diamondcity34 Posted on Jun 12, 2010 9:41 AM

I am writing today because I am the victium of a DL brotha(Down Low), I am at the point now where i am lost and I feeling i’m crazy..well at least me is making me feel that way..We have been married for 3 and half years now..and we have 2 kids together..my husband is in the national guard and currently is serving his second term in Iraq. I served in the military as well but got out to jet married and have a family. I should have known something was up when everytime i would cheat on him when we were dating..he always took me back and said that he loved me soo much and couldnt see me not being in his life..we were high school sweethearts, forgot to mention..anyways when i was stationed in germany which was his first tour in Iraq we were suppose to get married since then..but for some reason i didnt feel right about the situation and i turned him down..i could never put my finger on it as of what it was..anyways that was my last tour and i got out of the military..came back home and he would always push the issue of us getting married..so then we just got married with the justice of peace..honestly i was pressured to marry him by family members and all…so i did it…his mother never even came!!!, said that she had to work!!..wow, A MOTHER KNOWS HER CHILD..but it still never dawned on me..anyways a couple months later i was preganant with his first my second child!, while i was preganant he neva showed no affection..and so i fussed and fussed on the issue and moved out and went my own way..got me an apartment and all…

Anyways ima skip some things cause i will be typing forever..My husband is currently on a tour in Iraq at the moment and I heard him having sex with another guy on the phone..my heart dropped, I was trembling, shaking and all..shocked out this world..I kept on listening and he was telling this guy that he loved him..and the guy was screaming his first name!!!..So of course I started screaming and going off on him..and he never said a word..I hung up on him and he never called back til 2 days later!…during that time, i was lost..my world had just came down right there in my face..He finally called back and said look i know that you heard things but jus ignore it!!!..now u know if i coulda stick my hand throu that phone..lets jus say it wouldnt be nice!..Anways through all this yes he has desires of being with me..he told me he felt that way since high school..its like i have soo many questions and he’ll tell me little things like yeah i have been sleeping with men..then turn around and say he lied!!, He constantly does things like that to me…and its breaking my heart..he dont even tell me he loves me anymore..we only had sex twice before he left..he shows me no affection and says when he gets back that he will work on that..??my take on that is how do you have to work on something that is natural when u love someone!!…His ring he doesnt even wear his ring…I asked him if he had it and he said yes and when i asked him to see it, he refused to show it to me!!!…and then the next day he apologized and showed me a ring that is not even the same ring that i purchased for him!!!..crushed me again…he is always going to the gym at 10:30pm!!im like wth!!..he sleeps with his back faced me!!..He doesnt even ask about the kids!, He lies, and keeps secrets..

*And he laughs like its amusing to him!, and brushes me off…The killing part of it all is that he is sleeping with his roomate!!…so he is living the life out there..wrk once a week…and watch dvd’s all day..he never sleeps and i dont understand that..I ask him to show me his d**k and refuses..and when he does it on the hard!!! and all shiny!!! wth!!…i ask him why is that like that..and he makes up lies and i see it in his face that he is lieing!!! It’s like when we talk its like he twists it on me!, like i can ask him well do you want a divorce and he tells me well thats what you want so do it..i dont want it but if thats what you want then thats on you!!, like he does things like that!! and laughs like its funni!!..*

HELP ME WHAT AM I TO DO!!??

Tags: affection, apartment, dl, family members, germany, half years, having sex, heart, high school sweethearts, iraq, justice of peace, Lost, national guard, neva, Reason, second term, Typing, Wow

ok i just need some advise i just recently lost my ex fiancai to my cousin wich when he comes back from virginia beach his ass is getting stomped into the concrete becuase i know he’s just useing her for a fact. but i need soem advise on how to switch her attention towards me without me seeming to pushy. anyone have any tips?

Tags: becuase, cousin, ex girlfriend, Lost, virginia beach, Wich

I broke up with my boyfriend because he slapped me, called me stupid, and also called me a derogatory name.

Since then he has been going out with my former best friend, and he sends me pictures of them kissing.

He also started a rumor at school that I had chlamydia, and he broke up with me and that is why. He encouraged everybody to tease me about it, especially the black girls who were especially cruel.

Last night me and my new best friend were in my bedroom and my ex-BF snuck into my parent’s house (he knows where the spare key is and he knows the alarm code – I told him when we were dating). He told my new best friend to ‘get lost’ or he would tell the whole school she was a lesbian, so she got scared and left.

When we were alone he said he had done all those mean things because he loved me and could not live without me, and he had to do whatever it took to get me back. He also said he would keep doing those things until I got back with him. He said he did not even like my former best friend, and that he would break up with her the minute we got back together.

So, I got back together with him. What other choice did I have? Now I feel like he forced me to be his girlfriend, and I am so hurt I don’t think I can love him again even though he says he loves me.

What would you do if you were in my situation?

Tags: bf, black girls, chlamydia, derogatory name, girlfriend, Lost, love, new best friend, spare key, Tease

She fucking hates me now and she won’t talk to me at all. I mentally lost it for a while. We are both going to college about 2500 miles away, and i’m training to become a Marine. She has blocked me on skype, facebook, and all forms of communication. I love this girl and i’ll do absolutely anything to get her back. What should i do?

Tags: Communication, facebook, forms of communication, Fucking, going to college, Lost, love

For the past year. Things have been really rough. I lost my job and got another a month later for less money. In November i have been going to school and working 2nd shift keeping me out of the house alot. My wife who has two beautiful daughters who i raised as my own is considering a divorce in June. She says the last past year i have not been myself she says i have been mean and angry alot. At times i have been verbal abusive to her. I know my sins regret them and feel shame on myself and the things i have said. It has not been easy on me and i handled the stress terribly. I told her not to think of the bad things but to look at the whole picture and the 7 years we had together. I do love her, and I am man enough to see my faults. She says she doesnt love me anymore and wants her space. She has been staying at a friends house over the weekends. She says no matter what she does it wasnt a easy decision. She says she is miserable and feels unloved. I tell her everyday that i love her. I want to be and i know i can be a better man and a better husband than i have been. If i knew she was this unhappy i would of done something about it sooner. She says she is thinking about it but it hasnt changed her mind. I want to get her a mothers day card what should i say to show her i still love her and that im sorry for the pain? Can I save this marriage. If so how do i go about doing it?

Tags: better man, divorce, Faults, House Wife, job, Lost, love, marriage, money, mothers day card, shame, stress, unloved