Well I love my wife and I know that inside her she loves me but there all kinds of things against me, for example my little brother who sat there and seen all of the things happening is now pursuing her with no regard to me and she thinks that it would make her happy, she has a best friend giving her nothing but negative advice, and family doing the same as well, I love her and have since the moment I saw her, we have an 18mth old little girl and all I want to do is save my marriage, she knows that by talking to me she would come back so she got a restraining order and filed for divorce, all of which I believe were outside influences, I need help I can’t live without her.

Tags: best friend, divorce, little brother, little girl, love, marriage, Odds, regard, restraining order

I have been dating this guy for 6 years now. We have a 2 year old daughter together. I decided that I wanted to leave the relationship when I was about 7 months pregnant because I was really unhappy. At that time he was finishing grad school 2 hours away from the home that we shared, so even though we "weren’t together" I continued to live in the home that we had together. When he finished school. I was in my Junior year of Undergrad and decided that it was not financially possible to leave while finishing school with my little girl. So in order to stay on track with school we now lived in the same house but in separate rooms. We called ourselves dating other people and like most girls while he was actually out dating other women I simply lied about seeing other men for about a year so I didn’t seem like I could’ t move on. I was so hurt that the mother of his child could be less than 20 feet away from him and he could actually carry on a romantic conversation in the next room. He had been completely unthoughtful of my feeling and what he had at home. So one day I started to see this really great guy. He treated me like a princess and understood my position on things in my life. He never pushed me to do anything that I wasn’t ready to do including meet my daughter! This guy took a job 5 hours away because I wasn’t ready to fully commit to him though. After my little girls dad realized that I had really moved on and might really like someone, he decided that I was the one that he wanted in his life. I can most definitely see his efforts in trying to turn things around. He still doesn’t cater to the romance that I need from him, but he does make an extra effort to give me all the simple things that I used to ask of him. We have been trying to make it work for about 3 months now and I am really having a hard time trusting him. I am constantly having to tell myself that it is okay to let my guard down but the simple thought of going through what I have been through with him again makes me want to cry. A simple hug from him almost makes me cringe. I am so emotionally disconnected from him. However a small part of me says if he is sincerely trying I should give him the benefit of the doubt. Could I ever fall in love with him again?

Tags: 6 years, 7 months, dad, Fall In Love, Finished School, finishing school, girls, grad school, hard time, job, little girl, little girls, Live 105, princess, relationship, romance, separate rooms, simple thought, undergrad

I have been married going on 2 years now. We have a little girl who’s a year old. He’s a firefighter so he’s gone a lot, he has been telling me for the last two days (he’s at work) that this isn’t going to work because he can’t trust me. That he’s afraid I will do something again and that will mess his life up, so he doesn’t want to chance it. When we were first married I made a lot of mistakes. I was never unfaithful so that’s not it, but I did lie about what I was doing. He was controlling and I wanted my life to stay the same, So I would lie about everything.. Hanging out with friends, going to my Parents, shopping ect. I got caught and we separated for awhile but, he said we’ll work it out as long as I work on change. And I have, I’m so proud of myself because I have cut the wrong people out and that I am actually doing what I need to do. We seemed to be doing good the last few months. Then all of the sudden.. BOOM! He texts me and tells me he can’t trust me and won’t chance it. I love him very much and our marriage means the world to me along with our family. I want this to work and marriage is hard and I understand that. What should I do? How do I show he can trust me?
I don’t want to divorce, but it seems he wants to. He comes home tomorrow am and I’m just dreading it.

Tags: boom, firefighter, home tomorrow, little girl, marriage, parents, texts

I dated my girlfriend for 14 months. We went through ALOT together. To get started, we began our relationship on January 18th, 2008. In march of that year, i came very close to losing my life in a ski accident. I ended up with 7 broken bones and was out of school for about 3 months. The night that the accident happened, i told her i loved her while half conscious, ha. From that point on we were perfect together. She helped me all the way through my recovery. She ended up breaking her leg that same summer and i helped her with that too. We were completely in love. And yes, you may be thinking that this is the young, lust type of thing that people mistake for love. Im not the guy that said i love you after 2 weeks of dating. It took something serious, and life altering for me to fall head over heals for this girl. We kept getting closer and closer together, even throughout our periods of fighting. But overall, we knew that we could never let eachother go. I talked to my little girl from the first thing in the morning, to the time i fell asleep. My life revolved around her. It was perfect. I had everything i could ever want. Our anniversary, and valentines day of 09 were days i will never forget. In march 09, she ended our relationship. There was no one real reason. I broke down. I couldnt function. I lost everything. And over the next 4 months, i was so screwed up in the head. I always thought about her, i tried talking to her, begging her to come back, confessing my love to her again and again. Until one day her parents put a stop to it. No more contact. I was on anti depressants, started drinking a little, didnt want to have a social life. Our group of friends was pretty close. There were guys and girls and we did everything together. After the breakup, everyone didnt seem to hang out together anymore, it all ended. I finally got back under control of myself about 2 months ago. I didnt break down as much but i still loved her more than anything in the world. Even seeing her talk to other guys as a friend made me sad. Im around her everyday in school now. The no-contact period is pretty much over. She’ll talk to me now and then, smile, say hi, and so on. We’re on good terms but i want to be more than friends more than anything. I want someone to care about. Someone to give my all for again. I want to make her the happiest girl on earth. I NEED a way to convince her mind that im ok now. Now may i remind you that i havent talked about our relationship with her in about 2 months, so its been quiet lately. Please help. Ive been to therapists, talked with my parents, and just about everyone else. Its impossible to let go when you would die for this person. I want to show her that i can do this. She means the world to me.

Tags: 4 months, alot, amp, anniversary, anti depressants, broken bones, ex girlfriend, first thing in the morning, girlfriend, girls, head over heals, little girl, love, mistake, parents, periods, Real Reason, relationship, ski accident, young lust

My wife and I have been married for almost 8 yrs and have a beautiful 3yr old little girl who we both love like nothing else. I love my wife immensely I don’t know how I will even manage living without her. She hasn’t actually said she wants a divorce but she says she doesn’t have the same feelings about me as she used to basically she loves me but isn’t in love with me. I just drove over 20 hrs to see her thinking everything was okay after not seeing her for 3 mos because she is in the military and I tried to become intimate with her and she was unresponsive and started crying and told me she didn’t want to be "with" me. She does want to try and work things out and save the marriage but things are difficult since she is stationed far away and counseling would be almost impossible. I want her to be happy but I don’t want to lose her. It wouldn’t be so bad if we didn’t have our daughter to worry about. I could at least deal with it a little better. I dunno let me know what you all think. We are going to spend this weekend trying to work it out but I would like some help. Thanks and please no stupid vindictive answers like take her for all she’s got because that’s not my style. I love her.

Tags: counseling, divorce, feelings, little girl, love, marriage, quot