really value him and his friendship, so I don’t want to scare him away. I know if I asked him about it, he would say he is just taking it day to day. But I don’t want to get too deeply involved if it really has no where to go. HELP!
Tags: 19 years, 3 years, Clue, compliments, drift, dumb girl, feelings, girl thing, grain of salt, intellegent, intimacy, last saturday, lifetime, lol, loner, low self esteem, paint colors, roses, saturdays, serious relationship
