Last night I had dream with an Ex-boyfriend I used to have. This Ex is getting married in reality and that was what the dream was about. Well it started that I was outside the house and he came to my house and said to me please can you follow me we need to talk. So I followed him and we ended up by the beach. Well I’m not sure if it was the beach, but we were walking on sand and he told me I don’t know what to do. I am confused I love you but I have commitments that I have to complete with her. I wish it was easier. He then sat down on a white beach chair and covered his face. I followed him and sat on his lap and all I said to him was what can I do? Whatever you decide I will be here for you. Come back to me. He looked up at me at this point and we kissed on the white plastic beach chair… Then the dream jumped and to the actual wedding and it was in somebody’s house not a church and I came in late so he was already up by the priest in a white tuxedo. Everything he wore was white even the tie and shoes. In she came then with a bright but dark blue/green aqua wedding dress. I don’t remember who was next to me but I remember saying oh my god! Who wears blue as a wedding dress. It jumped once again and the ceremony had ended and she went to the car. I was about to leave when someone came up and whispered in my ear to meet them in the bathroom. In the bathroom I remember thinking it was so clean. And he was talking I couldn’t make out everything he said but I remember him saying to me that when we had met on the beach he was already married by the court. And that he will do everything in his power to get out of this in a month. Then he said do you trust me? And I woke up all confused and alarmed.

I haven’t talking to him in 6 months since we broke up. He immediately got into a relationship with his ex before me that I know very well and they are engaged to be married this year. But I thought I was over him I have a new boyfriend and would just like to know what does all this mean? Especially the blue dress it is what stood out the most. I have never had a dream so vivid and where i remember it the next day.

Tags: aqua, beach chair, Blue Dress, commitments, dark blue, Ex Boyfriend, House Church, love, Met, new boyfriend, relationship, Sat, shoes, wedding dress, white beach, White Face, White Tuxedo

I’ve been talking to this guy about 2 months. We don’t get to see each other often, but when we get to spend time alone we make out. He gets in touch with me at least 4x a week, sometimes every day. He’s been trying to set up this work opportunity so we can spend more time together…

However, two days ago (sunday) we met up (spur of the moment). We can’t be seen together in public (we are both married, but in our culture, sadly there is no divorce, it’s not even an option because it’s not legal. But we both know eachothers partner and we know we’re both lost and stuck in loveless forced relationships. I hadn’t even been kissed in almost 3 years until I fell for this guy!? Aside from that, we also work in the same industry, sometimes we work together, but never one-on-one, so we can’t be seen together alone outside work)

So if at this point you can still be non-judgemental please read on. We drove around in his car. He kissed me everytime we’re waiting for a green light. We just didn’t know where to go, but he wanted to spend more time with me, so he suggested we check in somewhere so we can "bond". I said no!

So, eventually we found a little hole in the wall type of place where it was dark and there was nobody. We talked for several hours. it was a really great night. He was a real gentleman (opened my door, guided me in with his hand around the waste, he ordered for me, paid the bill). Then he brought me home. But then he didn’t get in touch with me the next day? I just text him late in the evening to say I forgot to thank him for taking me out on the date. He replied, anything for you.. But that night I couldn’t sleep. I felt it was going into a direction I wasn’t comfortable with. I was still offended and embarrased that he might think of me that way. I’m not interested being a FWB.

But the day after that (earlier today) he did text me. He asked how I am and let me know what he was up to the rest of the day. I told him somethings bugging me and I had to be honest with him. He said I can call him when I can. So I called after 30mins and told him that I was a little offended when he asked me if I wanted to check in.

He said he was really sorry I took it that way, that he wasn’t trying to force me to sleep with him. But because on a sunday everything is closed and we can’t go anywhere public (or our homes) and he wanted to talk to me and spend quality time with me outside the car it would be more comfortable being somewhere safe and secluded… Then he got so ashamed of making me feel that way, so he got off the phone. He sent a text 2 mins later that he was really sorry again and he’s so embarrased.

I text him back after 20mins that I just wanted to clarify that I was uncomfortable with that and I don’t want things to get weird because of it, that I have said things too that may have lead him on, and I should apologize for the miscommunication. I ended the text by saying that I enjoy our bonding time, I love spending time with him and I don’t want to ruin something good by rushing into something crazy without thinking… He didn’t respond anymore..

I know guys may feel defeated when reprimanded for something they did wrong, despite making up for it already with a great date (I KNOW! I should have cut him some slack and just appreciated the rest of the night that he made up for it all, I screwed up there) But now what? Does he just need "space"? What should I expect next?

Did I ruin everything by being unappreciative??? I hate the waiting game and it’s driving me nuts. I know my text said enough (right?) and I shouldn’t force the issue, but what should I do because I really really like him!?..

