I’ve been with my husband for 6 years (inlcuding dating). I’m in my early 20′s and so is my husband. I love him deeply but don’t know if I want to be here anymore. I met someone else last week and spent most of the week with them, hanging out all day and getting to know each other and eventually sleeping together.
I convinced myself to leave my husband (so I tried) and then I slept with him, came home and admitted it. Now my husband is considering taking me back.
But I don’t know if I want to work things out. I’ve developed feelings for this other person and can see myself living a good life with him. But I’m afraid to hurt my husband again. I don’t deserve my husband after doing this to him and if I could do this to him, I mustn’t be "in love" with him. People tell me you can cheat and still love your partner, but how can you. How can you hurt that person so much? I don’t understand and I don’t want to stuff him around. What do I do?
I don’t want to continue on with this guy if I decide to stay and I’m not seeing him right now. I know I need to work out my shit, but what I guess I’m asking is does a cheater deserve another chance. My view is he deserves better than this, but on the other hand I don’t want to be a quitter (even though I did quit the second I decided to cheat).
Tags: 6 years, cheater, Dating, feelings, love quot, M 105, Met, quitter
So a little over a month ago me and my now ex-boyfriend were fighting and he broke up with me. He was being really mean to me and I was doing the same. I realized after that our fighting was dumb and I really love him, but he did not want to get back. Basically when he broke up with me he said he didn’t have feelings for me, and that you can’t just recreate the feelings he once had. Tomorrow me, my ex, and a bunch of friends are going to an amusement park for the day, is there any way I can make him "fall in love" with me again, were both seniors in high school and this is our last hoorah before the summer, i might not see him for a long time if we dont get back together due to different groups of friends. but how should i act toward him, i really really want him back 
Tags: amusement park, Ex Boyfriend, Fall In Love, feelings, hoorah, long time, love quot, seniors
My husband & i have been married for about 1 year & 6 months.Bt we have been together for 3 years. I got married when i was 17 & he was 20.Im 18 almost 19 now & he’s 21.We dont have children.And well i feel as if im not "in love" with him anymore.I love him & always will bt im not "in love" he’s been a good husband although before we got married he cheated on me so many times & he was abusive.& i thought i had gotten over that.But i haven’t.it still hurts what he did & i can’t trust him ive tried for over a year & i just can’t.& it has caused a lot of problems between me & him.He’s not abusive no more & hasn’t cheated bt when he promises me that he will never do that again i just dont believe him.& lately the sex is boring.i dnt even want to have sex with him at all.& also iv been talkn to someone new.He makes me feel so good inside.I can talk to him about anything.& i just dont have that with my husband.i have never considered him "my best friend" he is very controlsive & so i tend to do things behind his back.I dont want to hurt him if i do choose to leave him bt i dont want to regret it neither.Plz Help. idk if its just because im young & want to experience something new or if im just really not in love with my husband anymore.
Tags: 3 years, best friend, hasn, love quot, Promises, T Amp
My wife and I have just celebrated our 14th wedding anniversary on Nov-18th. we have been married since she was 18 and I was 22. We are now 34 and 38. We have 2 boys ages 7 and 12. She is a Nurse Anesthetist and is currently doing her residency. I guess it was right around our anniversary that i noticed something just wasn’t right. I asked her about it and she assured me it was nothing could explain and she said she would get over it. I decided to just drop it.Then that fateful day came when I had left the house for a little while and came back to find a letter that she was leaving and we needed to separate for a while. I freaked and immediately started calling her and texting to get her back home. I agreed we would go to counseling and after most of the afternoon she finally returned I helped her unpack and we talked, this is where I did what I always did and just blew her off and never really listened to what was happening. She told me that I never help around the house with laundry and dishes and with kids. While she works 65+ hrs a week. I am a local truck driver and work about 45 to 50 hrs a week. We never went to counseling and I said I would change and start helping and never realized I was still being the same old me and nothing had changed. She noticed and we fought again. I finally ended up leaving this time and realized that night I screwed up bad. I called her and said I was sorry, and I was coming home to make things work. She said thank you for trying. I came home the next day which was a last Friday and I washed all of clothes in the laundry room and put them away, I washed the dishes and put them away, their was also clean dishes in the dishwasher that I put away, I cleaned up the kitchen and had the boys squared away before she got home around 6pm. We talked for several hours when she got home and I assured her I changed and I really listened to her and never raised my voice at her not even once. She told me it’s just something she feels and has felt this way for over a year! She said it was something she needs to work on. I assured her this was the "new" me and I am a changed man and I was sorry it took this long for me to realize what I was doing. I think we made love that night then I went