me and my husband have been together for 9 years now and he told me the other day he wants to be with someone else that is 9 yearsw younger than him we do have 5 kids total i am only 25 and he is 29 we are staying in the same house still and he stays over at her parents house until 5am every morning and he says it is not about sex he cames home to me every day and that is how he wants it he still wants sex with me every day also i give it to him cause i think he will fall back in love with me he says its not you its me i love you but i am not in love with you i dont want a divorce cause that is 200 per child theses are just the things he says to me he is willing to go to marriage counseling just 1 time and i am willing to go to make my marriage work but is it really worth it if this is how it is going to be i love him so much and it is hurting me so bad cause he comes home and holds me and tells me he loves me and still makes me feel good and i allow that please help i need advice

Tags: Cheating, divorce cause, love, marriage, marriage counseling, marriage work, parents, theses

My husband and I are trying to stay together, there’s been no cheating and there’s still love, and we have a 9 month old baby. We’ve just been arguing so much and I don’t know how we’ll get along in the future. We’ve been to counseling and are going to go back. I read all the horror stories of failed marriages on here, but I’m wondering if anyone has a story of a saved marriage; I need some inspiration!
it’s naive to think trying counseling with a different counselor is a waste of money when there is a baby involved. and we’re aware a marriage takes work, kinda obvious from my question we’re working at it.

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My ex dumped me a couple of weeks ago i am so in love with her that i did the stupid mistake of bothering her about it for about a week. Just 3 days ago she said she loved me and wanted me back but she needed time still and i got excited and asked for her back and it made her really mad and she blew up and told me it was over forever because she needed to focus on school and because she was tired of my jealousy problems since she dumped me over a week ago i have found a way not to control my jealousy but how i react to it. And i want my girl back and am ready to make her happy but she says its over for good. I have been talking to alot of friends including an ex girlfriend of mine that went through the same situation with me and they all say that if i quit talking to her for good she will start to miss me and want me back. My ex said thats exactly what happened to her and thinks its what is going on here. Can anyone please help and tell me a good way to get her back? i love this girl so much and just want to make her happy and love her like never before. Im just really scarred that since she told me its over for good that it really is also valentines day is coming up soon and i know she loves panda bears and i was going to send her one with a rose and spray it with her favorite cologne of mine. Is this a bad idea? im not trying to bribe her back its just i haven’t talked to her and wont but i want her to know i still care and want her back. Please help

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I just found out that I’m pregnant and my boyfriend wants me to get the abortion pill and terminate the pregnancy. His reasoning is good, he knows we’re not ready, I’m not finished with college and he is about to go back to school next semester. He also doesn’t want to damage our relationship, he says that’s what happened with his ex wife, their relationship was torn apart because of the baby and she ultimately cheated on him. I know that I’m different though and we’re different, i know we can make it work if we try and stay honest with each other about how we’re feeling.

As you may have figured out, he already has a 7 month old son with his ex wife and is currently in and out of court trying to get full custody. He is a very good father and very responsible. He has a steady job and makes more money than most people several years older than himself. I know we could do it.

I’m not sure I could live with myself after getting an abortion. I’m 5 weeks along, did you know the baby already has a heartbeat at 5 weeks!? I’m generally pro choice but I’m not sure I could personally make that decision. I’m worried about medical complications, which I know are rare with the pill, but knowing my luck with medical procedures…

I’m also concerned with the emotional effects. He doesn’t want a baby to ruin our relationship but I know if I abort the pregnancy it’s going to ruin everything even faster. I know myself and I know I’m going to blame him and begin to resent him. I know this because it’s already happening. I’m already beginning to feel hostile towards him because I’m feeling like I have no choice in the matter, he decided what was best and that was it, I’m feeling forced and it’s making me pull away from him and distance myself emotionally which is the last thing I need to be doing at a time like this.

I hate that I feel this way about him right now because I love him more than anyone in the world and more than I’ve ever loved anyone. I know he’s trying to be supportive and I know he’s not purposfully trying to force me to do anything but what with the hormones raging, that’s how I’m feeling.

I can’t just get rid of the baby. We knew this could happen and I don’t feel like we can just take the easy way out and move on with our lives like nothing happened. Now I just need to get him on board. If worst comes to worst I can be a single mom, I’m not gonna let him force me to get an abortion if I don’t want it, but I really want him to want this baby and stay with me and be a family. So my question is, how do I convince him that this is the best decision for me?
By the way, adoption is NOT an option

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i belong to orthodox Christian family.. i was 15 yr old when i met this guy.. he was a SMS frnd.. we met just once and exchanged our love for each other.. a month later, i learnt tat he was cheating on me.. i stopped calling him and i was surprised he never called me back.. fr another month..! i was going crazy..! i sent an angry e mail to the girl with whom he had a secret relationship.. that made him really wild and he yelled at me horribly and we never spoke fr 2 years.

he came in again.. this tym thro a social networking site..! i was so stupid i fell fr him again.. now, i would lik to tell yu sumtin abt him before yu can judge anything,
he lied to me that he was actually in frndshp wid tat girl and i insulted him by yelling at her.. so tat is y he had let me go fr 2 yrs..!
from then, we whr in stable relationship for 3.5 yrs.! all these yrs, he told me his father demanded him to stop dating a christian girl(he is a telugu brahmin.. who smokes, drinks, eats non veg.. yet his father calls him self a typical orthodox brahmin.!! how awesome.!!) or else he would stop him from going to college.. and he chose to stop college than to stop loving me.. how swt!( that was a big fat lie ppl..! only now i found out he hasnt even cleared his +2 exams..!

i feel so bad coz he used to blame me and literally cry at times whn i fight wid him saying he gave up his education fr mysake and i wouldnt understand his love…

i had fought wid him a 1000 tyms.. all because of his lies… stupid lies.. he says he lies to make me feel better… that doesnt make me feel better., whn i find out it was a lie, it makes me feel awkward..!

he was so possessive and i had to end up having no frnds as he always kept complaining abt them.. i love to hang out.. he hates going out..! i gave up that too..! i love to go on a lng ride by bus.. he hates bus..! he hates going to de beach.. i loved beach.. abv all, i stopped reading bible because it kept waring me not to get yolked with a unbeliever.. i stopped praying coz i wanted to hide frm god.. i stopped taking communion because i was with him as how man and wife would be.. i spent all my pocket money on this lavish jerk..!

i believed him so much.. he used to do anything fr me… he even cut his veins and took mouthful of dirty mud to make me talk to him(whn i was mad at him)

recently, he says he has lost his love fr me.. and tat he feels i am nothing more than headache to him.. he yells at me almost all the tym.. its lik im talkin to a possessed man.. this is how his SMS are exactly lik.."honey, i love you tons"… and the nxt SMS if it takes a few mins to reply, "but yu know wot? yu are a bitch.. i dont trust yu anymore.. who are yu sleeping with now??"

one day, i was tired of a week long fight which got me really really depressed.. to get myslf distracted, i went to visit a old high skl frnd of mine whom i had met fr the last time during our farewell.. he walked in straigt gave him one big blow on his face and dragged me by throat..! i was so humiliated..

he lies, he hurts… he cheats.. and calls me unfaithful..! i cant stand him..! at the same time, i cant get this one out of my mind.. he is such a disease..!!

guys., pl give me sum nice adivce to throw this junk out of my lyf..! i dont wanna get married to a looser..!

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