I was with a girl for about 4 years. Our "seperation" was hardly amicable, I wanted to be with her, and was willing to work on somethings that were in my control, that is. She couldn’t decide whether she was willing to work or not, and eventually she decided to be done. The ending wasn’t on good terms, and we haven’t spoken in about a month. This was the second try, the first time she was cheating, and when she finally split with the other guy, I wanted to try it again, and finally she decided to give it try, but I could tell it wasn’t the same.

This time, the breakup wasn’t as hard for me, I was almost glad to be done, and for a couple of weeks or so, it was super easy and almost relaxing not to feel "love" anymore, but recently I’ve started to notice that I apparantely am not over her yet…

I’ve been trying to talk myself into moving away, meeting new people etc, in an attempt to move on and get away from the memories. However I’m noticing that a lot of things are popping up that remind me of her, EVERYwhere I go, from a song, to an advertisement on TV, etc. I realize that its not that uncommon, but…

Is it better to try and escape this situation by ignoring it and hoping with time it heals, or is it better to just deal with the memories?

Tags: advertisement, love, love quot, memories, seperation

It’s easy to fall into routines and habits in relationships where we all end up taking what we have for granted. We simply expect the other person to be there until one day the relationship comes crumbling down around you. Fortunately learning how to get love back is easier than most people believe.

The problem with most ‘how to win love back’ tactics is that they don’t take into consideration the primary differences between the way men and women think. Women will try very hard to make their man understand how much they love him and need him, while men view actions as speaking louder than any words you can say.

If you’re serious about learning how to win love back, then you’ll need to spend a bit of time removing the words from your relationship’s memories and taking a look at what your actions were saying.

Most women can think of times when they were trying hard to tell their man that they love him and want him to stay. You know the words you said, but what did your actions say? To a man, you would have been showing him how upset you were and how hurt you were. In his mind, he would have been thinking that he’s the cause of all your misery, so you’d be better off if he just broke up with you.  This means all your reassurances of how much you love him actually pushed him away!

Think about all the times where you both argued and got angry. Your words might have been trying to make him see reason and understand your point of view, but your actions were telling him something very different. Your man wouldn’t have heard the words you shouted at him. He would only have seen a very unhappy woman who really wasn’t happy with the man before her. His mind would instantly have thought he was the cause of your misery and he’s believe it’s easier to break up with you rather than keep making you so unhappy. The same thing is true if you give him the silent treatment.

When you’re learning how to get love back, you have to realize that your actions will speak far louder than any words you can say. Your partner wants you to be happy. He also wants to believe you’re happy when you’re spending time with him. The best possible way to show him that he’s the right man for you is to go out and work on your own self-confidence levels.

When you feel happy within yourself and you’re confident and brimming with life, you’re irresistible to the man who fell in love with you. After all, when the relationship was still new and exciting, you were both bubbly and happy and pleased to spend time with each other. This is the version of you your partner fell in love with.

Spend some time working on things that make you happy. Hang out with friends or take a walk to clear your unhappy thoughts. Watch a fun movie and then suggest that you catch up with your man over a friendly cup of coffee. Your actions will show that you’re a more pleasant person to be with and his feelings will start to re-kindle as though by magic.

Tags: 100 Women, love, memories, relationship, relationships, T Amp

weve been together for 2 years and were engaged to get married, for about a year. im 20 and shes 18 but it felt sooo right. i know we were young but we wur soulmates. i went to jail for 5 months and come home to find her moved out of my apartment and talking to a new guy. we still live about 2 miles apart and we still talk but it hurts and weve become strangers and she acts like we havent had a history. ive tried to patch things up but i dont think its working. i still see her around town and it kills me. i try not to call her but its REALLY tough. i want to move to NC to try and get away from all the memories. is it a good idea? or am i making a big mistake? we still deeply love eachother and shes told me on many occasions. she said shes confused and shes made me confused. do we still have a chance? am i making a big mistake moving from orlando to north carolina? PLEASE help me…

Tags: 5 months, Acts, apartment, big mistake, broken heart, Heart Love, Home Amp, memories, north carolina, occasions, soulmates, Wur

arent these sad?

I went to a party,
And remembered what you said.
You told me not to drink, Mom
So I had a sprite instead.
Now I’m lying on the pavement,
And I hear the policeman say,
The kid that caused this wreck was drunk,
Mom, his voice seems far away.
Tell sister not to be afraid, Mom
Tell daddy to be brave,
And when I go to heaven,
Put Daddy’s Girl on my grave.
My breath is getting shorter, Mom
I’m getting really scared.
These are my final moments,
And I’m so unprepared.
I wish that you could hold me Mom,
As I lie here and die.
I wish that I could say,
"I love you, Mom!"
So I love you and good-bye… |||
here is another::
Near to the door
he paused to stand
as he took his class ring
off her hand
all who were watching
did not speak as a silent tear
ran down his cheek
and through his mind
the memories ran
of the moments they walked
and ran in the sand hand and hand
but now her eyes were so terrible cold
for he would never again
have her to hold
they watched in silence
as he bent near
and whispered the words..
"I LOVE YOU" in her ear
he touched her face and started to cry
as he put on his ring and wanted to die
and just then the wind began to blow
as they lowered her casket
into the snow….
this is what happens
to man alive…..
when friends let friends….
drink and drive.
if you have any other poems that are sad or just ones that you like please put them in your answer! thanks for reading!!!!

Tags: casket, cheek, drunk mom, good bye, heaven, memories, pavement, poems, policeman, sad poems, silence, sprite

My ex-boyfriend and i were dating for 5 months. It was my first serious relationship .He broke up with me a week before my birthday. Which was about two months ago. We go to the same church and he didn’t show up after that until two weeks ago. I saw him and it brought back memories. I still have feelings for him, even though I have had a boyfriend between when we broke and now. And he probably doesn’t have the same feelings for me anymore. How do I get over him?

Tags: 5 months, Ex Boyfriend, feelings, memories, serious relationship