shopping with her on Saturday and we made love again that night. we went to church on sunday (something we hadn’t done in many years). We just talked for a while telling each other that we loved one another and made love again. Monday I went to work and she texted me that afternoon saying that she would be late working, I told her no problem that I had to drive to McAllen Tx that night which was 9 hours away and I would ask my mom to come sit with the kids. I went home that afternoon and washed dishes and done laundry and fed the kids and made their lunches and laid their clothes out for the next morning. I then called her and brought her a hamburger up to her work because she was hungary. She was just getting off and so we ate and talked a little. She assured me she loved me and that she was working on her "Issues". I told her everything was done at home and I left to go get in my truck. Drove all night thinking about us and got to where I was going at about 5:30a and unloaded at 7a. Still no sleep worrying about us. I called her on the way back and we calmly talked and this is when she told me she loves me more than anything but she’s not "in love" with me, because of all the time I treated her wrong by walking on her. She said she sees that I have changed and she was very happy that we can talk and she felt better about telling me. She also said she wished I had done this a very long time ago and that she was here and willing to get rid of her feelings and move on, but she needs help from a someone. Tonight we talked again and I assured her that I am forever changed and how much I love her, and I would be the best Dad, Husband and Friend she could ask for. I explained how sorry I was for doing her the way I had done over the years and that she was the best wife anyone could ever ask for. We both broke down crying, and after a little while we finished agreeing we would fix this. A little later we ended up making love again from kissing. This time it was very passionate. I don’t want to loose her and she don’t want us to end either she has an appointment with counselor on Monday and I do on the 22nd of December. I know she has anger about the past she needs to deal with and I am doing my very best still. She just don’t know how. I told her tonight that was done kissing up and I was just going to be the old me just an "updated" version. The guy she fell in love with before. I don’t want to drive her away by trying to hard. I am worried sick. Does anyone out there see her and us getting better? What could I do to help her fall in love with me again? I have a company Christmas Party Saturday night, she is very excited about that and so am I. What could I do to on this night to help re-spar
Tags: 14th wedding anniversary, 6pm, boys ages, clothes, coming home, counseling, dishes, dishwasher, fateful day, last friday, laundry room, leaving this time, love quot, nurse anesthetist
I broke up with him because I just felt like he didn’t want to be bothered. I wasn’t sure if I should have but idk. When I brought this up to him (when I was only on the verge of breaking up with him) he said he didnt mean to act that way and i know he had priorities that should always come before a girl. I honestly can understand where he is coming from because I would never put a boy first on my list unless he was dying or we were "in love" or something but at least I gave him some of my time.
After I broke up with him my friend called him and asked him all types of stuff about our break up. (I know it wasnt very mature of me to have her do that but I knew he would tell her.) So anyways this is how the converstaion went:
My friend: What happened with you and?
Him: She dumped me. (He said it quick and kind of with attitude)
My friend: Why?
-Idk. I didnt even bother to ask. I was tired.
-Oh do you think yall are gonna get back together this summer?
-Idk. Maybe. No. I dont have enough time for gf. I have (listed all of his activities and then was like…) Im plannin on messin around anyways.(Okay idk if he was saying this because he was angry or what but it tore me up!)
-What about when school starts again?
-yea. maybe. idk. How do u know I wont go into the year with a gf already?! (He was rude about it. 4real!)
(then she pops the question)
-Do you still like her?
(Okay i coulda swore he said no. But she claims he said yeah. I doubt it. and that was the end of the conversation)
First I was convinced that I didnt need him but after sitting back and taking a look back at everything that happened (no im not saying that i need him) I realize how childish I was. Plus I didnt even know him that well. Okay I know thats not the best way to start a relationship but we met in school like everyone else I’ve ever dated. I just didnt know him that well to expect so much out of him (like deep conversations about life, affection, and a whole lotta stuff that i wasnt gonna get right off the bat). But thats the thing for some strange, unknown reason I still like him. He told me the things he was going through at home and pretty much with his life and honestly I wanted to cry for him. It was so sad. And sometimes I sit and think maybe he was just going through alot and wasnt really worried about a gf..maybe it was just his hormones or something kickin in. Or maybe he just didnt trust me enough to open up to me, which is also understandable. I dont plan on goin back out with him or anything but i dont want him dating anyone…esp someone i know. Is that weird? Maybe it’s just because I feel like the guys that have tried to tlk to me are not of my interest u know? they dont fit me. But yeah could you please tell me somethin.
Tags: affection, attitude, Break Up, conversations, converstaion, gf, idk, lotta stuff, love quot, Priorities, relationship, verge