Tags: 3 years, Direction, divorce, fwb, gentleman, hole in the wall, little hole in the wall, Lost, loveless, Met, Partner, relationships, rest of the day, sleep, work opportunity

i met this lad we got on very well i told him i liked him and he said he wasnt ready for anything as his ex hurt him and he was messed up by what happened. it took me a couple of months but im pretty sure i began to gain his trust, we enjoyed chatting together so much so he would text me everyday to see how i was, what i was up to etc
He had a couple of times when i think he felt unsure and acted a little daft but i would just let him get on with it and he would apologise and we would be ok again.
I never pushed the situation i offered on a few occasions to leave him alone but he told me he didnt want me to.
Then something happened and i felt it best to leave him alone i explained why and said i still cared for him very much, deep down i think i hurt him but he isnt one to admit it,his actions kind of said it all.
He deleted me as a friend on a chat room we went on, he had an argument over nothing with me pointing out things i had done which he referred to as odd, i wrote him a note to say sorry for hurting/annoying him but he didnt respond, when we argued he said he was deleting my number and i told him to crack on, he was quite nasty to me really.
I feel terrible he has spoken by text to me recently i text first and when i asked for another chance he made out he had a girlfriend im not sure if i believe him or not i guess part of me wnats to believe he hasnt.
my gut feeling is that i upset him when i decided to leave him alone when he asked me not to, and now he thinks im as bad as his ex, because otherwise i have no idea what i have done.

Tags: chat room, Crack, daft, girlfriend, Guess, gut feeling, lad, Met, Nasty, occasions, Odd

Me and this girl have liked each other for ages now, she would always comment on my pics, and we would sometimes flirt but we never spoke really or met up, even though we known each other since school and were both 20 now.
She even asked me out at one point but I was like nah, was nervous I guess but we finally met up and she was really excited about it, then we started seing each other but never made it official, we would make out for hours on end and I’d treat her like a princess, she was open to me about how she been cheated numerous times in past, even abused and how she just hates being in love. So she clearly been hurt and its like she giving up or something, she also has sevre anxitey… I just wanted to hold her and take her problems away and I told her that.
After a while though she gets distant, saying how nice it would be if we could work out, or how I’m to good for her like she feels she ain’t worth me?
Next thing I know she is saying she just don’t want anything serious with anyone, and told me not to get attacthed and 3 days after her being beside me, she jumps in relationship with some 30 year old lmao? which that screams to me she is trying to run away from me or something, she even rang me to talk about it, saying how me and her are just different people, and she needs someone that can control her and lived a life like hers???
My mate asked her what happened and she said were just different people its ashame. And were not different people we have like everything in common, and when she was with me she was so lovley and cute around me like I bought out best in her, and she has liked me for ages and so have I, and I don’t understand why she just, switched off on me. The only explaination I can come up with is, she is scared to get close to me, she goes of with some random guy coz with him there is no dissapointments.
Well fast forward a month of zero contact, they break up with her saying to her friends it just didn’t feel right, maybe coz of me?
They broke up on friday and I msg her on fb on monday just to see if she would talk to me…simply saying "Ello you alright x" and she goes "Yeah why wouldn’t I be? x"…I didn’t reply till next day, and that next day she has a status about how she couldn’t sleep, maybe coz of me? Anyway I write back "I dunno, you just come to mind and wanted to see how my fave girl was doing x" and she is like "ohh lol, yeah not to bad thx you x"…then she got sent home from work coz she had a migraine or something, and I just write to her "k nice to hear hun, n if you wanna hang out sometime it be nice x"…and ain’t heard nothing yet. even though she was on fb, and at the end of the night she posted this video to her wall – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BHkuFYZgH… – which explains a lot about the situation…I mean the break up with her not feeling right, her not being able to sleep, being sent home from work coz of migraine and that video, is any of that to do with me? is she afraid to get close to me?…or has she just switched off on me all of a sudden and even after all this time liking me, she just ain’t intrested anymore?

Tags: ashame, Break, Contact, Control, coz, dissapointments, explaination, Friends, Guess, lmao, love, Mate, Met, People, princess, random guy, relationship

-i had a boyfriend for 2 years
-we were very happy, like perfect for eachother. our moms were best friends, our familes hung out together and everything…it was perfect
-i met this guy, he was diffrent. i really started liking him. my bf had a lot of trust in me and wasnt the jealous guy to begin with
-i go to the movies with this new guy…he kissed me.
-i started making up excuses for why me and my bf "were not good for eachother anymore"
-i DID tell my bf about the kiss. he said that he still loved me and wanted for me to be happy, so he let me make up my mind
-i ended up breaking up with my boyfriend and 2 days later getting with this new guy.
_things were great for a while. then we went back to school..my new bf changed schools, to my school so that we could be together. the first day was horrible. i kept seeing my ex and i just wanted him so much! i didnt want to hug my new bf :/

i love my ex…and i want to be with hiim..but i have no idea how to end it…HELP!!!! PLEASEEEE
also, my ex just told me he still loves me. today he told me.

Tags: Back To School, best friends, bf, jealous guy, kiss, Met, moms, New Love, quot